Online dating efficiency

[CaptFinnBad]

I'm 40 now. Come out of a longterm relationship, getting ready to get back out there.

Thinking about doing a bit of online dating. I've always done alright in the past using online so I have a rough idea what to expect, although that's going back a good few years!

I want to have a bit of fun this year after being in a relationship for so long.

I want to maximise efficiency of online. Plenty of opportunities to meet women in real life, but I'm figuring I may as well use online as a tool .

So looking at advice on crafting a good profile, what types of pictures work best, things to stick on the profile and what to leave out.

Is it better to have multiple accounts with different providers or stick to one platform?

Which are the better sites for free users. E.t.c.

Basically everything and anything in regards on maximising efficiency when using online.

Really not interested in negativity bashing online dating or anything depressing like that.

Looking to actually putting a little time and effort setting it all up just to get the best results I can.

So guys share your tips, advice, what gets you the best results..

 

[SW15]

The swipe apps are hyper efficient for the Top 5-10% of men on looks and dismal for nearly everyone else.

They can be effective but inefficient for some mid-tier men but it's more likely to be a dismal or unpleasant experience.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

The swipe apps are hyper efficient for the Top 5-10% of men on looks and dismal for nearly everyone else.

They can be effective but inefficient for some mid-tier men but it's more likely to be a dismal or unpleasant experience.

How do they work? I presume you can't send messages until someone swipes you?

If so do you get a notification of someone swipes on you, then you can just swipe them back and message them?

What's the best way to use them?

What are the best non swipe apps?

 

[SW15]

I might stay away from them or just keep them running in the background.

I would recommend that you focus on meeting women in real life. Running them in the background is likely to mess with your ability to evaluate your prospects well. It's something that seems plausible in theory but is more challenging in reality.

How do they work? I presume you can't send messages until someone swipes you?

It's necessary for people to right swipe on each other for someone to send the first message. It is likely that the man sends the first message.

This is a change from the website era of dating in the 2000s/early 2010s when anyone could send messages randomly.

If so do you get a notification of someone swipes on you, then you can just swipe them back and message?

If you have previously right swiped them, then they are one of your matches and you can send them a message.

If you haven't swiped on them before and they swiped right on you, you will need a premium level membership on most apps to see who has right swiped you. For most men, the least desirable women (usually fat and/or single moms) will be likely to be women who right swipe on him before he swipes on her.

What's the best way to use them?

Be 6'0"+ with big muscles and have good photos/videos. Preferably also a top level salary while being 6'0"+ with an elite physique and great pictures.

What are the best non swipe apps?

Mostly everything is swipe now. I think Match still allows messaging without a swipe, a nod to its pre-swipe app history.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I used Tinder It was great. Really, one doesn’t need much of a bio, other than don’t communicate that you are a psycho.
Don’t worry too much about photos. I used an iPhone selfie as my primary picture. Choose your Spotify tune with care. I choose aggressive music like Judas Priest ‘Ram it down’ and ‘Jawbreaker’
When you match, read her bio, IG & listen to her Spotify. You can then send a message that is tailored to them. When you start communicating with them, get them off Tinder and in to your text ASAP.
Set up a meet or date ASAP.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

How do they work? I presume you can't send messages until someone swipes you?

If so do you get a notification of someone swipes on you, then you can just swipe them back and message them?

What's the best way to use them?

What are the best non swipe apps?

If you swipe right on her & she also swipes right on you, Tinder will send you a delightful ring that will pump up your dopamine. You can then message her. Or she may message you. At least that’s how basic Tinder works.

 

[FlirtLife]

I used Tinder It was great. Really, one doesn’t need much of a bio, other than don’t communicate that you are a psycho.
Don’t worry too much about photos. I used an iPhone selfie as my primary picture.

Agreeing with the bio being ignored, but photos mattered for me. I had a beach photo that seemed to be very successful when I did well on Tinder. A few years after that, I got lazy and used boring indoor photos, and the drop off in response was dramatic.

 

[FlirtLife]

How do they work? I presume you can't send messages until someone swipes you?

If so do you get a notification of someone swipes on you, then you can just swipe them back and message them?

Right.

The most popular is Tinder. When someone swipes right on you, and then you swipe right on them, you get notified "It's a match!". Then you can start chatting with them. If they're online at the time, you might be chatting live with them, but often you're going back and forth at different times of the day.

My experience may differ from yours, but half of my matches were using very old photos. The photos were taken many pounds ago. If that situation bothers you, consider it practice dating.

 

[Solomon]

Bumble and Hinge work very well, focus on pics showing of your physique, hobbies, etc
Easy to funnel dates if you do it properly
Try to set Dates/meets up within 72 hours, you gotta strike while the iron is hot
IME do not waste effort with a woman who can't meet within 7 days, they tend to be time wasters looking for attention

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Agreeing with the bio being ignored, but photos mattered for me. I had a beach photo that seemed to be very successful when I did well on Tinder. A few years after that, I got lazy and used boring indoor photos, and the drop off in response was dramatic.

I used a variety of pictures. I never thought much about wearing a suit. I threw the pic in anyway. Obviously Brooke liked it.

 

[Solomon]

Also remember this is your competition online, don't be a weirdo

 

[The Duke]

Also remember this is your competition online, don't be a weirdo

Player ain't messing around. Thats some solid MODE- 1 ;-)