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Why is crazy attractive?

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Contrary to popular belief Humans are generally not satisfied with perfection because it is boring

There always has to be some struggle or pain we strive for its why people are addicted to gambling / alcohol / drugs etc

Theres excitement and thrill in something we do not fully understand ..... see crypto as a great example

Its effectively nothing yet people on scale are fascinated by it as they can project all their strange ideas and fantasies onto it

Personally when it comes to women I am not particularly interested in the psychotic types as I know they will bring too much chaos into my life

I dated one for 6 months in 2023 - never again
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Essentially it comes down to the psychology of intermittent reinforcement. Gambling hooks people the same way. With a crazy girl (who may be be wild and uninhibited in bed, giving you that endorphin high and validation high in the moment......)

Then you chase that rush through alot of loss and hell trying to get it again. But the pattern is unpredictable, hence intermittent reinforcement, and it is a powerful draw.

Combine that intermittent reinforcement wth a man's desire to be a hero, which guys have on a subconscious level, throw in the investment a man makes in the mystery of the malstrom that these women create, and guess what?

You are in over your head very quickly.
 

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Personally when it comes to women I am not particularly interested in the psychotic types as I know they will bring too much chaos into my life

I dated one for 6 months in 2023 - never again
It only brings chaos if you take it personally, cause in reality, women have no power over you, you just fall in love and cave under pressure.
 

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It only brings chaos if you take it personally, cause in reality, women have no power over you, you just fall in love and cave under pressure.
Life is a delicate balance at all times bringing anything chaotic into it be that a woman or a friend , can absolutely cause issues for you and you'd be very naive to believe otherwise

I've just to cut a friend off because the chaos they were attempting to bring into my life was not healthy nor normal

The power Is not giving into random desires
 

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Crazy is attractive because she gives the illusion of loving you unconditionally. This is what every human wants on a core level. The love bombing stage simulates this.

Crazy is also attractive because we only notice the attractive crazy girls. Crazy is a repellent on an ugly chick. Crazy is attractive only if the girl is already attractive.
 

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Crazy is attractive because she gives the illusion of loving you unconditionally. This is what every human wants on a core level. The love bombing stage simulates this.

Crazy is also attractive because we only notice the attractive crazy girls. Crazy is a repellent on an ugly chick. Crazy is attractive only if the girl is already attractive.
Likewise, rabies is endearing if the puppy is cute enough.
 

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Life is a delicate balance at all times bringing anything chaotic into it be that a woman or a friend , can absolutely cause issues for you and you'd be very naive to believe otherwise

I've just to cut a friend off because the chaos they were attempting to bring into my life was not healthy nor normal

The power Is not giving into random desires
Brother, fvcking women is a need. All women bring some "chaos". The chaos they bring bothers you because you take it personally, all women bring some $hit to every man.

Life is stressful, but you just can't handle women because you fall in love and cave under pressure. How long have you been without fvcking a woman? You hand will grow hair. Stop taking women personally and use them to your benefit, but you're not ready for it still.

Crazy is attractive because she gives the illusion of loving you unconditionally. This is what every human wants on a core level. The love bombing stage simulates this.

Crazy is also attractive because we only notice the attractive crazy girls. Crazy is a repellent on an ugly chick. Crazy is attractive only if the girl is already attractive.
If you know all of this, why the fvck do you fall in love with her? You already know what's up, then why do you invest in her? $hit makes no sense.
 

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It only brings chaos if you take it personally, cause in reality, women have no power over you, you just fall in love and cave under pressure.
Nah, a crazy girl is still capable of wreaking havoc even when you keep it casual simply by association. I never fell for any crazy girls, never told any of them I loved them, kept things very casual, yet have all sorts of crazy stories to tell that complicated my life.

The craziest one accused me of fuhking her friend, threw an entire pan of lasagna out the back door, claimed she was going to drive off a bridge, then got hauled away to the crazy house for 36hrs all in the span of a few hours when her friend that she thought i was fuhking did a welfare check on her.

I got a lot of stories about crazy women I never cared deeply for.

From the reply you gave @Bingo-Player I sense you have never dated someone that was truly crazy(biplar, narcissistic, borderline, pscychopath, sociopath). A crazy woman is far more advanced and worse at playing games than your average emotional woman. Its not about how you handle it, taking it personal, love, or pressure. You don't handle these crazy women, one simply can't.

As I always tell you Pedrito, you have many more miles of life to travel. You haven't seen as much as you think you have.
 
