Informing a woman of dealbreaker fetish

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There was a recent-ish thread on here about when to reveal fetishes that aren't dealbreakers.

I'm in the reverse position. My fetish is a dealbreaker.

Finding the right time to inform a woman is yet another hurdle.

I've heard mixed responses on when I should inform a woman.

Some say to tell her right away (so neither of us end up wasting our time if it turns out she's unwilling to do my fetish)

Some say to tell her right after we have sex for the first time.

Some say to tell her right before we're about to do our first bedroom session (so that way we'll have a chance to opt out of sex if it turns out she's unwilling to do my fetish, thus protecting her from a hump and dump)

Some say to tell her whenever she's comfortable enough to start leaving the bathroom door open (however soon or long that might be)

Lastly, some have told me to shed my fetish (which isn't an option)
 

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Isn't this your second attention-wh0ring thread about your cringy kinks? Or am I having a deja-vu?


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There was a recent-ish thread on here about when to reveal fetishes that aren't dealbreakers.

I'm in the reverse position. My fetish is a dealbreaker.

Finding the right time to inform a woman is yet another hurdle.

I've heard mixed responses on when I should inform a woman.

Some say to tell her right away (so neither of us end up wasting our time if it turns out she's unwilling to do my fetish)

Some say to tell her right after we have sex for the first time.

Some say to tell her right before we're about to do our first bedroom session (so that way we'll have a chance to opt out of sex if it turns out she's unwilling to do my fetish, thus protecting her from a hump and dump)

Some say to tell her whenever she's comfortable enough to start leaving the bathroom door open (however soon or long that might be)

Lastly, some have told me to shed my fetish (which isn't an option)
Uh, aren’t you having enormous anxiety about asking women for dates and rejection?

Shouldn’t you focus on getting a woman first?
 

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Isn't this your second attention-wh0ring thread about your cringy kinks? Or am I having a deja-vu?


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I don't even remember that thread from July 2023 (and I made the thread). Pretty freaky that you remember.

In any case, the thread from July 2023 was simply about the general topic of fetishes.

My current thread is about when to reveal my fetish to a woman.
 

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Uh, aren’t you having enormous anxiety about asking women for dates and rejection?

Shouldn’t you focus on getting a woman first?
Getting a woman in the first place takes priority, you're right.

But there are still instances where the question of when to reveal my fetish comes up.

For example, I never informed the woman I had my last date with about my fetish. Should I have?

And when I signed up for some apps this summer (per my therapist's recommendation), there was the question of whether I should have mentioned my fetish on my profile.
 

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I don't even remember that thread from July 2023 (and I made the thread). Pretty freaky that you remember.
I didn't 'remember', I just searched 'fetish' and your name and it turned up in several threads, including one with a similar title.
You don't have to be Sherlock to understand that you really really really badly want to talk about your aberrations.

In any case, the thread from July 2023 was simply about the general topic of fetishes.
No, you started it because you wanted to talk about your fetish and nobody reacted in the Kink Friendly thread.

My current thread is about when to reveal my fetish to a woman.
That was already answered in the other thread (big revelation: tell about your fetish right at the start), so again, this is a thread where you can act like your fetish is some big intrigue. Really, dude, nobody cares about your gerontophilia.

So, by all means, scream your fetish from the rooftops once again so everybody here can spend ten pages arguing how your fetish is not going to get you laid, yadayadayada, while you wouldn't get laid anyway because you need the time to open another thread complaining about your social awkwardness/anxiety and then start on about cougars and how it's not so strange that you desire dried up old c*nts because you're freakishly afraid of getting a woman pregnant... Just wondered, why don't you fvck trannies? You say you don't get anxious around men and most of them look like old women anyway, plus it would be a genuine miracle if you could get one pregnant, but I digress. Where was I? Oh yeah, you're just here to get attention and validation for being a Grade A mental case, because you've had tons of advice and haven't acted on a single one.

You're an attention seeking black hole, you're not even entertaining like the other clowns.
 

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Bruh...have you tried NOT revealing your fetishes to women and MAYBE establishing some connections and sexual chemistry before you tell them a bunch of weird s***?

I thought we addressed this a long time ago, why are you still asking the same questions? How hard is it to not be weird?
 

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My experience:

Throw down some good d*ck a few times, then talk about it in casual conversation. Ive got a bunch of weird kinks and stuff im into, but ive never met a woman who WASNT at least willing to try for some fun - you dont need some formal sit down with her, just say it outright.
 

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I didn't 'remember', I just searched 'fetish' and your name and it turned up in several threads, including one with a similar title.
You don't have to be Sherlock to understand that you really really really badly want to talk about your aberrations.


No, you started it because you wanted to talk about your fetish and nobody reacted in the Kink Friendly thread.


That was already answered in the other thread (big revelation: tell about your fetish right at the start), so again, this is a thread where you can act like your fetish is some big intrigue. Really, dude, nobody cares about your gerontophilia.

