I thought it would be nice to discuss how the issue of interpersonal dealings with women and the game seem counter-intuitive compared to other areas of our lives. Please feel free to add yours
1) The maxim Chase two rabbits, end up with neither, doesn't seem to apply with women. While we shouldn't chase in a traditional sense, it does make sense to have at least two women and even more that we flirt with. Call it plates, call it options.. its important. I think it takes the pressure of compared to dating just one, it allows us to avoid the scarcity mindset and you get valuable feed back.
2) As an employee being reliable and predictable works well and can get you promoted, but with women being reliable, loyal and predictable doesn't always work well. I think its good to be a stand up guy that helps out when they need it, and being loyal and predictable are good qualities.. they don't tend to work with women. Women enjoy drama and hate boredom. A lot of the guys i know who have wives that stay at home and don't work.. they are terrible to their husbands and i believe its in part the need to stir up drama. A warning to not to be too nice.
3) Humor and being funny work but self deprecating humor, like the kind i used to love (Rodney Dangerfield), doesn't tend to work well with women. Instead its much better for the average looking guy to be a little c o c k y and funny, a little sarcastic towards others and maybe even mean spirited at times to a point.
4) Hard work leads to success, this tends to be true in work and business.. and it definitely pays to get yourself out there with women and meet a lot of them. However the days of when a woman is appreciative and loyal because you are a doctor or have a great job are over. If you want a great career by all means go for it, but do it for yourself. Your guarantee of the big house and picket fence may be there but the beautiful housewife that the American dream tries to sell you on may not be there.
5) The longer you know someone or work at a place, the more loyalty and stability you have, this unfortunately may no longer be true for workplaces, friendships and is certainly not true with romantic relationships. People can divorce after any length of marriage and sometimes it seems the resentments are harder to overcome the longer you are together. It's sad because my father worked at the same company his entire career after the military and also was married to the same woman. Nowadays none of these apply
6) Showing interest and giving them attention, this is truly a case where less is more. I've seen a few odd cases lately where women get hooked in by long distance simp behavior but it shouldn't theoretically last... even for cases where women are anxiously attached. To me we almost need to work on an individual basis to determine what an appropriate amount of time between communication is for a particular woman. Its a challenge to keep interest levels high in any relationship
Please feel free to add. I plan to revisit this thread, i realize a few of my concepts might have been a little redundant.. thinking out loud here.
1) The maxim Chase two rabbits, end up with neither, doesn't seem to apply with women. While we shouldn't chase in a traditional sense, it does make sense to have at least two women and even more that we flirt with. Call it plates, call it options.. its important. I think it takes the pressure of compared to dating just one, it allows us to avoid the scarcity mindset and you get valuable feed back.
2) As an employee being reliable and predictable works well and can get you promoted, but with women being reliable, loyal and predictable doesn't always work well. I think its good to be a stand up guy that helps out when they need it, and being loyal and predictable are good qualities.. they don't tend to work with women. Women enjoy drama and hate boredom. A lot of the guys i know who have wives that stay at home and don't work.. they are terrible to their husbands and i believe its in part the need to stir up drama. A warning to not to be too nice.
3) Humor and being funny work but self deprecating humor, like the kind i used to love (Rodney Dangerfield), doesn't tend to work well with women. Instead its much better for the average looking guy to be a little c o c k y and funny, a little sarcastic towards others and maybe even mean spirited at times to a point.
4) Hard work leads to success, this tends to be true in work and business.. and it definitely pays to get yourself out there with women and meet a lot of them. However the days of when a woman is appreciative and loyal because you are a doctor or have a great job are over. If you want a great career by all means go for it, but do it for yourself. Your guarantee of the big house and picket fence may be there but the beautiful housewife that the American dream tries to sell you on may not be there.
5) The longer you know someone or work at a place, the more loyalty and stability you have, this unfortunately may no longer be true for workplaces, friendships and is certainly not true with romantic relationships. People can divorce after any length of marriage and sometimes it seems the resentments are harder to overcome the longer you are together. It's sad because my father worked at the same company his entire career after the military and also was married to the same woman. Nowadays none of these apply
6) Showing interest and giving them attention, this is truly a case where less is more. I've seen a few odd cases lately where women get hooked in by long distance simp behavior but it shouldn't theoretically last... even for cases where women are anxiously attached. To me we almost need to work on an individual basis to determine what an appropriate amount of time between communication is for a particular woman. Its a challenge to keep interest levels high in any relationship
Please feel free to add. I plan to revisit this thread, i realize a few of my concepts might have been a little redundant.. thinking out loud here.