etiquette w girl who is flakey/ghosty in social circle?

[PlatoPacks23]

me and girl have hung out a little bit, but she's honestly not that interested in me imo. however I was fine being friends with her bc I'm cool with other people in her/our social circle and see her a lot in classes.

well I texted her asking for a recommendation on something, and she never even wrote back (first time she hasn't written back). which was annoying but more annoying was that she was like posting on her social media that day so clearly could not care less.


Now typically I would just blatantly ignore her and not even say anything to her, BUT I am in a social circle and we share similar friends AND I see her a lot in class (which is why I found it super rude she didn't even respond..)

I honestly think she'd just act like, "oh I missed it I was so busy, sorry!" if I see her when I know that's BS, but how would you act in a scenario where you continue to see her over and over? confront her? pretend it never happened (seems like a ***** move on my part)?

I kinda want to mention it to her, and then after she's aware of it just ignore her rest of time but idk. it's tricky in a social circle

 

[Clockwerk50]

It sounds like you are butt hurt that she didn’t reciprocate your advances.

To be honest, your best game plan is to let it go and act like none of this ever happened: no texts, no hang outs, no romantic interest. Stop pursuing her; keep her at an arms length. In the grant scheme of things, it is not a big deal.

It is the best route to take for everyone involved.

 

[BPH]

Dude...if you're in a social circle and cool with those people, just be cool with those people.

Ignore her and focus on the people in that circle you care about.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

It sounds like you are butt hurt that she didn’t reciprocate your advances.

To be honest, your best game plan is to let it go and act like none of this ever happened; no texts, no hang out, no romantic interest. Stop pursuing her; keep her at an arms length. In the grant scheme of things, it is not a big deal.

It is the best route to take for everyone involved.

I am butthurt! Lol.

but I was fine just being friends w her and kinda accepted it but she is just being rude at this point. Not even responding to a text about a recommendation? Wtf

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stop being so needy. Who cares if she answers. Cut this b!tch out of your life and stop expending mental energy on people who don't deserve it

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Stop being so needy. Who cares if she answers. Cut this b!tch out of your life and stop expending mental energy on people who don't deserve it

Well she didn’t answer lol

my question was just how to act with her in my social circle but I guess you’re saying just ignore her completely

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Well she didn’t answer lol

my question was just how to act with her in my social circle but I guess you’re saying just ignore her completely

Find a new social circle if this is how you are treated within it.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Find a new social circle if this is how you are treated within it.

no it’s just her, the other people are cool and I take classes w them

 

[BPH]

no it’s just her, the other people are cool and I take classes w them

Then how about you f***ing read my suggestion and engage with them and NOT her. How hard is that?

 

[Clockwerk50]

I am butthurt! Lol.

but I was fine just being friends w her and kinda accepted it but she is just being rude at this point. Not even responding to a text about a recommendation? Wtf

Forget about it. To make things less akward for the social circle and yourself, or if you see her again, be like “hey how is it going?, how is everything?, how is work? Is everything ok? Alright, I’m glad everything is fine”. Then talk to someone else or tell her you have to go.

Women are experts at this, acting like nothing ever happened. Play the same game.

 

[The Duke]

Getting mad at someone because they didn't reply to a stupid text is the dumbest thing ever. It shows how insecure and irrational you are. Go work on yourself.

I'm not buying your story either. You were fishing and she didn't take the bait. Then you waited all day and kept monitoring her online status to see if she was really blowing you off.