Waves of communication

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Have you also experienced waves of communication when talking to a woman? For example, you talk in person, and afterwards you chat online for a few days, but then it dies off? And it picks up again next time you either chat her up or you see her again in person, and the cycle repeats.
 

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Well, in the early stages, this kind of unsteady communication causes dwindling down of the momentum/rapport, decreasing interest and ultimately resulting in a flake or rejection/non-interest
 

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Well, in the early stages, this kind of unsteady communication causes dwindling down of the momentum/rapport, decreasing interest and ultimately resulting in a flake or rejection/non-interest
No it doesn't...

1. Get number
2. Text her to set up plans
3. Text her the day before/earlier in the day to confirm plans
4. Arrive

There doesn't need to be anything more to this. If a girl texts me outside of those things, I'll reply, because I'm human. But outside of that, I don't need to have a conversation throughout the day to "build rapport". That's what the date is for...and if she flakes it's because you didn't establish attraction when you got her number, or f***ed up majorly during the texting process.
 

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and if she flakes it's because you didn't establish attraction when you got her number, or f***ed up majorly during the texting process.
One of the advantages of sending fewer messages in the early stages is that it reduces the chance of being disqualified by her.

I do the same thing as BPH does. Text mainly for logistics. It's a great filter for women with high interest. Women with lukewarm interest will cancel the date or disappear.
 
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Well, in the early stages, this kind of unsteady communication causes dwindling down of the momentum/rapport, decreasing interest and ultimately resulting in a flake or rejection/non-interest
Then you're not doing enough when you see her.

When I'm with a woman I give her my undivided attention, build that rapport and gain that momentum. The more I can amp it up the better. Then when I'm not with her I pull back and live my life, of course I'll respond if she reaches out, but I'll let there be some space before our next time together where I will once again give her my undivided attention.

Now, if I play it right when she's in my presence, she's going to miss my presence in the time in between. If I were to try to infinitely keep up the momentum it would deflate all anticipation. It would also show that I don't have much going on besides her and that I might be a dependent type, not an attractive trait.

If you play this right she'll be trying to get you to give her more attention outside of dates, she wants MORE. That's a woman pursuing you. To keep this up you give her breadcrumbs of your attention, some to indicate you're still interested, but not quite as much as she desires. Then when you see her again you really pay attention to her, rewarding her for being patient.
 

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The core idea during the talking stage, in which is filled with dates, texting, and phone conversations, is to create constant tension and suspense. As a man, your goal is to ensure that nothing feels predictable. This can involve surprises, such as taking her to a new place, revealing something unexpected about yourself, or texting/calling her out of the blue. Some examples are like smoking weed, drinking at a bar, taking them to a park near a lake at night, or having casual sex. The premise is that she will look forward to these new surprises with anticipation and enjoy exploring the unknown with you. However, if you become predictable, the allure will fade, and the excitement will diminish if you keep repeating the same patterns.

With this in mind, it is important to note that constant texting early on kills the seductions since you will become too familiar. This doesn't happen right away since there's so much to uncover about someone new. But there comes a point when a woman starts to idealize you, only to be disappointed when they realize you're not what they imagine. It is not about being seen too often or being too available, since if you disappear for too long someone else may catch their eye; the real issue is that if they know too much about you, they can't keep the fantasy alive.

That is the logic behind it and why people are told to stay busy and only contact for dates since it will be less methodical or strategized. Nonetheless, your pattern of communication cycle will become dull after a while.
 
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