I attended a speed dating event today

[GoodMan32]

I know I've long said my self-consciousness about my ASD is why I have a crippling phobia of rejection.

I've come to realize there's a deeper explanation. Even if we disregard my ASD, here's the core problem (to explain why I have my crippling phobia of rejection): I have extremely low self-esteem when it comes to my worthiness as a romantic/sex partner.

My self-esteem is about as low as New Orleans's elevation. Even one more rejection could be enough to do a Hurricane Katrina on my self-esteem.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I know I've long said my self-consciousness about my ASD is why I have a crippling phobia of rejection.

I've come to realize there's a deeper explanation. Even if we disregard my ASD, here's the core problem (to explain why I have my crippling phobia of rejection): I have extremely low self-esteem when it comes to my worthiness as a romantic/sex partner.

My self-esteem is about as low as New Orleans's elevation. Even one more rejection could be enough to do a Hurricane Katrina on my self-esteem.

Have you tried to specifically target cougars and not just older women in general?

 

[Solomon]

Another reason not to go, singles running events is where it's been at post-pandemic

 

[GoodMan32]

Have you tried to specifically target cougars and not just older women in general?

Back when I was in college (and Craigslist still had the casual encounters section), I posted some ads specifically seeking out cougars. I bagged some cougars using that method.

As for the last woman I had free sex with, she's a cougar too (13 years my senior). I found out she finds me attractive through a guy we both know. I then started flirting with her.

If there are other ways to specifically target cougars, I'm all ears.

 

[GoodMan32]

On the thread about speed dating that was started a while back (the one @SW15 linked), one of the men (I forget who) said a lot of broads at the speed dating events he's attended worked in accounting.

After thinking on the professions the broads at my event this past weekend mentioned, HR was probably the most common profession.

Explains a lot. The type of broad who's attracted to HR work typically has qualities that repel most men (HR broads tend to be massive feminists and massive misandrists). No wonder they have to resort to speed dating to find a man.

 

[SW15]

The type of broad who's attracted to HR work typically has qualities that repel most men (HR broads tend to be massive feminists and massive misandrists). No wonder they have to resort to speed dating to find a man.

Holy smokes. I can't imagine an extended romantic relationship with a woman who works HR. Massive feminist + misandrist is a bad combination.

a lot of broads at the speed dating events he's attended worked in accounting.

Many of the women who work in accounting have dull personalities.

 

[The Duke]

So I came out of my shell and went to a speed dating event. I just got home.

The event went well...until it didn't.

The good: The event was set up so that the broads had to give all of us a 5 minute mini date. As a result, I got to speak to more broads than I would have if I attempted to pick up broads in a non-structured environment.

Then here's when it started to go poorly: In the final 10 minutes, the event switched to an open floor environment (where anyone could mingle with anyone of their choosing).

At the very beginning of the open floor environment, I managed to catch a broad I thought it went well with...yet the broad declined on exchanging contact information.

The only other broad who was available to talk to at that point was the obese chick I had my first mini date with. I went over to her, asked if she liked the event, etc (but never asked for her digits). I wasn't super into the obese chick (so it's not like I was dying to get her digits...and I wasn't going to ask). But I thought she might offer on her own. No such luck.

There were a few other broads I probably could have gotten digits from...but they were already being swarmed by other men.

Am I glad I went? Yeah. But at the same time, the ending of the event reminded me of why I don't even really try.

Facing the unfortunate truth that I was the low man on the food chain once again, I left before the final 10 minutes were up. I exited onto the patio (slamming the door on my way out). I then slammed the patio gate when I left the patio.

You need to control your emotions better. Slamming doors/gates because you talked to two girls and didnt get what you wanted is childish. You gotta have thicker skin. No woman is attracted to men who act like that.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Back when I was in college (and Craigslist still had the casual encounters section), I posted some ads specifically seeking out cougars. I bagged some cougars using that method.

As for the last woman I had free sex with, she's a cougar too (13 years my senior). I found out she finds me attractive through a guy we both know. I then started flirting with her.

If there are other ways to specifically target cougars, I'm all ears.

Match.com has a good selection of milfs, especially here in Phx/Scottsdale. Look for the ones with a sexy vibe and showing off their boobs/showing hard nips

You might want to go get an escort to blow off some steam if you're slamming doors at venues.