PlatoPacks23
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so there's someone I'm interested in (continued from this: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/dealing-w-super-talkative-girl.282725/)
this weekend I saw her again but in a slightly larger group context. it was her, with 4 other friends, 2 of who I knew already, and the other 2 being their significant others. so we were the 2 only "single" people haha. I hadn't met 2 of them before and REALLY enjoyed the group as a whole hanging out with them, from a social circle situation.
it went pretty good but obvs tough to escalate in that sort of scenario. we sat together and talked a lot, and at "times" was definitely a flirty vibe together.
after we went out drinking, she did mention a few times about not having a BF (to the group as a whole) and talked a bit about not having a +1 for certain things. while this was good, she also talked with me about finding someone else we both know (from a class we take) as interesting (and someone IMO tbh think she's more interested in than me)... but to me it feels like she's keeping her options open.
obvious this is long winded, but where to go from here? my gut says she has like some sort of interest in me even if I'm not her obvious type, but at same time I feel like I'm 2nd option to that other guy. And I feel like if things go wrong here, then the social circle within that group makes it awkward to hang with them anymore.
I'm not sure where to go, it's obviously tougher when you get extremely high interest from a girl rather than this which feels more mixed at best. it goes against most advice here, but it seems like the most natural way for this to go is to continue to hang out with the LARGER group and get to know her better, rather than forcing her into a "date" scenario where she feels less comfortable. and the group thing seems like it could be a natural progression where I'm just constantly seeing her every weekend if not more so.
this weekend I saw her again but in a slightly larger group context. it was her, with 4 other friends, 2 of who I knew already, and the other 2 being their significant others. so we were the 2 only "single" people haha. I hadn't met 2 of them before and REALLY enjoyed the group as a whole hanging out with them, from a social circle situation.
it went pretty good but obvs tough to escalate in that sort of scenario. we sat together and talked a lot, and at "times" was definitely a flirty vibe together.
after we went out drinking, she did mention a few times about not having a BF (to the group as a whole) and talked a bit about not having a +1 for certain things. while this was good, she also talked with me about finding someone else we both know (from a class we take) as interesting (and someone IMO tbh think she's more interested in than me)... but to me it feels like she's keeping her options open.
obvious this is long winded, but where to go from here? my gut says she has like some sort of interest in me even if I'm not her obvious type, but at same time I feel like I'm 2nd option to that other guy. And I feel like if things go wrong here, then the social circle within that group makes it awkward to hang with them anymore.
I'm not sure where to go, it's obviously tougher when you get extremely high interest from a girl rather than this which feels more mixed at best. it goes against most advice here, but it seems like the most natural way for this to go is to continue to hang out with the LARGER group and get to know her better, rather than forcing her into a "date" scenario where she feels less comfortable. and the group thing seems like it could be a natural progression where I'm just constantly seeing her every weekend if not more so.