Advice: Meeting her 'friends'.

[RangerMIke]

Okay. Today I had a refresher, because at my age, this hasn't been too much of as issue. But I am now seeing a much younger woman (25 years) and had to pull this out of my toolbox. This doesn't really apply to older women since they typically don't have 'friends' around them that they do not like. The older you get (man or woman) the less tolerant having people around you do not like. But younger dudes will fine value in this.

Okay let's get this started: If you meet a woman while out and you know you are meeting her friends, understand that women they DO NOT mention are those whose opinion they REALLY care about. When you show up, if you happen to run into women as a 'coincidence' there is a very strong possibility that this is NOT a coincidence. This was planned... she wants you to meet her friends and get their opinion of you. Do not stress over this... just be yourself and everything will work out the way it is supposed to.

Now, if you are meeting one of her friends that she says ANYTHING like "she's kind of difficult and I'm sure you will not get along" could be anything like this.... this, well you can consider this a test.

This is what you need to do to make a good impression. Any friends she NEVER mentions... you need to be super nice and fun... it's even okay if you flirt with her a little... just don't cross that line. This friend is the one you need to impress. Be nice, talk up the woman of interest... even ignore the woman of interest when you talk to this unexpected friend. This is the one whose opinion really matters to her.

Now the one she says is 'difficult'... pick a fight with her... be disagreeable, not intentionally, but if she says something you do not agree with, challenge her/him... and if she/he comes at you do not back down.... do not go out of your way to try and make them happy... do not back down... don't be a ****, but also do not be a pushover. Too many men think they need to be super nice to the 'difficult' friend, to prove they can get along with anyone... if later this friend comes back and tells her she does not like you, so the fvck what? This is a plus... she will likely think more of you if you do not get along the friend she says is difficult. Chances are that if she already said this 'friend' is difficult, she doesn't really like them anyway.

 

[HaleyBaron]

I use friends of **** buddies to make them fight each other over jealously. I get some side lays like that. It really shows how cutthroat women are to each other, too, willing to **** their friend's catch behind their back.

 

[Tilex]

Never meet her friends before you've had sex with her!!

Think of it like weight on scales.
Before sex, the scales are tipped at 70% on her side. When she adds a friend to the scale, it becomes 90%
Trying to influence two people in one night becomes a huge uphill battle. I would avoid this at all cost.
But after sex it becomes 50% so if she adds a friend to disqualify you, it only becomes 60%.
If she likes you and enjoys the sex, then her friends influence will be minor.

 

[upcoming_DJ]

I use friends of **** buddies to make them fight each other over jealously. I get some side lays like that. It really shows how cutthroat women are to each other, too, willing to **** their friend's catch behind their back.

this is true.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

For reading ease, OP is saying "meeting up with a plate" as opposed to "meeting a woman while out"

If you meet a woman for the first time who randomly happens to be at the venue you're at, just deal with the friends who are there standing with her.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Okay. Today I had a refresher, because at my age, this hasn't been too much of as issue. But I am now seeing a much younger woman (25 years) and had to pull this out of my toolbox. This doesn't really apply to older women since they typically don't have 'friends' around them that they do not like. The older you get (man or woman) the less tolerant having people around you do not like. But younger dudes will fine value in this.

Okay let's get this started: If you meet a woman while out and you know you are meeting her friends, understand that women they DO NOT mention are those whose opinion they REALLY care about. When you show up, if you happen to run into women as a 'coincidence' there is a very strong possibility that this is NOT a coincidence. This was planned... she wants you to meet her friends and get their opinion of you. Do not stress over this... just be yourself and everything will work out the way it is supposed to.

Now, if you are meeting one of her friends that she says ANYTHING like "she's kind of difficult and I'm sure you will not get along" could be anything like this.... this, well you can consider this a test.

This is what you need to do to make a good impression. Any friends she NEVER mentions... you need to be super nice and fun... it's even okay if you flirt with her a little... just don't cross that line. This friend is the one you need to impress. Be nice, talk up the woman of interest... even ignore the woman of interest when you talk to this unexpected friend. This is the one whose opinion really matters to her.

Now the one she says is 'difficult'... pick a fight with her... be disagreeable, not intentionally, but if she says something you do not agree with, challenge her/him... and if she/he comes at you do not back down.... do not go out of your way to try and make them happy... do not back down... don't be a ****, but also do not be a pushover. Too many men think they need to be super nice to the 'difficult' friend, to prove they can get along with anyone... if later this friend comes back and tells her she does not like you, so the fvck what? This is a plus... she will likely think more of you if you do not get along the friend she says is difficult. Chances are that if she already said this 'friend' is difficult, she doesn't really like them anyway.

Described with military precision, Ranger

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Described with military precision, Ranger

Lolz nevermind the most important sentence in the OP being obfuscated...

 

[BeExcellent]

If you are going through this sort of high school friend dynamic analysis? The woman you are seeing doesn't like you enough. If she likes you enough nobody else's opinion matters. Period.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I generally act like a +1 at a wedding when I first meet her friends: polite, not too polarizing, a good listener, careful not to step on anyone's toes, and making a few light jokes that aren’t too crude. After all I am a guest in their social circle and it hasn’t failed me yet.

 

[Doctor Doom]

Only date good-looking chicks who bring good-looking chicks (friends) to have fun with.

If any of her friends are difficult, put her on the bench. She’s not starting. Build a harem.

 

[Hal9000]

Never meet her friends before you've had sex with her!!

Think of it like weight on scales.
Before sex, the scales are tipped at 70% on her side. When she adds a friend to the scale, it becomes 90%
Trying to influence two people in one night becomes a huge uphill battle. I would avoid this at all cost.
But after sex it becomes 50% so if she adds a friend to disqualify you, it only becomes 60%.
If she likes you and enjoys the sex, then her friends influence will be minor.

And if she enjoys the sex she will definitely tell her friends before you meet them which will already be a feather in your cap when you do meet. Women do automatically give respect to a man they have heard is good in bed. Conversely if the sex isn't good they'll know all about that also and will be predisposed not to like you so you better get a good review!

 

[Clockwerk50]

Only date good-looking chicks who bring good-looking chicks (friends) to have fun with.

If any of her friends are difficult, put her on the bench. She’s not starting. Build a harem.

Plot twist: @doctor Doom’s harem consists of confident, full-figured women, and he finds incredibly attractive.