I don't enjoy going on dates.

[nelysses]

Hello everyone
I have asked a lot of weird things in the past but today is very different.
Since I joined the site I have learned a lot of things and met a lot of girls.
But it doesn't give me any pleasure anymore. I used to get excited etc. Now I don't even want to go.
When I see someone, I only think about sex. Other than that, I don't get any pleasure. I went on a date with a girl 2 days ago. She wanted to meet again tomorrow and when I refused, she blocked me. Because I couldn't feel anything towards her. Especially if I masturbated, I don't even feel like talking. In this case, my desire to meet new people also disappears. I act like I'm in love with her for a moment and then I don't even want to talk to her an hour later..

Normally I can understand this but I can't understand how this situation can happen when I'm only 21. Flirting etc. doesn't give me any pleasure.
Is it normal to see women for sex? Or how can I go back to the old days?
I now know what to say and where but it doesn't give me any pleasure. The last time I had fun was last year and I'm still looking for that girl. She taught me big lessons and after that, everyone seems so artificial.
I don't even want to talk about it. Recently a girl invited me to her house etc. But I said I don't want to go...

It will sound ridiculous but it is a serious problem for me. How can I solve this?

It's like "I'm okey myself and I want other girls just for sex" and When I masturbate I don't even wanna listen them.
The girl I met 2 days ago was a very nice person. She paid for the coffee because I bought the food (she ran and paid before me, she looked funny ). We have similar interests, I am trying to improve my English and she said she could help..

Buttt I couldn't feel anything. She wanted to see me tomorrow but I said no. Then she blocked me.
When I don't masturbate I want to go but the moment I do all my desire goes away. In short, I only see her sexually.

 

[BPH]

How about you stop posting until you start listening to advice.

First you want sex so bad that you're asking for advice seducing a r*pe victim, and now this?

Especially if I masturbated, I don't even feel like talking. In this case, my desire to meet new people also disappears

It's like "I'm okey myself and I want other girls just for sex" and When I masturbate I don't even wanna listen them.

When I don't masturbate I want to go but the moment I do all my desire goes away. In short, I only see her sexually.

Stop masturbating you fu**ing idiot. I'd lock your threads if I had the power.

 

[corrector]

She taught me big lessons and after that, everyone seems so artificial.

It is because they are artificial. You need to find real women who are not artificial.

 

[Alucard88Cool forum!]

You know what? let's say that most of men who mansturbate are having your same problem. When we mansturbate, we basically are producing chemicals in our brain witch give us a lot o pleasure, expecially with porn. And so on, doing it for many many years, it basically became an addiction. Mansturbating not only give us depression and addiction, but also consume all our energy and we loose any kind of stimulus on going outside and met girls. This is because we start to objectify women, being just a "visual object". If you go on youtube you can find a lot of videos about mansturbation and why is very bad for men.
I also was addicted to porn, as most of the guys in the world. But I noticed that by quitting even just for a week, I start to feel a lot of energy, I start do many things, and also I start to have the pleasure to get out and met girls.
I am not still out of the addiction, is not something so easy to do. After many years of mansturbation, after so much addiction, it became a necessary hanit for our brain. By quitting porn and mansturbation, we can start a new life. So yes, to quit porn and masturbation is the advise, but I would say, start to mansturbate only one time per week, or even one time per months. Than, you will start to feel so energyzed, beleave me.

Good luck

 

[Vanderdonck]

Hello everyone
I have asked a lot of weird things in the past but today is very different.
Since I joined the site I have learned a lot of things and met a lot of girls.
But it doesn't give me any pleasure anymore. I used to get excited etc. Now I don't even want to go.
When I see someone, I only think about sex. Other than that, I don't get any pleasure. I went on a date with a girl 2 days ago. She wanted to meet again tomorrow and when I refused, she blocked me. Because I couldn't feel anything towards her. Especially if I masturbated, I don't even feel like talking. In this case, my desire to meet new people also disappears. I act like I'm in love with her for a moment and then I don't even want to talk to her an hour later..

Normally I can understand this but I can't understand how this situation can happen when I'm only 21. Flirting etc. doesn't give me any pleasure.
Is it normal to see women for sex? Or how can I go back to the old days?
I now know what to say and where but it doesn't give me any pleasure. The last time I had fun was last year and I'm still looking for that girl. She taught me big lessons and after that, everyone seems so artificial.
I don't even want to talk about it. Recently a girl invited me to her house etc. But I said I don't want to go...

It will sound ridiculous but it is a serious problem for me. How can I solve this?

It's like "I'm okey myself and I want other girls just for sex" and When I masturbate I don't even wanna listen them.
The girl I met 2 days ago was a very nice person. She paid for the coffee because I bought the food (she ran and paid before me, she looked funny ). We have similar interests, I am trying to improve my English and she said she could help..

Buttt I couldn't feel anything. She wanted to see me tomorrow but I said no. Then she blocked me.
When I don't masturbate I want to go but the moment I do all my desire goes away. In short, I only see her sexually.

