Boy, ALL WOMEN are BPD. And I have yet to be disproven on that.
Well, I counsel women and not all of them are BPD.
According to the Mayo clinic:
Borderline personality disorder affects how you feel about yourself, relate to others and behave.
Symptoms may include:
- A strong fear of abandonment. This includes going to extreme measures so you're not separated or rejected, even if these fears are made up.
- A pattern of unstable, intense relationships, such as believing someone is perfect one moment and then suddenly believing the person doesn't care enough or is cruel.
- Quick changes in how you see yourself. This includes shifting goals and values, as well as seeing yourself as bad or as if you don't exist.
- Periods of stress-related paranoia and loss of contact with reality. These periods can last from a few minutes to a few hours.
- Impulsive and risky behavior, such as gambling, dangerous driving, unsafe sex, spending sprees, binge eating, drug misuse, or sabotaging success by suddenly quitting a good job or ending a positive relationship.
- Threats of suicide or self-injury, often in response to fears of separation or rejection.
- Wide mood swings that last from a few hours to a few days. These mood swings can include periods of being very happy, irritable or anxious, or feeling shame.
- Ongoing feelings of emptiness.
- Inappropriate, strong anger, such as losing your temper often, being sarcastic or bitter, or physically fighting.
People like to throw around psychological terms they hardly understand. A favourite is the 'psycho ex', but just because someone is a callous bastard, they're not automatically psychopathic. A woman with trust issues who is clingy and afraid to be abandoned has borderline traits, but unless she has all the symptoms above, she's quite 'the norm', i.e. 'normal'. The Disorder part comes when they are harmful either to themselves or to others / society.
I don't know whether
@fknhelp's girlfriend was actually diagnosed or whether she merely showed some of the traits listen in this comment, but an official analysis isn't necessary to act in your own best interest and walk away from toxic people and seek out healthy people.