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jhonny9546

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I don't know how common this is, but women in their 40s and 50s, and even older ones, often compliment me with phrases like "how handsome you are," "how handsome he is," "he's a handsome boy," "where do girls get their eyes?" "what beautiful eyes," and "you look good," among others.

Girls my age just stare at me, give side glances, smile, and often touch me or flirt, but they rarely say the things I hear from older women. They mostly stare or look at me.

Basically, about 80% of the adult women I meet give me a compliment, which makes me wonder if I'm really handsome or if there's something about me that makes them feel they need to "console" me.

Does something like this happen to you too?
 

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He translates from Italian probably.

Italians say the weirdest things.
 

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Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
 

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What does that even mean?
You could not convince me anybody's ever actually said this.
Sorry, but this didn't translate well..
Meaning it's like the women are blind.
Older women frequently speak to younger men as if they're their kids. Ain't uncommon
Yes this is what I've noticed.
But also noticed that since they're older now, they can say things since no one will judge them for?
 

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But also noticed that since they're older now, they can say things since no one will judge them for?
No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
 

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No, you will always be judged. Except, when you get older, you don't care about judgmental people's opinions.
Life's too short. On the other hand, valid criticism always merits consideration.
 

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Life's too short. On the other hand, valid criticism always merits consideration.
Absolutely. I welcome criticism, but not from just anyone. Only from those who I know give me feedback in order to help me improve myself. Not from people who get some personal satisfaction putting me down.
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Young women are less in control of their emotions and less able to camouflage them.
I’ve found younger girls are more likely to openly display interest. If they like you they become giddy and flouncy. And they are not shy about telling you. Younger girls are less experienced so their fallback is to simply say ‘hi’. Older women tend to be more clever.

But it could be a US vs. Italy behavior/culture.
 

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I read somewhere that young women feel judged or at least obliged to not reveal their attraction to men so as not to be seen as anything other than "sluts".

But this thing falls apart when they are older because they no longer have this form of "being judged" in their heads.

Surely this behavior will have a name. @AmsterdamAssassin And I'm sure you know it
I’ve found younger women are more likely to initiate than older. Though I’ve found both are free with compliments.
There’s really no ‘slvt shaming’ in the US. Girls are empowered to Shoot their Shot. Especially younger ones. Again your experiences (like mine) may be location specific.
 
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