So, by all means, scream your fetish from the rooftops once again so everybody here can spend ten pages arguing how your fetish is not going to get you laid, yadayadayada, while you wouldn't get laid anyway because you need the time to open another thread complaining about your social awkwardness/anxiety and then start on about cougars and how it's not so strange that you desire dried up old c*nts because you're freakishly afraid of getting a woman pregnant... Just wondered, why don't you fvck trannies? You say you don't get anxious around men and most of them look like old women anyway, plus it would be a genuine miracle if you could get one pregnant, but I digress. Where was I? Oh yeah, you're just here to get attention and validation for being a Grade A mental case, because you've had tons of advice and haven't acted on a single one.

You're an attention seeking black hole, you're not even entertaining like the other clowns.
This thread isn't about my age preference (I don't even view my age preference as a fetish). My dealbreaker fetish is watching a woman pee.

The broads you refer to as "dried up" are your own peers. Way to disrespect your peers.

I've thought about going the tranny route before (to dodge pregnancy)
 

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Bruh...have you tried NOT revealing your fetishes to women and MAYBE establishing some connections and sexual chemistry before you tell them a bunch of weird s***?

I thought we addressed this a long time ago, why are you still asking the same questions? How hard is it to not be weird?
Ok, you answered my question: In your opinion, I should establish some connection/chemistry before revealing my fetish.

In college, I remember revealing my fetish on a 2nd date (and the broad denied me my fetish)
 

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My experience:

Throw down some good d*ck a few times, then talk about it in casual conversation. Ive got a bunch of weird kinks and stuff im into, but ive never met a woman who WASNT at least willing to try for some fun - you dont need some formal sit down with her, just say it outright.
The one pushback I've heard to that idea (holding off until after we've had sex to reveal my fetish): If the woman turns down my fetish, she's getting dumped.

A guy I know once told me I should reveal my fetish before banging a woman for the first time (so the woman doesn't get humped and dumped)

There's merit to his idea and your idea.
 

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There was a recent-ish thread on here about when to reveal fetishes that aren't dealbreakers.

I'm in the reverse position. My fetish is a dealbreaker.

Finding the right time to inform a woman is yet another hurdle.

I've heard mixed responses on when I should inform a woman.

Some say to tell her right away (so neither of us end up wasting our time if it turns out she's unwilling to do my fetish)

Some say to tell her right after we have sex for the first time.

Some say to tell her right before we're about to do our first bedroom session (so that way we'll have a chance to opt out of sex if it turns out she's unwilling to do my fetish, thus protecting her from a hump and dump)

Some say to tell her whenever she's comfortable enough to start leaving the bathroom door open (however soon or long that might be)

Lastly, some have told me to shed my fetish (which isn't an option)
At least buy the girl an ice cream cone, before asking: "Do you mind if I take a s-it in your mouth, right after I wash this Chipolte down with a liter of prune juice?"
 

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Just accept that some things are only going to happen on pornhub and don’t mention anything you can’t get an average woman to agree to.

I’d love to watch my girlfriend eat out another hot girl while I’m behind her but most girls aren’t going to agree to that so I try not to bring it up on the first date.
 

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Ok, you answered my question: In your opinion, I should establish some connection/chemistry before revealing my fetish.

In college, I remember revealing my fetish on a 2nd date (and the broad denied me my fetish)
Have you tried NOT having a fetish that you HAVE to explore with every woman you meet?
 

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This thread isn't about my age preference (I don't even view my age preference as a fetish). My dealbreaker fetish is watching a woman pee.
Yes, we know all about that fetish too.

The broads you refer to as "dried up" are your own peers. Way to disrespect your peers.
You have a penis, but that doesn't make you my peer. If you want to provoke me, you will have to do better, dud.

I've thought about going the tranny route before (to dodge pregnancy)
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
 

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Are you talking Golden Showers or just a relationship open enough that they leave the bathroom door open?
Why are you feeding the droll? You care about helping him out with his pee fetish?
 

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I didn't 'remember', I just searched 'fetish' and your name and it turned up in several threads, including one with a similar title.
You don't have to be Sherlock to understand that you really really really badly want to talk about your aberrations.


No, you started it because you wanted to talk about your fetish and nobody reacted in the Kink Friendly thread.


That was already answered in the other thread (big revelation: tell about your fetish right at the start), so again, this is a thread where you can act like your fetish is some big intrigue. Really, dude, nobody cares about your gerontophilia.

So, by all means, scream your fetish from the rooftops once again so everybody here can spend ten pages arguing how your fetish is not going to get you laid, yadayadayada, while you wouldn't get laid anyway because you need the time to open another thread complaining about your social awkwardness/anxiety and then start on about cougars and how it's not so strange that you desire dried up old c*nts because you're freakishly afraid of getting a woman pregnant... Just wondered, why don't you fvck trannies? You say you don't get anxious around men and most of them look like old women anyway, plus it would be a genuine miracle if you could get one pregnant, but I digress. Where was I? Oh yeah, you're just here to get attention and validation for being a Grade A mental case, because you've had tons of advice and haven't acted on a single one.

You're an attention seeking black hole, you're not even entertaining like the other clowns.
If there was a "Post of the year" award, this would have my vote...literally spit up my coffee reading this...

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
 
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