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yet have all sorts of crazy stories to tell that complicated my life.
What power do they have over you? They got nothing. Everything they have is their mouth noises to provoke an emotional reaction, and that typically happens after you fvcking them.

The craziest one accused me of fuhking her friend, threw an entire pan of lasagna out the back door, claimed she was going to drive off a bridge, then got hauled away to the crazy house for 36hrs all in the span of a few hours.
That's all they can do, mouth noises. But men are so retarded that they start to engage in her craziness. Nobody is forcing anybody to be with them, if they get too crazy, you cut them off, that's it.

Men who deal with crazy, they typically have no other women with them, and can't tell them to fvck off because they have no abundance. Crazy girls are great in bed, but men fall for them and wanna save them. You handle a crazy girl by using them for great sex only, just like women use the betas for resources.
 

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What power do they have over you? They got nothing. Everything they have is their mouth noises to provoke an emotional reaction, and that typically happens after you fvcking them.


That's all they can do, mouth noises. But men are so retarded that they start to engage in her craziness. Nobody is forcing anybody to be with them, if they get too crazy, you cut them off, that's it.

Men who deal with crazy, they typically have no other women with them, and can't tell them to fvck off because they have no abundance. Crazy girls are great in bed, but men fall for them and wanna save them. You handle a crazy girl by using them for great sex only, just like women use the betas for resources.
Its not about having power, and it goes further than "mouth noises", its about inflicting chaos and stress into your life. The one I shared my story about called the cops on me and tried to implicate me in her drama. I stayed calm, didn't let her "mouth noises" suck me in, and told her to leave the minute she started in on me about fuhking her friend. Our relationship was strictly about sex, companionship, and fun. I did it exactly by what you described.

YOU DO NOT HANDLE CRAZY WOMEN.

Seek first to understand, then reply.
 

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The one I shared my story about called the cops on me and tried to implicate me in her drama. I stayed calm, didn't let her "mouth noises" suck me in, and told her to leave
I called the cops on one girl one time, she left and that was it. No chaos, just words. Did that affected your well being? Cause to me it was funny as $hit.

YOU DO NOT HANDLE CRAZY WOMEN.
Yes, you do with your d!ck, if not, she can pound sand, no drama, no chaos. Easy money
 

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Guys, I am pondering on this topic - why am I attracted to girls that are full of red flags and are often visibly displaying that they are damaged goods?

On a logical level, I know that it's not a good idea to mess up with those type of women. But maybe I'm pulled to the short-term idea of a passionate adventure?

Recently I've talked (chatted) to 2 crazy women. They openly admitted to me that they are insane (it was on a semi-anonymous website, so no big deal for them to talk about that). And I noticed that I had something like "an urge to save them". Again - on a logical level, I know that's unnecessary, nor they need that. But maybe that's connected to the reason I am attracted to them. You have probably heard about the empath-narcissist dynamic. Or maybe you have not, because this is mainly discussed by women, as they are the one who are on the side of "falling for the damaged person and trying to save them".

The thing is, I think I am decently integrated myself. I am very conscientious and aware. Maybe I have had some narcissistic tendencies but I am certainly not a deep dark triad type of a guy. So it's not a "like attracts like" type of a thing. I've dated 1 or 2 BPD's. And I certainly know I don't want to deal with that bs for more than a fling. Even if, now thinking about it, even a fling might be slippery, as these have crazy manipulation tactics and can find ways to lure you deeper into their webs.

Anyway. I am curious what you guys think about this topic. I believe some of you may offer good insights. Have you experienced some if this? Do you have an explanation? What are your thoughts?
Because crazy people, in general, give off a level of carefree vibe that you, and most people, don’t have. It’s not just women that give this off men do too which is usually attributed to the ‘bad boy’ type or whatever. This allows them to naturally draw people in regardless if the person they draw in is a desirable person or not.

Keep working on yourself and you will recognize signs of early crazy behavior like if she excess vapes, excess smokes weed, excess drinks energy drinks, eats terrible food, too political or not at all, and drinks alcohol.

Behavioral signs like this add up over time and you will recognize these behaviors quicker and attach them to that person’s personality. A lot of the red flags that apply to men apply to women as well. it’s not a bad thing to hold women to high standards so long as you meet them yourself.
 

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Crazy isn't attractive, most of the time the crazy chicks are also the hot ones and they use hot wild sex to trap guys because they know it's the only way they will put up with the craziness that goes along with it.

They also choose their victims very carefully and look for guys they can control and manipulate.
 
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