This is a pretty worthwhile video to watch for most men who enjoy arguing with people in general.
So I watched the video. I think we need to make the distinction between arguing and discussing/discourse.
I think the points about using arguments as a way to validate your ego is accurate. Ultimately, being willing to walk away and not let things escalate into arguments is true, because you don't play into their game. This is something I've practiced for a while, walking away from toxic behaviors. If someone resorts to shaming, insults, straw man, etc I immediately walk away for that reason, because at that point I know the discussion is over and pointless to continue.
What I don't like is the implication that all disagreements lead will lead an argument or that people automatically get emotionally compromised, but sadly in today's age, I think I need to accept that it's just a fact.
I have debates/discussions with my close friends on occasion, and even if we strongly disagree we can "argue" without emotions involved and reach a place of understanding and mutual respect. I had one with two close friends a while back about setting boundaries with women, and despite having an immense disagreement, we were able to keep it civil. When you have a real discussion with someone, in the moment you might not change your mind but you may weeks later, I've done it and I've seen my friends do it too. That is literally what debates are supposed to be. That's how I approach discussion, my goal isn't to argue to be right but to learn something and possibly realize your own beliefs are flawed. You can learn things even from your enemies.
Why can't people just learn how to leave emotions out of the discussion and actually listen to what people say and have a discussion for its own sake? When coffee was introduced in the 17th and 18th centuries and it began to replace alcohol, it led to a "coffeehouse culture" where people had intense debates and it literally led to the Enlightenment era. Why can't people still do this?
These are rhetorical questions btw. Ultimately the why doesn't matter, people in 2024 are the way they are, and if they are not capable of having rational discussions anymore, then don't engage them. So, the only solution is to walk away from them the second they get emotional or unreasonable.