6 reasons to date girls you're not attracted to

[Hamurabimbi]

My Dad did this once. He said he couldn’t perform.

 

[Manure Spherian]

It sounds to me that you had to settle with what you were able to get, is that what you did? Got a girl at the end of her beauty years cause that was what you could get? Would you recommend that to your son? Get a not attractive girl and move on with life?

My wife is very pretty and I met her when she was 24.

I recommend men who cannot get a pretty woman to lower their standard. Or else don’t have a woman at all.

 

[Gamisch]

I like it. Some men should get a less attractive woman and move on with life.

I do agree with this to some extent. But ONLY if she feels like you are a "ten" even though she is let's say a 6 in your eyes.

Because when a man approaches the 6 with the idea to make things easier, he will find out the hard way that misses Six will gibe him the same bs that misses 8,6 gives him.

My wife is very pretty and I met her when she was 24.

I recommend men who cannot get a pretty woman to lower their standard. Or else don’t have a woman at all.

There's also the possibility to see more colours on the spectrum. What about hitting something "a little less" for the time being? Women do it all the time, they'll date a man they don't find that attractive to meet their needs in that particular moment in life.

 

[New_Journey]

lower their standard. Or else don’t have a woman at all.

Or become more attractive, with more game, better social skills, develop personality, be a more fun guy.

But I get it, its not the typical advice cause its very difficult and requires time, and many men have been raised to be defective women that they want everything fast.

 

[AllTiedUp]

Or become more attractive, with more game, better social skills, develop personality, be a more fun guy.

But I get it, its not the typical advice cause its very difficult and requires time, and many men have been raised to be defective women that they want everything fast.

So true. Been trying to unlearn a lot of femininity these past couple years.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Male friends don't get your balls emptied though.

Neither do women you can't get hard for and then feel disgusting and slimy that you had to see her naked and have bad dreams about it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I have some ideas for his future newsletters:

1) Seven reasons to take up hobbies you hate
2) Five reasons to watch TV shows that bore you to death
3) Eight reasons to eat food that tastes like sh!t

 

[The Duke]

There was a time when I was trying to learn game and understand women. There were a few women I went out with that I was barely attracted to(HB6's). I wanted sex, needed to increase my understanding of women, and gain more experience. Its kind of like accepting a job that isn't really what you want, but you knew it would pay the bills, and give you more experience that could help you down road.

Once I got better with women, I would only date those that were attractive.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I like it. Some men should get a less attractive woman and move on with life.

I disagree but there was a song about this back in the day which was quite popular!

So I don't know.

 

[GoodMan32]

I spent 8 months dating a woman I wasn't even attracted to. I have mixed opinions on whether dating her was worth it.

There was also that time when a woman I wasn't even attracted to contacted me on datehookup. We set up a 3 day weekend at my place. I couldn't even make it through day one before I sent her home.

And there was a strange/unattractive classmate I dated in college. I could only make it a week before dumping her.

In conclusion, if you get a girlfriend you aren't attracted to, you'll (more likely than not) quickly pull the plug on the relationship.

 

[GoodMan32]

There was a time when I was trying to learn game and understand women. There were a few women I went out with that I was barely attracted to(HB6's). I wanted sex, needed to increase my understanding of women, and gain more experience. Its kind of like accepting a job that isn't really what you want, but you knew it would pay the bills, and give you more experience that could help you down road.

Once I got better with women, I would only date those that were attractive.

I could easily be genuinely attracted to a 6.

I've dipped down below 5.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The stupid thing about this advice is the 'date' part. You should never date any person you're not attracted to.

I can't help having some sort of 'flirt tone' in my voice whenever I speak with women, basically all women. Young, old, attractive, unattractive. I didn't even notice this, it was brought to my attention by my wife, who said she could by the tone in my voice whether I was speaking with a man or a woman on the telephone.
Being friendly and flirty people you're not attracted to costs you nothing but is very educational.
Flirting is about making the other person feel better about themselves. If you can make someone feel good about themselves, they will remember that feeling as a result of being in your company. When people feel good in your company, you will attract more and more people.
I noticed about flirting with people I was not attracted to is that it's actually more difficult to successfully flirt with unattractive people, especially the unattractive people with low self-esteem, because they don't trust your sincerity.
Making someone who feels good about themselves feel better about themselves is a lot easier than making someone who feels bad about themselves feel good about themselves. Flirting with people who know they are attractive is easy in comparison, because your compliments confirm their attractiveness, they have no reason to doubt your sincerity. The difficulty convincing a suspicious person of your sincerity will make you work on your skills of persuasion and how to increase your congruity.
This is also how I learned how to flirt without an overt sexual undertone. Basically, it's like paying men a compliment without having to add 'nohomo' to your statement. If you can make an unattractive person (who is possibly attracted to you) feel good about themselves without sexual undertones that send the wrong signal, it's a deceptively subtle manipulation that you can often use to create goodwill in those you loathe.

