Women find mature men repellent

jhonny9546

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Hi guys! This is something to discuss with mature men!


There is a common consensus that women are attracted to wild, dominant men. Those they perceive as "slippery conquerors".
Their goal often seems to be to "tame" these men and make them fall in love, thereby securing their commitment.
Infact, relationships tend to thrive only when the man is caught, in love, but not overly invested.

As we member of the sosuave forum, and other men, dedicated to solving our fallacies and pursuing self-improvement, we work to "solve" our impulsiveness, aggressiveness, and other malicious traits so that we become more stable and wise. Interestingly, women may be biologically drawn to men with more "wild" characteristics because it allows them to express their love through the act of "taming" or "controlling" them. Consequently, women may prefer unstable men, as this provides them with a challenge and an opportunity to feel love through their efforts to stabilize him. For instance, a relationship where the man is impulsive, aggressive, childish and forgetful sometimes, while the woman is nurturing, caring and organized, can create a dynamic where she feels needed and can bring "love."

As we work on self-improvement and become more complete and stable individuals, we may inadvertently become less attractive to women. This is because we no longer possess those "broken" traits that women feel compelled to fix. This leads to an intriguing observation: long-lasting relationships often seem to function better when there is an unstable male paired with a woman who seeks to stabilize him. It appears that many women are drawn to men with imperfections, as it allows them to feel a sense of purpose in their relationship.

Ultimately, it seems that some women desire something "broken" that they can fix. For a long-lasting relationship, a man may feel pressured to maintain certain flaws so that his partner can have the "privilege" of adjusting him. This dynamic can create an illusion of control for the woman and contribute to the longevity of the relationship. I hope I am mistaken in this perspective. I would appreciate hearing different viewpoints from those who live this reality but see it differently. Is there truly a version of the "mature man" who is not seen as someone needing fixing? Can a woman genuinely love a complete man without wanting to change or "tame" him?

A broken man that a woman can fix is also the first and most common fantasy in erotic and romance novels.
Is something they crave for, and if they happen to "catch" one and make the father of their child, look like they can be in "love".
 

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Hi guys! This is something to discuss with mature men!
No, this is something to discuss with your fellow romance novel readers.

A broken man that a woman can fix is also the first and most common fantasy in erotic and romance novels.
Is something they crave for, and if they happen to "catch" one and make the father of their child, look like they can be in "love".
Like you say, that is what they call a Fantasy.
Just like you fantasising about being in an orgy but in reality being afraid to get naked and bumping uglies in public.
You should read the racier romance novels, where the heroines want to kneel for their master. Receive pain and humiliation and be rewarded by getting their throats stretched by humongous members.

And you shouldn't give people what they want, you should give them what they need.
 

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No, this is something to discuss with your fellow romance novel readers.

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You should read the racier romance novels, where the heroines want to kneel for their master. Receive pain and humiliation and be rewarded by getting their throats stretched by humongous members.
I read one of a GF’s fave Romance novels. Lots of fingering & fvcking. Very little oral.
 

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Just like you fantasising about being in an orgy but in reality being afraid to get naked and bumping uglies in public.
We are focusing on the romance novel thing, which is something that it's only an element of the all.

The fact is, you can see this in real life, so no need to think as the RN examples.
The real fact is that a "mature man" make women so insecure they reject him.
Now, if this is related to 1% or 99% of woman I can't say it for sure.
 

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The real fact is that a "mature man" make women so insecure they reject him.
Support your 'fact' with something else than romance novels.
And what is your definition of a 'mature man'?
 

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Self improvement is for RP madmen.
 

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Depends how the frame is set out with the woman from the start

If a woman feels she has "settled" for a man out of desperation or whatever she will repeatedly test the relationship as its in her nature too

If a man makes his woman the sole priority of his existence again she will continuously test the relationship because she wants a man that she can follow not lead
 

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like taking care of a three leg puppy or bird with broken wing. this does happen.

something in the deep psych of women or some people... but even deeper is the evolution drivers that will eventually pop out IF the environment permits.
 

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The world isn't full of ball-busting Italianas OP.

Perhaps you should preface your headlines with "Italian Women" instead of just "Women."
 
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