Exactly what I have been telling people women do oftentimes on OLD..."Burned Haystack" method

[BackInTheGame78]

Apparently this is a "thing", but it's not new...been happening for a while.

Basically women on OLD look to disqualify you really for any reason as quickly as possible...and guys tend to give them reasons willingly when they don't need to.

Giving her access to your social media before a date? Why? It's only used to potentially disqualify you.

Answering loaded questions? Why? Again...only potentially used to disqualify you.

Sending her tons of pics? Why? Only used to disqualify you if they don't like the way you look in one of them.

Stop playing into their hands and stop giving them reasons to disqualify you. They might not make sense but when you have endless options, you have to be able to discard people quickly and have a system or method of doing so. While it might not make sense, that is irrelevant, it's happening.

Stop giving them a match to burn the haystack.

I'd sworn off dating apps until I heard about the 'burned haystack' approach women are swearing by. So I put it to the test.

Jennie Young started a Facebook group for the Burned Haystack Dating Method that now has more than 100,000 members.

www.businessinsider.com

 

[SW15]

Women have endless options when using tech-based methods. That's going to make them more selective. I agree with not giving them much to work with and any reasons to disqualify.

Meeting women through in-person methods is better but many women met through in person methods are also using swipe apps. It's great to meet a woman in person who isn't a swipe app user.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It's fun disqualifying them for sending you nudes.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Just to play devil’s advocate, isn’t this just accelerating the inevitable? I understand the goal is to get them off the phone and meet in person, but I think the likelihood of a successful connection is still low since the woman will eventually discover things she might not like.

 

[MatureDJ]

Think about this article - a freaking single mommy is rejecting anyone who doesn't play perfect TextGame.

 

[SW15]

a freaking single mommy is rejecting anyone who doesn't play perfect TextGame.

I didn't realize that woman in that Business Insider article is a single mom.

There's so much demand for a single mom's pussie that she has to use "burned haystack" to qualify her abundance of options.

 

[The Duke]

Just to play devil’s advocate, isn’t this just accelerating the inevitable? I understand the goal is to get them off the phone and meet in person, but I think the likelihood of a successful connection is still low since the woman will eventually discover things she might not like.

A woman has to play defense mode, and her best defensive play is finding ways to disqualify you. The goal here is to get her attracted enough that she starts to lower her defensive guard and approach the relationship with a different mindset. So if you stop providing fodder for the fire, you are more likely to develop that attraction. Once she is attracted, her defenses go down and she won't be as critical and looking for ways to disqualify you. Thats when you can be more open with social media, pics, stories, whatever you share, etc.

 

[Solomon]

Men need to do the "Burned Haystack" method as well, even for chicks you have banged it saves you time, trouble and heartache. IMO while we men don't have the options that women it allows you to keep your integrity, in the past when it comes to OLD there's a lotta times I kept my mouth shut to get some and most times it wasn't wroth it