Beginner cold approaching

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

So I see her standing alone by the roadside, possibly waiting for a taxi and looking very attractive. I'll rate her as an 8. Well, I was feeling quite confident so I walked towards her, made eye contact (she held my eye contact for about a second, and looked away)

Me: (Smiling) Hi, how are you?
Her: (Straight face) I'm fine.
Me: You're looking sweet this morning.
Her: (straight face) Thank you

It was at this point where you should have went in for the kill (asked for her #, or offered to give yours) here.

I agree with starting the encounter by paying her a compliment, and I even like the compliment more than the the one I typically use, "You're cute".

"You're looking sweet this morning".

Not only do I like it, I'm stealing it (Debo!!).

But yeah, always go for the kill after the compliment.

Save the extracurricular chitter chatter for the potential date.

I feel I was conveying too much interest with my voice. I could have sounded more laidback and confident, and given her those compliments like I didn't really care about them.

One compliment won't hurt, and can go long way.

Just depends on the delivery.

I gave off needy vibes cos even though I wasn't looking to pick her up, I wanted her to vibe with me and that made me come across as wanting something from her.

You wanted her to vibe with you?

Probably the reason why she gave me that bitchy attitude. Next time I should go into the set not caring whether she vibes with me or not. Just say your lines, smile, try to create convo... If it don't work, leave.

Creating convo isn't necessary, amigo.

That's my analysis on the whole approach. But since I'm only a beginner, there's probably a lot I missed. Feel free to give me any pointers and tips to better handle such a situation next time. Thanks

Hit the gym, increase your sexual market value.

Approach at least 2 women per day.

Approach, keeping the chatter to a minimum during the encounter.

Try not to focus too much on body language, as this may be misleading.

Live with the results.

Repeat cycle.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

This isn't that good of an opener. She's clearly waiting for a taxi or rideshare app. You won't have much time.

That's why I advocate the bank robbery method.

The time it takes for her ride to get there, is symbolic to the time it'll take for police to arrive at bank that was just robbed.

He don't have much time...so needs to get in (approach), stick the place up (speak to her, offer # request), and leave.

You need to go very direct in this situation. @We_ArE_VeNOM is very good at direct game on this forum.

You needed to open with "I like how you look. I want to get to know you better. Would you like to get together for drinks soon?"

Many variations of this^ can be used.

There's no question about intent there. You have declared your interest and set the frame as a man to woman, sexually oriented interaction. She'll be impressed with your boldness.

When was sex explicitly stated, hinted, or implied?

If she's interested, it will be mainly on your looks. So make sure that you look your best when doing approaches and you have a lifestyle centered around looking good. Exercise regularly and eat right.

That's right, hit the gym!!

If she's not interested, she will either respond "I have a boyfriend/husband" or she'll be cordial, compliment the fact you were bold, and then say she's not interested due to her boyfriend or husband. The ruder females (most females) will use the first statement.

That's why after the compliment, I ask if she is single.

This helps, because I dont count those as rejections..and it helps for accurate statistics records.

Married women are off limits, HOWEVER, some shiit I've implemented recently..if she says she isn't single, I still try to give her my number....this is a personal bonus challenge for me to see if her attraction towards me is high enough for her to cheat on her mans.



Almost worked, one time lol.

Your frame stinks. You need to frame every interaction as if you are communicating in a man-to-woman, sexually oriented frame.

Definitely.

 

[Attowey15]

It was at this point where you should have went in for the kill (asked for her #, or offered to give yours) here.

I agree with starting the encounter by paying her a compliment, and I even like the compliment more than the the one I typically use, "You're cute".

"You're looking sweet this morning".

Not only do I like it, I'm stealing it (Debo!!).

But yeah, always go for the kill after the compliment.

Save the extracurricular chitter chatter for the potential date.



One compliment won't hurt, and can go long way.

Just depends on the delivery.



You wanted her to vibe with you?



Creating convo isn't necessary, amigo.



Hit the gym, increase your sexual market value.

Approach at least 2 women per day.

Approach, keeping the chatter to a minimum during the encounter.

Try not to focus too much on body language, as this may be misleading.

Live with the results.

Repeat cycle.

Wow... Your advice is simple and nice. But I think it's going to require what Roosh V. calls high pre-minute attraction. I already go to the gym so I will give what you're saying a try and see the results.

I'm currently starting out with Mystery Method and it requires you to create conversation in order to get past the social hook point.

And since I'm just starting out, I didn't want to put so much pressure on myself to pick her up. That's why I was just focusing on her vibing with me.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Wow... Your advice is simple and nice. But I think it's going to require what Roosh V. calls high pre-minute attraction. I already go to the gym so I will give what you're saying a try and see the results.

Cool. Are you lifting heavy?

I'm currently starting out with Mystery Method and it requires you to create conversation in order to get past the social hook point.

The conversation will be created on the date.

Standing there talking to a woman who isn't interested in you, is a waste of both your time...and that woman doesn't deserve your time or energy.

How will you know if she's really interested in you?

You'll know, if she calls/texts you (I recommend providing her your number instead of vice versa).

Save the conversations for THOSE women, not the rejectors.

And since I'm just starting out, I didn't want to put so much pressure on myself to pick her up. That's why I was just focusing on her vibing with me.

Wait a minute, so you wouldn't "pick her up", even if she was vibing with you?

 

[Attowey15]

Cool. Are you lifting heavy?

No I'm not lifting heavy. It should be normal weights.

 

[Attowey15]

The conversation will be created on the date.

Standing there talking to a woman who isn't interested in you, is a waste of both your time...and that woman doesn't deserve your time or energy.

I see where you're coming from and you're right about that.

 

[Attowey15]

Wait a minute, so you wouldn't "pick her up", even if she was vibing with you?