You are essentially saying that you see women as masturbation toys for you. Otherwise they would be turning you on in some way besides having a banging body. Nothing wrong with physical attraction but if you want strictly a receptacle, get a hooker or better yet keep masturbating.

I'm not sure what to tell you about how to experience women from an erogenous standpoint. Talking to them, making them laugh, knowing their quirks, these are all things that go into the satisfaction of having sex with someone, even if it's a same night ONS I'm going to know them on some level.

Only thing I can say is the cause>effect you've stated is wank>no interest, so maybe stop wanking and talk to women with a full scrotum. See what happens.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Dating sucks for the average man. You aren't supposed to enjoy most of them.

 

[Solomon]

OP are you depressed? depression will kill your drive and zest to pursue women real quick

OR

DISCLAIMER: I'm NOT HERE MAKING FUN OF OP I'M BEING SERIOUS

Maybe you don't like women, have you ever found yourself attracted to men?

 

[Solomon]

Another thing I wanna add is stop watching porn
Porn use to kill my drive for women as well as you get older it's easier to fall into that pittrap
I haven't watched or masturbated to porn (or masturbated in general) in over 5 years
It has made a noticeable difference especially with how you view women
Women degrades women, men and sex
It's a wicked thing IMO

 

[pipeman84]

I actually see where OP is coming from ... if you're not interested in a girl when you have post nut clarity, then why waste time 'dating' her?
If you're honest with yourself, you can determine quite early in the interaction if that girl has anything to offer beside sex. And then you have 2 choices: either be authentic and move on or be a player wannabe and pretend you're interested in her until you manage to get her into bed.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I have asked a lot of weird things in the past but today is very different.

I hoped, but saw my hope trampled in the gutter.
Woe is me.
For I am lost in the house of the ignorant and the repugnant
And whichever way I turn
I'm thwarted by the mockery of the foolish.
And subject to the ire of the righteous.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I actually see where OP is coming from ... if you're not interested in a girl when you have post nut clarity, then why waste time 'dating' her?
If you're honest with yourself, you can determine quite early in the interaction if that girl has anything to offer beside sex. And then you have 2 choices: either be authentic and move on or be a player wannabe and pretend you're interested in her until you manage to get her into bed.

So the first choice because the second option is basically a lie lol. Most guys don’t have the balls to do this because they are operating on a scarcity mindset.

 

[nelysses]

How about you stop posting until you start listening to advice.

First you want sex so bad that you're asking for advice seducing a r*pe victim, and now this?





Stop masturbating you fu**ing idiot. I'd lock your threads if I had the power.

It is because they are artificial. You need to find real women who are not artificial.

You know what? let's say that most of men who mansturbate are having your same problem. When we mansturbate, we basically are producing chemicals in our brain witch give us a lot o pleasure, expecially with porn. And so on, doing it for many many years, it basically became an addiction. Mansturbating not only give us depression and addiction, but also consume all our energy and we loose any kind of stimulus on going outside and met girls. This is because we start to objectify women, being just a "visual object". If you go on youtube you can find a lot of videos about mansturbation and why is very bad for men.
I also was addicted to porn, as most of the guys in the world. But I noticed that by quitting even just for a week, I start to feel a lot of energy, I start do many things, and also I start to have the pleasure to get out and met girls.
I am not still out of the addiction, is not something so easy to do. After many years of mansturbation, after so much addiction, it became a necessary hanit for our brain. By quitting porn and mansturbation, we can start a new life. So yes, to quit porn and masturbation is the advise, but I would say, start to mansturbate only one time per week, or even one time per months. Than, you will start to feel so energyzed, beleave me.

Good luck

You are essentially saying that you see women as masturbation toys for you. Otherwise they would be turning you on in some way besides having a banging body. Nothing wrong with physical attraction but if you want strictly a receptacle, get a hooker or better yet keep masturbating.

I'm not sure what to tell you about how to experience women from an erogenous standpoint. Talking to them, making them laugh, knowing their quirks, these are all things that go into the satisfaction of having sex with someone, even if it's a same night ONS I'm going to know them on some level.

Only thing I can say is the cause>effect you've stated is wank>no interest, so maybe stop wanking and talk to women with a full scrotum. See what happens.

Dating sucks for the average man. You aren't supposed to enjoy most of them.

Another thing I wanna add is stop watching porn
Porn use to kill my drive for women as well as you get older it's easier to fall into that pittrap
I haven't watched or masturbated to porn (or masturbated in general) in over 5 years
It has made a noticeable difference especially with how you view women
Women degrades women, men and sex
It's a wicked thing IMO

I actually see where OP is coming from ... if you're not interested in a girl when you have post nut clarity, then why waste time 'dating' her?
If you're honest with yourself, you can determine quite early in the interaction if that girl has anything to offer beside sex. And then you have 2 choices: either be authentic and move on or be a player wannabe and pretend you're interested in her until you manage to get her into bed.

