Why is it that women lose so much value once you have them ?

[Bingo-Player]

Although both male and female cheating is rife within marriages and relationships I think its fair to say men probably instigate and think about it more frequently than women

The sex work and entertainment industry for example is heavily geared towards males and male pleasure and surveys show its often married men indulging in such activities

I know from personal experience I tire of partners in a sexual sense quite quickly , I mean one chick I've been dating for a month I'm kind of bored already

My FWB has also lost her appeal to me

I always seem to find myself craving sexual experiences with new females

Does anyone else experience this ? a sort of fatigue of sexual interest for women that you have conquered ?

It's obviously a psychological thing just wondering how common it is and how you've dealt with it ?

 

[DJ Novice]

I experience this.

I find the desire to have s*x with a new woman follows a bell curve (desire on the vertical axis and time on the horizontal axis).

While the suddenness of the drop off can vary depending on how attractive the woman is and how much she is open to experimenting and fulfilling your needs in bed, the decline is inevitable. Hedonic adaptation can’t be beaten.

Once you have bottomed out the desire for a new woman will always be greater.

In terms of dealing with this, I still haven’t found a cure.

 

[BadBoy89]

The make brain needs sexual variety. It’s designed to seek out as many partners and spread its DNA. That’s why porn is so popular, it offers a different girl every night, Imagine if they had 1 porn scene for all times? Wouldn’t work.

Combine that with the fact that a woman‘s attractiveness gets lower by the second, what you are experiencing is normal.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Why isn’t anything ever enough?

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Although both male and female cheating is rife within marriages and relationships I think its fair to say men probably instigate and think about it more frequently than women

The sex work and entertainment industry for example is heavily geared towards males and male pleasure and surveys show its often married men indulging in such activities

I know from personal experience I tire of partners in a sexual sense quite quickly , I mean one chick I've been dating for a month I'm kind of bored already

My FWB has also lost her appeal to me

I always seem to find myself craving sexual experiences with new females

Does anyone else experience this ? a sort of fatigue of sexual interest for women that you have conquered ?

It's obviously a psychological thing just wondering how common it is and how you've dealt with it ?

Well..... its not fair, because women are known to cheat at least as much as men.

Of course sex work and industry are geared towards men as there are A LOT of men getting no sex, because they are either the und(erd)esired bottom 80% or trapped in a relationship with a woman that doesnt deliver.

The craving for new pvssy is more of a luxury problem for men that can attract willing women.

In my experience most men would be happy to have one woman for Life that puts out somewhat frequent sex.

I can relate to your fatigue. Even before i got married, every pvssy got old after a few months.
At some point i had to decide if i ever wanted kids or continue dating 5 new women every year.

The older i get the less important women become and the excitement of the new is not worth giving up having kids or having them around every day.

When low risk opportunities arise i take it, otherwise i remain ignorant, knowing that there is no such thing as THE ONE for me and that i would allways be lusting for the next piece of azz.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I think it happens because you're having sex before you've had a chance to emotionally bond; thus after sex, your initial goal has been satisfied and there's nothing left for you to be excited about and look forward to.

That said familiarity will always breed a certain boredom however when you meet a woman with potential for long term and don't rush into sex allowing yourself (and her) to emotionally bond, together you can find ways to keep the passion alive and the fires burning.

You're more motivated to do that because you're emotionally bonded versus simply finding her hot.

I'm sure this won't fly but it's something to consider if you want something long term.

A possibility.

 

[zekko]

I've always thought a lot of sex is about the novelty, and the curiosity. What does this girl look and feel like under those clothes? Once you know the answer, that part of the situation is satisfied, and there's no more curiosity aspect.

 

[The Duke]

The desire to have sex with a variety of attractive females is built into the fabric I am made from. Its a powerful and natural thing. I'm a natural hunter. Once I drop those panties for the first time, its downhill from there. I WON. Its been that way with every single woman.

If she expects to keep my interest long term, she must stay attractive, sexual, easy to get a long with, supportive, know how to cook, and drama free.

Modern day women seem to not understand they need to offer more than their bodies to keep a man. Old women seem to know that well. They brought a lot more to the table than the talent that is out there today.

And @Sega Genesis you sound like a clueless woman. You are so far off.

 

[Sega Genesis]

And @Sega Genesis you sound like a clueless woman.

Modern day women seem to not understand they need to offer more than their bodies to keep a man.

I'm gonna ignore the potential insult and agree with bolded.. 100%!

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

I'm generally not attracted from "good girls" in a sexual sense but Im attracted to them from a personal point of view and like to spend time with them and even get deeper.

Naughty girls make me harder and more interested to go for further rounds but no to have them around or get too personal with them.

So this problem basically increases the one OP mentions which is the dimishing sexual desire toward a woman you are regularly intimate.

Regardind cheating, the man doesnt make it personal, it's simply a deside for something new without losing any feeling or respect for the main partner...women on the other hand cheat when the problem is exactly the main partner cause if she was fine with him, she wouldnt.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I think it happens because you're having sex before you've had a chance to emotionally bond; thus after sex, your initial goal has been satisfied and there's nothing left for you to be excited about and look forward to.

I'm sure this won't fly but it's something to consider if you want something long term.

A possibility.