 

[Gamisch]

I have some ideas for his future newsletters:

1) Seven reasons to take up hobbies you hate
2) Five reasons to watch TV shows that bore you to death
3) Eight reasons to eat food that tastes like sh!t

1. Hitting the gym. Cardio. Pushup and yoga in the morning. Most men hate it but it's a necessary evil.
2. Sometimes you need to watch some boring ish to learn some new
3. And sometimes the most healthy food has the most blunt taste.

Just messing with you bro, you are absolutely right.

 

[Gamisch]

The stupid thing about this advice is the 'date' part. You should never date any person you're not attracted to.

I can't help having some sort of 'flirt tone' in my voice whenever I speak with women, basically all women. Young, old, attractive, unattractive. I didn't even notice this, it was brought to my attention by my wife, who said she could by the tone in my voice whether I was speaking with a man or a woman on the telephone.
Being friendly and flirty people you're not attracted to costs you nothing but is very educational.
Flirting is about making the other person feel better about themselves. If you can make someone feel good about themselves, they will remember that feeling as a result of being in your company. When people feel good in your company, you will attract more and more people.
I noticed about flirting with people I was not attracted to is that it's actually more difficult to successfully flirt with unattractive people, especially the unattractive people with low self-esteem, because they don't trust your sincerity.
Making someone who feels good about themselves feel better about themselves is a lot easier than making someone who feels bad about themselves feel good about themselves. Flirting with people who know they are attractive is easy in comparison, because your compliments confirm their attractiveness, they have no reason to doubt your sincerity. The difficulty convincing a suspicious person of your sincerity will make you work on your skills of persuasion and how to increase your congruity.
This is also how I learned how to flirt without an overt sexual undertone. Basically, it's like paying men a compliment without having to add 'nohomo' to your statement. If you can make an unattractive person (who is possibly attracted to you) feel good about themselves without sexual undertones that send the wrong signal, it's a deceptively subtle manipulation that you can often use to create goodwill in those you loathe.

One big issue that we don't talk about that much is the fact that most men's " attractiveness standards" are heavily messed up by watching p0rn their entire life.

Women use this as leverage, just think about these video's where a hb2 transforms into a baddie by putting on the right make up. They can buy jeans with an additional azz attached to it and brahs that fill up their chest.

Women have the same problem by the way, where they not just fancy famous dude xyz, but nowadays literally want a man who resembles him exactly ( basically, HIM)

But I'm talking bout men now. A "normal " looking girl ( hb6/7) oftentimes gets overlooked because she doesn't trigger that little sausage in men's pants.

It's a deep and difficult topic exactly.

 

[anonymous12345]

I've had an orbiter or two, and said no to some potential girlfriends (their perspective).


It depends on how capable as a man you are. If you're very desperate or inexperienced, then picking up someone with a diagnosis or some form of emotional/social issues might be worth it. If you're more capable, such as being able to deal with loneliness by yourself, then you don't have to go looking in the trashcan.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I passed over plenty of women, but most women can take subtle hints so that rarely becomes dramatic. I rarely got negative blowback. Breakups are a different story, but then, most women have an axe to grind when you break up with them.

That's why I feel fine flirting with women I'm not attracted to. I played around with this when I was younger and realised that when I forced myself to relax (into the 'devil-may-care' attitude I had while flirting with unattractive women) attractive women became insecure feeling like they couldn't lean on their superficial attractiveness to earn my attention.

Confidence without accomplishment is arrogance. Beauty is not an accomplishment, and beautiful people lose their arrogance often pretty quickly when they're not considered as attractive as they think they are.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Or become more attractive, with more game, better social skills, develop personality, be a more fun guy.

Yes they can do that, at the expense of time. Of course that is their choice. Those can’t be expanded upon much though, I believe.

I disagree but there was a song about this back in the day which was quite popular!

So I don't know.

I actually didn’t say men should go for women they’re not attracted to at all. I said “less attractive”.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Whilst its a nice idea and if your getting zero interest or interaction with women it could get the wheels moving

This type of strategy has a ceiling....women are highly observant if you're hanging around with 4's even a 6 is going to give you sh1t as she will class herself out of your leauge

Women are egotistical they want too secure you from another (better) woman

You being with a woman less than you pretty much cements your status

As a man its always smarter to date up than down ....

 

[FlirtLife]

I passed over plenty of women, but most women can take subtle hints so that rarely becomes dramatic. I rarely got negative blowback. Breakups are a different story, but then, most women have an axe to grind when you break up with them.

A technique to consider: 1-2 weeks before the breakup, tell her about a problem in the relationship she can't fix. She then stews on it, loses some confidence that things are going well, and talks about it to her friends. When you mention the problem again and say things aren't working out, she's already prepared herself.

 

[FlirtLife]

I disagree but there was a song about this back in the day which was quite popular!

Then there's the flip side, in an... old.. song from 2007 called "Beautiful Girls" by Sean Kingston:

You're way too beautiful, girl
That's why it'll never work
You have me suicidal, suicidal
When you say it's over