Yesterday I went out with a girl again and had serious sex in the cafe toilet.

And I realized that if there are no feelings, I don't want sex. I met a girl last year. That girl was the reason I entered this site. And yesterday I realized that I'm still looking for that girl in everyone.
While I liked just chatting with her, I didn't even like having sex with the girls after her. In fact, I felt like she was filling a void inside me with ridiculous pleasures.
I don't think I'll ever have sex with someone again without feeling something emotional. Thank you everyone.

 

[corrector]

Yesterday I went out with a girl again and had serious sex in the cafe toilet.

I think you are looking for someone with a higher caliber? You are a medical student with high hopes for the future. The type of woman that would degrade herself like won't leave a good taste in your mind for dealing with her.

Why did you go to a cafe toilet? Was this her idea? Your idea? Did you have an erection this time that worked or still have ED?

And I realized that if there are no feelings, I don't want sex. I met a girl last year. That girl was the reason I entered this site. And yesterday I realized that I'm still looking for that girl in everyone.
While I liked just chatting with her, I didn't even like having sex with the girls after her. In fact, I felt like she was filling a void inside me with ridiculous pleasures.
I don't think I'll ever have sex with someone again without feeling something emotional. Thank you everyone.

This is post-nut clarity, after the fact. I'd like to see how you feel a few days or a week later. We'll probably hear another story.

 

[nelysses]

I think you are looking for someone with a higher caliber? You are a medical student with high hopes for the future. The type of woman that would degrade herself like won't leave a good taste in your mind for dealing with her.

Why did you go to a cafe toilet? Was this her idea? Your idea? Did you have an erection this time that worked or still have ED?



This is post-nut clarity, after the fact. I'd like to see how you feel a few days or a week later. We'll probably hear another story.

The girl said it hurt last time so we didn't experience anything good. This time it was okay. Even though it still wasn't the erection I wanted, it was okay. You're right about the girl. It happened suddenly while we were sitting in the cafe. But yes, it wasn't what I wanted. I don't even want to talk to the girl now but I don't know how to tell her.

By the way, I don't think there is a post-nut clarity
I didn't know what I wanted, I was blaming myself for the previous girl etc. But I realized what I wanted now. So this was the end
but I still have some stupid little problems. This time not with girls

 

[corrector]

The girl said it hurt last time so we didn't experience anything good. This time it was okay. Even though it still wasn't the erection I wanted, it was okay.

That's big. What do you think worked this time? Did you stay away from porn? Did you think it was more risque and you could get caught and that turned both of you on more?

You're right about the girl. It happened suddenly while we were sitting in the cafe. But yes, it wasn't what I wanted. I don't even want to talk to the girl now but I don't know how to tell her.

She sounds like a slvtty type of girl, to lead you to a toilet, so you both sexed each other. Maybe she is ovulating and is extra horney.

By the way, I don't think there is a post-nut clarity

If you came to your realization after having sex, then, by definition, that is post-nut clarity. You did not think this way BEFORE having sex. It was AFTER. Therefore, you have CLARITY after sex (ie post-nut clarity)

I didn't know what I wanted, I was blaming myself for the previous girl etc. But I realized what I wanted now. So this was the end
but I still have some stupid little problems. This time not with girls

What are these stupid little problems then?

 

[nelysses]

What are these stupid little problems then?

that friend problem man. Not about girls or other things.

By the way I didn't do anything different. I just realized that problem was about the first girl. At least that's what I think right now. As I said, I can't say "hard as a rock" but we were able to have sex. And I didn't care and just tried to enjoy it.

 

[corrector]

that friend problem man. Not about girls or other things.

By the way I didn't do anything different. I just realized that problem was about the first girl. At least that's what I think right now. As I said, I can't say "hard as a rock" but we were able to have sex. And I didn't care and just tried to enjoy it.

Did you like that or is fapping to porn more fun?

 

[nelysses]

Did you like that or is fapping to porn more fun?

fapping is more fun.

I realized that what I enjoy about girls is not the sex. It's just convincing them of it. And the moment they accept, all my desire goes away.
Convincing the girl to the cafe was fun. not the sex.

But like I said, all I care about right now is that one friend
Not any girl.

 

[corrector]

fapping is more fun.

I realized that what I enjoy about girls is not the sex. It's just convincing them of it. And the moment they accept, all my desire goes away.
Convincing the girl to the cafe was fun. not the sex.

But like I said, all I care about right now is that one friend
Not any girl.

That is very anticlimatic for what was supposed to be a thrilling experience.
It could also be that porn has rewired your brain. It fits a textbook profile that porn ruins the desire to be with real women. When was the last time you looked at porn and fapped?

 

[nelysses]

That is very anticlimatic for what was supposed to be a thrilling experience.
It could also be that porn has rewired your brain. It fits a textbook profile that porn ruins the desire to be with real women. When was the last time you looked at porn and fapped?

yesterday man.
If I don't do it, I feel very needy. When I do, these situations happen.
But I won't. I want to enjoy something again.