For Females I would probably agree and its why its common for women to try and make men wait for sex

For Males I know I have virtually zero intrest in emotionally bonding with a woman , I just want to see her naked and see what she's going to do with my c0ck

Its a primitive way of explaining it but that's what's going on in my head when I see a woman I find attractive

In fact I'm not sure an experienced man would want to emotionally bond with a woman simply because their so emotional chaotic and unstable

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Law of Diminishing Returns.

Happens with everything "new."

 

[Gamisch]

Bro, it's boredom ,period.

You already know what the next conquest gonna look like. In detail. You can already sketch the conversations, the texts, the places you'll go to EVERYTHING.

Maybe it's time experience for a while what's it like to have a decent woman who stand by you no matter what. Maybe you instinctively longing to be a father.

Women with low value only have value because we inflate their value. Once the panties drop its poof gone. Looks become obsolete, all that's left is her boring azz nonexistent character.

There's definitely more to get out of dating!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Buyer's remorse - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Sega Genesis]

For Males I know I have virtually zero intrest in emotionally bonding with a woman , I just want to see her naked and see what she's going to do with my c0ck

^^I see. I can't relate obviously but understand or trying to. The male frame on this.

Although in my LTRS and brief marriage my boyfriends/husband did feel emotionally connected to me at least on some level, it wasn't just about hot sex although there was plenty of that too!

Which is the disconnect here I think, my head automatically goes to long term relationship and given this is a seduction and pick up forum, your collective heads are geared towards casual pickups.

I don't know but I don't think wanting to see a girl naked and what she does with your c0ck, on its own without some type of an emotional connection is sustainable in a long term relationship.

Neil Strauss wrote about this and the transition from pick up to exclusive relationship, it wasn't easy for him! When he met how wife. I think David D'Angelo wrote about it too, but not 100% sure about that.

It's a completely different skill set and mind set! And requires a certain vulnerability.

Anyway, that is off topic, I respect my place on this forum and will stay in my own lane.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Although both male and female cheating is rife within marriages and relationships I think its fair to say men probably instigate and think about it more frequently than women

The sex work and entertainment industry for example is heavily geared towards males and male pleasure and surveys show its often married men indulging in such activities

I know from personal experience I tire of partners in a sexual sense quite quickly , I mean one chick I've been dating for a month I'm kind of bored already

My FWB has also lost her appeal to me

I always seem to find myself craving sexual experiences with new females

Does anyone else experience this ? a sort of fatigue of sexual interest for women that you have conquered ?

It's obviously a psychological thing just wondering how common it is and how you've dealt with it ?

I never have been tired of the sfx with the same woman. I was married for well over a decade, and sfx was alway great. Ditto with other women.
However, I do like flirting and bringing things as close as possible without cheating.
Though, I do feel bad sometimes, as it is leading them on.
But. I've been. strung along too.

 

[Clockwerk50]

It feels like you might always fall into the same trap – the amazing feeling after a new relationship starts to fade fast. This happens a lot, especially if you love the thrill of the chase. Once you've 'caught' them, the excitement can cool down, and you start craving something new. As men, we are always on the hunt for people to conquer and obstacles to surpass; we discard quickly those who make themselves easy prey and take advantage of their weaknesses.

To break this pattern, try finding someone who loves to keep things exciting and unpredictable with no-strings attached. Instead of always doing the same things, look for someone who brings a spark of spontaneity, surprise, and fun to the relationship. Being with someone who always keeps things interesting and doesn't need everything to be planned out can help you avoid that familiar feeling of boredom.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Although both male and female cheating is rife within marriages and relationships I think its fair to say men probably instigate and think about it more frequently than women

The sex work and entertainment industry for example is heavily geared towards males and male pleasure and surveys show its often married men indulging in such activities

That's because women don't have to pay to cheat. The average middle-aged married guy does. Also, for women cheating is emotional as much as it is physical. Many women "cheat" by developing inappropriately close relationship with male colleagues and "friends" without actually fvcking.

 

[Purpleheron]

Because the forbidden fruit is always the most valuable. Once you owned her, you can xoxo her as much as you want, there is no challenges, her value plummeted big time. If she ignores you and you can't fcuk her, her value rises again and if you manage to get 5ex from her again it will feel great again. It's perception.

 

[DJ Novice]

Once you have had s*x with a new woman a few times you get ‘post nut clarity’ when you are forced to deal with other aspects of her personality than the bedroom. Unless the woman is a just a FB you will be spending more time with her doing non-s*xual activities.

If these other non-bedroom aspects are not to your liking then the relationship can end pretty quickly as the novelty of her in the bedroom wears off.

While having a strong emotional connection can make the non-s*xual time spent together and the s*x more enjoyable (through trust and her being open to trying different things in the bedroom she may not do with other guys), having a strong emotional connection with a poor s*xual connection will not work out.

Regardless of how strong the emotional connection and s*xual chemistry is in the beginning, long term se*xual desire will always fade. It’s just a matter of how long it takes. Women can do things to slow the rate of decrease down (no drama, respecting you, keeping fit and attractive, being experimental in the bedroom, keeping up the quality and quantity of s*x without using it as a weapon etc) but you can never avoid the end result of a significant decrease in desire.