Calling a woman out

[Vanderdonck]

Now we see that this is also about saving face with a third party. Ah the power of ego.

Funny thing is even an impartial judge would see that the girl rejected him first.

The pretense for a date is romance, ergo acknowledging lack thereof is appropriate whether OP felt any or not.

If OP is trying to keep score than yes he was the rejected party.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Now we see that this is also about saving face with a third party. Ah the power of ego.

Funny thing is even an impartial judge would see that the girl rejected him first.

The pretense for a date is romance, ergo acknowledging lack thereof is appropriate whether OP felt any or not.

If OP is trying to keep score than yes he was the rejected party.

If we, as a third party, see his ego and insecurities,, wouldn’t the matchmaker, who is also a third party, see it as well?

The girl probably wanted to make things weird for everyone, but her social skills are higher than OPs.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If we, as a third party, see his ego and insecurities,, wouldn’t the matchmaker, who is also a third party, see it as well?

The girl probably wanted to make things weird for everyone, but her social skills are higher than OPs.

The matchmaker and this girl will be the making OP the butt of an inside joke for years to come if he goes thru with this.

 

[Sega Genesis]

But at least now she can’t go to the person who set us up and say “BadBioy was in love with me and made a pass at me...

Is this^ what happened?

In your original post you said:

"Went out a woman, she looked ok but not really my type. At the end of the date she said "nice meeting you, talk soon." I said "take care."

When did you make a pass?

Imo, what you wrote clearly suggests there was nothing happening for either one of you, as such to repeat my earlier post, her message announcing she felt no "romantic connection" was presumptuous and unnecessary.

She was assuming interest and attraction (from you) that wasn't there! Basically assuming you gave a shyt. Which clearly you did not as demonstrated by how you ended the date. Which was arrogant and entitled and I'm a woman saying this! No matter how beautiful she is or how many men are chasing her..

i would never send such a message unless and until a man demonstrated HIS interest first. Which from what you posted, you did not.

Why am I the only one seeing this?

She did you a favor? I call complete BS on that, you gave NO indication YOU had any intention of chasing her or that you even liked her!

So what favor did she do you? None. It wasn't necessary.

When there is no mutual chemistry/attraction, you simply move on to the next, humbly and quietly, nothing needs to be said. It was ONE meet/date for goodness sake.

That said, again your message two weeks later indicated you were butt hurt, ego bruised. It's the exact opposite of what you're thinking or were intending by sending it.

Learn to be indifferent to the BS, you'll be a lot happier I promise you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Is this^ what happened?

In your original post you said:

"Went out a woman, she looked ok but not really my type. At the end of the date she said "nice meeting you, talk soon." I said "take care."

When did you make a pass?

Imo, what you wrote clearly suggests there was nothing happening for either one of you, as such to repeat my earlier post, her message announcing she felt no "romantic connection" was presumptuous and unnecessary.

She was assuming interest and attraction (from you) that wasn't there! Which is arrogant and entitled and I'm a woman saying this!

i would never send such a message unless and until a man demonstrated HIS interest first.

Why am I the only one seeing this?

She did you a favor? I call complete BS on that, you gave NO indication YOU had any intention of chasing her or that you even liked her!

So what favor did she do you? None. It wasn't necessary, when there is no mutual chemistry you simply ghost each other, nothing needs to be said.

That said, again your message two weeks later indicated you were butt hurt, ego bruised.

Learn to be indifferent to the BS, you'll be a lot happier I promise you.

And a lot more successful with women as well. This type of stuff doesn't happen in a vacuum, it extends to all other interactions with women too.

 

[BadBoy89]

When did you make a pass?

Imo, what you wrote clearly suggests there was nothing happening for either one of you, as such to repeat my earlier post, her message announcing she felt no "romantic connection" was presumptuous and unnecessary.

My man.

She was assuming interest and attraction (from you) that wasn't there! Basically assuming you gave a shyt. Which clearly you did not as demonstrated by how you ended the date. Which was arrogant and entitled and I'm a woman saying this! No matter how beautiful she is or how many men are chasing her..

Oh ok. My woman.

i would never send such a message unless and until a man demonstrated HIS interest first. Which from what you posted, you did not.

Why am I the only one seeing this?

Again my woman.

She did you a favor? I call complete BS on that, you gave NO indication YOU had any intention of chasing her or that you even liked her!

So what favor did she do you? None. It wasn't necessary.

When there is no mutual chemistry/attraction, you simply move on to the next, humbly and quietly, nothing needs to be said. It was ONE meet/date for goodness sake.

Again my woman.

That said, again your message two weeks later indicated you were butt hurt, ego bruised. It's the exact opposite of what you're thinking or were intending by sending it.

You could look at it that way. But I was like "no, if she tell someone I made a pass, I have to have evidence I didn't"

Learn to be indifferent to the BS, you'll be a lot happier I promise you.

Exactly.

 

[Solomon]

OP I use to be just like you, get upset when women would reject me or whatever
My ego was fragile. All the way up until my mid30's. I realize now you can only call women out who are invested in you. Even if a woman sleeps with you and ghosts and flakes on you it doesn't mean shyt to some of them in 2025 compared to 20 years ago. We live in a culture where flaking, and ghosting for example have become the norm. Heck you got men doing it to other men (guy friends, which I find bizarre)

In that situation you responded two weeks later out of ego, once again I have done stuff like this as well If you had taken the 2 weeks to find and spin other plates this woman would not have been on your mind. I remember last summer I sort of went hard at plate spinning again and it's true when you have options when a woman rejects/flakes you, you don't even care. Scarcity breeds desperation, desperation breeds fragility. Aboundance kills those things, cause you have options!

 

[The Duke]

OP I use to be just like you, get upset when women would reject me or whatever
My ego was fragile. All the way up until my mid30's. I realize now you can only call women out who are invested in you. Even if a woman sleeps with you and ghosts and flakes on you it doesn't mean shyt to some of them in 2025 compared to 20 years ago. We live in a culture where flaking, and ghosting for example have become the norm. Heck you got men doing it to other men (guy friends, which I find bizarre)

In that situation you responded two weeks later out of ego, once again I have done stuff like this as well If you had taken the 2 weeks to find and spin other plates this woman would not have been on your mind. I remember last summer I sort of went hard at plate spinning again and it's true when you have options when a woman rejects/flakes you, you don't even care. Scarcity breeds desperation, desperation breeds fragility. Aboundance kills those things, cause you have options!

And when you rise to the next level, you won't need an abundance mindset to protect your ego. You'll feel you are solid with or without these things you feel you need to have. It won't define you anymore.