How to keep the power and not lose power?

[Stephen89]

I think some of you may have read some struggles in past threads with a relative who for years belittled, put me down, ostracised, manipulate others, bully.

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm.

I have stopped being there and blocked people for years. With my academics and self e potential, I've proved then wrong.

They do wish to ruin my dignity and make me a scapegoat. Mess me around saying "get him a women".

How to keep and not lose power:

-Never be there
-Keep my distance
-Be away
-Keep well away

-Do not communicate with them
-Do not be in there connections, links, WhatsApp, groups

-Dont think
-Dont care
-Ignore
-Do not acknowledge them

-Be calm
-Be silent

-Block their social media
-Block them completely

-Do not tell them anything
-Silence, calm
-Limit contact with them

Anything else to add?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Anything else to add?

Grow some cojones and just ignore them?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You don't "keep power", it's defined by your actions and what you allow.

Nobody who has power walks around thinking about how they need to keep power. If you are worried about that, then you don't have any to begin with.

It would be like asking "how do I become more confident?"

You become more confident by being more confident. There isn't really any other way to do it.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You become more confident by being more confident. There isn't really any other way to do it.

Nope.
You gain confidence by challenging yourself and conquering your fears. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of others, fear of yourself. Confidence is born from accomplishments.

Confidence without accomplishments is arrogance.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think some of you may have read some struggles in past threads with a relative who for years belittled, put me down, ostracised, manipulate others, bully.

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm.

I have stopped being there and blocked people for years. With my academics and self e potential, I've proved then wrong.

They do wish to ruin my dignity and make me a scapegoat. Mess me around saying "get him a women".

How to keep and not lose power:

-Never be there
-Keep my distance
-Be away
-Keep well away

-Do not communicate with them
-Do not be in there connections, links, WhatsApp, groups

-Dont think
-Dont care
-Ignore
-Do not acknowledge them

-Be calm
-Be silent

-Block their social media
-Block them completely

-Do not tell them anything
-Silence, calm
-Limit contact with them

Anything else to add?

I agree with the obstacle being the way, in other words, what is clearly a dread fear of yours can be the path to your power. I will tell you right now, power does not run. So all the evasion and your seclusion is a delusion you have built to go hide in and not face the real world. What about taking some classes and therapy related to social interaction, is it possible as a highly intelligent person you may be neurodivergent?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Nope.
You gain confidence by challenging yourself and conquering your fears. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of others, fear of yourself. Confidence is born from accomplishments.

Confidence without accomplishments is arrogance.

Not necessarily.

You have to actually believe you can accomplish anything before you actually do it.

And believing that you can do it is confidence.

More importantly it's "self confidence" which is the belief in yourself without needing any external boosters.

Could you imagine where we would be throughout history of all if the people who made groundbreaking new discoveries and technological advancements only did so after they had already succeeded?

We would still be in the stone age because they all would have given up.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You have to actually believe you can accomplish anything before you actually do it.

First you have to conquer your fear of failure before you actually try to accomplish something challenging.

Could you imagine where we would be throughout history of all if the people who made groundbreaking new discoveries and technological advancements only did so after they had already succeeded?

Most inventors who did discoveries learned to ignore their fear of failure to go against the grain and think outside the box. Often they were mocked / ridiculed / persecuted for challenging the status quo, but their own curiosity was more decisive.
I'm not saying you attain confidence only after succeeding in your goal.
Confidence grows with every step on the perilous path and gains momentum with ever challenge conquered, and with success the confidence becomes more and more internalised, at which point you no longer act confident but actually are confident.

 

[BaronOfHair]

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm

Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat

 

[Ricky]

Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat

As Arnold say… ignore the naysayers

 

[BaronOfHair]

As Arnold say… ignore the naysayers

And as Dirk here would remind us

, as long as you've got the touch, you've got the POWAAAAH!!!

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Not necessarily.

You have to actually believe you can accomplish anything before you actually do it.

And believing that you can do it is confidence.

More importantly it's "self confidence" which is the belief in yourself without needing any external boosters.

Could you imagine where we would be throughout history of all if the people who made groundbreaking new discoveries and technological advancements only did so after they had already succeeded?

We would still be in the stone age because they all would have given up.

Well said

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat

My uncle always said that's a "you" problem, not a "their".

Meaning, it's affecting me mentally, but these people are oblivious to it all

Ignorance is bliss. So if you can figure out how to be stupid, there's money in it

You'll just always be a shovel man

 

[plumber]

Confidence comes from success. Success comes from risk or hard work/investment.

Remember the very old movie Karata Kid. We see the perfect path to confidence.

Confidence only comes from success. No short cut available.

The way to get confidence is to become good at something. Nice if something that others think is cool.

Number one reason men fail with women for long or short term, no confidence. Not good/great at anything, due usually to lack of effort to learn to be good at something.

Failure never builds confidence no matter how many times we fail.

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Find and join your local martial arts gym. (boxing, karate, BJJ,..... ,.....,.....). Your confidence will grow with your ability, 100%).
When you know in your mind that you can take them down, they will know it also and you won't have to and the problem will be gone.