Family respect

[jhonny9546]

If your family doesn't respect you, that's not a good thing.
If you have lost respect from your family, how and why would you regain it?

My family came to the point to respect more my BIL than me.

 

[BaronOfHair]

My family came to the point to respect more my BIL than me.

Your BIL isn't predisposed towards regularly asking bizarre, obliquely worded questions, all for the sake of appearing profound. Thus, he gets respect

 

[sevbucmash]

You know what Michael did to Fredo, don't you?

 

[jhonny9546]

Your BIL isn't predisposed towards regularly asking bizarre, obliquely worded questions, all for the sake of appearing profound

Well. no one said anything about it.

You know what Michael did to Fredo, don't you?

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[jhonny9546]

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...re-any-way-to-get-it-back.273804/post-2936738


Like this comment here says, you can lose respect from a woman in a relationship, but you can pursue her, learn the lesson, and develop more self-respect for yourself.

However, understanding why your family lost respect for you and how to regain it involves a different set of challenges.

What I’ve noticed is that I’m not the type of person who gets angry during discussions. I really don’t. I stay calm in most situations where others might get upset. This is also when I notice women getting angry with me because I don’t express anger. But I know I’m on the right track; I feel good instead. So why should I feel the need to show that I should be angry? I won’t.

This is completely opposite to my brother-in-law, who gets angry and upset easily.

 

[oOh Nasty]

Hey brother. After reading so many of your threads and resisting from responding to them...I have to say. You care way too much about the wrong things. If your family doesn't respect you, move on and build your life. Start taking the responses you get on this forum seriously. You seem to ignore a lot of good advice that people give you and end up asking a similar question the next day.

 

[New_Journey]

If your family doesn't respect you, that's not a good thing.
If you have lost respect from your family, how and why would you regain it?

My family came to the point to respect more my BIL than me.

Happened to me, I was conditioned to keep my mouth shut, never say what was in my mind, always telling me to change my personality to match what they wanted and always tell them good things I did for validation.

For 27 years I was the nice guy conditioned to do that, until I found the red pill.

First it was very hard, but when I started being successful financially and realized I didn't need any if my family, I placed my boundaries in place, mom crossed them, I kicked her out of my house when she was visiting me. Never spoke with her again for a out 3 months, after that the dynamic changed.

Put your boundaries and don't be afraid of enforcing them even with your family.

 

[New_Journey]

What I’ve noticed is that I’m not the type of person who gets angry during discussions. I really don’t. I stay calm in most situations where others might get upset. This is also when I notice women getting angry with me because I don’t express anger. But I know I’m on the right track; I feel good instead. So why should I feel the need to show that I should be angry? I won’t.

If you're not showing anger cause you wanna be seen as the calm guy who have everything under control, stop, that's a covert contract.

Anger is an emotion like happiness, if its something she did wrong and you get angry then let it out, why the fvck would you hide it? She already knows you're butthurt appearing to not being angry, show her the good side and the bad side. Women love emotions, GOOD and BAD ones. If you're angry then be fvcking angry, emotions are just emotions, at the end of the day, who the fvck cares if she leaves you cause you got angry, is not that she's the only women in the whole planet.

 

[jhonny9546]

You seem to ignore a lot of good advice that people give you and end up asking a similar question the next day.

Actually, this is the contrary.
Because I want to know more about it. So i'm interested instead of non interested.

Never spoke with her again for a out 3 months, after that the dynamic changed.

Now she respect you?

If you're not showing anger cause you wanna be seen as

I don't really have hunger or hate except for very few things.
For an instance, if you phisically touch someone in my family, I feel the "animal" urge to protect em.
So I'll try to control, but somehow I'll be angry.

But, if a woman it's screaming or **** testing me, I'll just be calm.

 

[New_Journey]

Now she respect you?

Yes, still there are some "actions" that have been for so long, but I just ignore.

But, if a woman it's screaming or **** testing me, I'll just be calm

What happens if she does something to piss you off? Are you calm or you show anger?

 

[jhonny9546]

Are you calm or you show anger?

I have a fire inside of me. When I get angry, this fire increases in size, but I must have been so "submissive" my entire life that I've innately learned how to control the anger.
I mean, I still feel the intensity inside me, like wanting to crack the wall, but I'll never do that.
In fact, I usually see the guys who get women easily, but those guys are really reactive and easily angered.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I have a fire inside of me. When I get angry, this fire increases in size, but I must have been so "submissive" my entire life that I've innately learned how to control the anger.
I mean, I still feel the intensity inside me, like wanting to crack the wall, but I'll never do that.
In fact, I usually see the guys who get women easily, but those guys are really reactive and easily angered.

Getting a woman isn't difficult, holding on to a woman is a whole different ballgame. Emotional self-control shows maturity. Volatile emotions show that someone hasn't matured yet.

 

[jhonny9546]

Volatile emotions show that someone hasn't matured yet.

Volatile emotions: This is the point. So why women in those LTR don't leave those men?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

So why women in those LTR don't leave those men?

Bad judgment. Big red flag.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If your family doesn't respect you, that's not a good thing.
If you have lost respect from your family, how and why would you regain it?

My family came to the point to respect more my BIL than me.

Half of all families are completely dysfunctional, not exactly sure that's a good measuring stick by itself.

 

[New_Journey]

Volatile emotions: This is the point. So why women in those LTR don't leave those men?

Cause women love strong emotions, good and bad ones. Also, if she's insecure and was raised with a lot of drama, they'll think is normal cause is familiar

 

[jhonny9546]

Bad judgment. Big red flag.

Let's say those people are in a 5 year LTR with kids.
Now, after the "cultural bluepill" they also have the "child bluepill" to help them excuse why they're "suffering" into this LTR.
Until the child become adult, then they'll separate.

Half of all families are completely dysfunctional, not exactly sure that's a good measuring stick by itself.

It is not, and so we want to know which are the functional ones, and try to replicate those if you're interested in raising a family.