I would definitely pick her up if she vibes with me. I just put more focus on the conversation than on the pick up. The point is to create a low pressure environment to help me get used to talking to them.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I would definitely pick her up if she vibes with me. I just put more focus on the conversation than on the pick up. The point is to create a low pressure environment to help me get used to talking to them.

I get it.

But in my humble opinion, I don't think it all that is necessary.

You can get used to talking to them during the actual dates.

But hey, if that's what you feel you need to do, based on where you are in your social/dating life, then go for it.

 

[kzar_kzar]

This is an approach I did yesterday morning that didn't go well and I feel I could have done better. I'm a beginner. This is like my 9th approach so far. Here's how it went.

So I see her standing alone by the roadside, possibly waiting for a taxi and looking very attractive. I'll rate her as an 8. Well, I was feeling quite confident so I walked towards her, made eye contact (she held my eye contact for about a second, and looked away)

Me: (Smiling) Hi, how are you?
Her: (Straight face) I'm fine.
Me: You're looking sweet this morning.
Her: (straight face) Thank you
Me: Is it just today or that's your normal look?
Her: What do you mean?
Me: I mean did you do something different today or this is how you look every time? Her: (she nods).
Me: Your natural hair looks nice too. Did you decide to keep it like this?
Her: No I just unbraided my hair.
Me: Oh okay I bet it even looks better than the braids.
Her: Silence
Me: Where are you headed?
HerStraight face) .. I'm waiting for a friend.
Me: Okay... Have a nice day.

I feel I was conveying too much interest with my voice. I could have sounded more laidback and confident, and given her those compliments like I didn't really care about them. I gave off needy vibes cos even though I wasn't looking to pick her up, I wanted her to vibe with me and that made me come across as wanting something from her. Probably the reason why she gave me that bitchy attitude. Next time I should go into the set not caring whether she vibes with me or not. Just say your lines, smile, try to create convo... If it don't work, leave.

That's my analysis on the whole approach. But since I'm only a beginner, there's probably a lot I missed. Feel free to give me any pointers and tips to better handle such a situation next time. Thanks

Keep on doing what you are doing man,

But you complimented her on your looks quite a lot , 4 times straight.

Approach girls who show interest or is comfortable when around you.

This is an approach I did yesterday morning that didn't go well and I feel I could have done better. I'm a beginner. This is like my 9th approach so far. Here's how it went.

So I see her standing alone by the roadside, possibly waiting for a taxi and looking very attractive. I'll rate her as an 8. Well, I was feeling quite confident so I walked towards her, made eye contact (she held my eye contact for about a second, and looked away)

Me: (Smiling) Hi, how are you?
Her: (Straight face) I'm fine.
Me: You're looking sweet this morning.
Her: (straight face) Thank you
Me: Is it just today or that's your normal look?
Her: What do you mean?
Me: I mean did you do something different today or this is how you look every time? Her: (she nods).
Me: Your natural hair looks nice too. Did you decide to keep it like this?
Her: No I just unbraided my hair.
Me: Oh okay I bet it even looks better than the braids.
Her: Silence
Me: Where are you headed?
HerStraight face) .. I'm waiting for a friend.
Me: Okay... Have a nice day.

I feel I was conveying too much interest with my voice. I could have sounded more laidback and confident, and given her those compliments like I didn't really care about them. I gave off needy vibes cos even though I wasn't looking to pick her up, I wanted her to vibe with me and that made me come across as wanting something from her. Probably the reason why she gave me that bitchy attitude. Next time I should go into the set not caring whether she vibes with me or not. Just say your lines, smile, try to create convo... If it don't work, leave.

That's my analysis on the whole approach. But since I'm only a beginner, there's probably a lot I missed. Feel free to give me any pointers and tips to better handle such a situation next time. Thanks

Hey man ,
You are doing good, but you complimented her too much on your first interaction . But hey that’s how every noob start, eg ; I like you hair, or your shoes are nice. Lmao (quoting myself here)

the best thing is empty your head; and walk, have a destination to go and comeback! So you are not circling, find a spot to stand for a cig, juice , coffee. Or enjoy sun at a park, grocery shopping etc. and than talk about the topics that are surrounded to you! And talk about yourself and her. Get to know her abit and get her number mentioning maybe we can hangout later today or something .
After that you start talking casually about sex , or hobbies that some how detonate sex. Or talk about zodiac signs , etc etc

I have this observer personality even before picking up girls, so this skill kind of helped me finding girl who are comfortable with me to approach.
There will be signs that she’s comfortable, you just have to figured it by yourself.

 

[kzar_kzar]

Keep on doing what you are doing man,

But you complimented her on your looks quite a lot , 4 times straight.

Approach girls who show interest or is comfortable when around you.


Hey man ,
You are doing good, but you complimented her too much on your first interaction . But hey that’s how every noob start, eg ; I like you hair, or your shoes are nice. Lmao (quoting myself here)

the best thing is empty your head; and walk, have a destination to go and comeback! So you are not circling, find a spot to stand for a cig, juice , coffee. Or enjoy sun at a park, grocery shopping etc. and than talk about the topics that are surrounded to you! And talk about yourself and her. Get to know her abit and get her number mentioning maybe we can hangout later today or something .
After that you start talking casually about sex , or hobbies that some how detonate sex. Or talk about zodiac signs , etc etc

I have this observer personality even before picking up girls, so this skill kind of helped me finding girl who are comfortable with me to approach.
There will be signs that she’s comfortable, you just have to figured it by yourself.

oh and if you have done this long enough , you will figured out there are girls on the go looking for sex or are lonely and needs a company haha.
so if you are her cup of tea than you can get laid right away . Again observe and look!
the crowds doesn’t matter. BTW don’t go to crowded places , ppl are asses .