The Duke
Master Don Juan
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I see a common theme to many posters that come here seeking advice. Most of you lack social skills and fear rejection. You don't know how to properly interact with others in a public setting. So how do you develop skills you don't have and push past fears that keep you from engaging others? YOU PRACTICE! And you can practice anywhere and everywhere. Your goal should be to have successful interactions with anyone, not to get some girls number.
Many years ago I was in a similar boat. I was recently divorced and didn't really enjoy talking to random strangers in public. I was't oblivious, but I had very little experience with women. I quickly realized that if I wanted to get girls I needed to change my mindset and improve my skills. So thats what I did. I pushed myself to engage all types of people wherever I went.
I practiced flirting with old ladies at the check out stand. I made many trips to the fragrance counter at Dillards just to interact with those girls as they were usually attractive. I'd strike up conversations with the guy at the deli counter and before I knew it I had a new friend.
I became a regular at a bar and got in with that social group and started playing volleyball and going to pool parties.
I spent a lot of time in strip clubs, my goal was to see how long I could keep a conversation going without paying any money. I made friends with the bouncers, front desk girl, dj, bathroom attendant and bartenders. Once the girls got to know me, they would always greet me and stop by for some conversation. I always felt really comfortable inside of a strip club so it made it easier to talk to the girls. Strippers tend to me more open and forthcoming than girls you might talk to at a regular bar. I could practice my conversation skills on 10 girls a night and not even get out of my chair. After a while I learned what made women tick, and what topics were most engaging. I ended up dating several strippers once I figured out the recipe.
One night a friend and I approached 10 girls in a bar district. We would walk right up to them and tell them they were hot and ask them if they wanted to make out. Some got pissed, some laughed, but there were a few that were willing. One of them my friend got her phone # and I ended up going out with her. That night we learned that approaching girls was no big deal, rejection was part of it, it was actually a lot of fun. Most of the time you will get shot down but thats with anything in life.
Many years ago I was in a similar boat. I was recently divorced and didn't really enjoy talking to random strangers in public. I was't oblivious, but I had very little experience with women. I quickly realized that if I wanted to get girls I needed to change my mindset and improve my skills. So thats what I did. I pushed myself to engage all types of people wherever I went.
I practiced flirting with old ladies at the check out stand. I made many trips to the fragrance counter at Dillards just to interact with those girls as they were usually attractive. I'd strike up conversations with the guy at the deli counter and before I knew it I had a new friend.
I became a regular at a bar and got in with that social group and started playing volleyball and going to pool parties.
I spent a lot of time in strip clubs, my goal was to see how long I could keep a conversation going without paying any money. I made friends with the bouncers, front desk girl, dj, bathroom attendant and bartenders. Once the girls got to know me, they would always greet me and stop by for some conversation. I always felt really comfortable inside of a strip club so it made it easier to talk to the girls. Strippers tend to me more open and forthcoming than girls you might talk to at a regular bar. I could practice my conversation skills on 10 girls a night and not even get out of my chair. After a while I learned what made women tick, and what topics were most engaging. I ended up dating several strippers once I figured out the recipe.
One night a friend and I approached 10 girls in a bar district. We would walk right up to them and tell them they were hot and ask them if they wanted to make out. Some got pissed, some laughed, but there were a few that were willing. One of them my friend got her phone # and I ended up going out with her. That night we learned that approaching girls was no big deal, rejection was part of it, it was actually a lot of fun. Most of the time you will get shot down but thats with anything in life.