Men in relationships that would rather jack off than bang their gf/wife

[Pierce Manhammer]

Most guys have boring sex lives and most guys aren't very good in the sack to begin with so the women don't really feel the desire to initiate anything with them after a while...how much boring, lame sex can you have before it becomes better to watch a movie or read a book?

But dude, all the posters on Sosuave are SEX GODS! Have you not read any threads? Geez man, catch up!

 

[Pandora]

Just on a side, when I go to business lunches with older women, the one thing they tell me is their man "can do anything, but can't cheat." That's the only thing the care about, the cheating. Why? Because that's where their leverage is the lowest and the man's leverage is the highest.

Very interesting. I guess this is why they say women hate cheating not because of the sex per se. They hate it because they lose a monopoly on her mans sexual access. Interesting.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

how much boring, lame sex can you have before it becomes better to watch a movie or read a book?

Depends on the book.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Very interesting. I guess this is why they say women hate cheating not because of the sex per se. They hate it because they lose a monopoly on her mans sexual access. Interesting.

I think they want a monopoly on his emotional-sexual access. Most women are fine w/their men cheating if it's purely sexual and not a relationship (and they don't hear about it or look like fools). This is where men trip up big time.

 

[typical]

I smell the incel on you. Defo not seen even 10 different vaginas let alone 20.

Did I hit a nerve lad ?

Not the mollycoddled answer you were looking for eh ? Oh Well tough luck man.

 

[dueler-x]

It happened to me in my last LTR. Ex gf was probably a HB8+. Pretty, petite, and in great shape. About the first three years I couldn't get enough of her sexually. Did it all. Then, into about year 3, the desire to have sex with her started to fade. If you have a hot fudge sundae every day, at some point you're going to get sick of them. I did really enjoy her companionship though and we had a lot in common so we did a lot as a couple. But I just couldn't get over the redundancy of screwing the same woman for years on end. Finally into year 6 and beyond, the relationship turned into more of a friendship and we became roommates more than lovers. You can't fake what's not there. We broke up at about the 9 year mark and though I miss her companionship sometimes, I DO NOT miss banging her. I've banged a large number of women since her and it's the newness of the girls that turns me on. I suspect many if not most men are wired this way.

This happened to me as well too, it went downhill faster when her flaws were more apparent. The famous Charlie Harper quote rings so true "For every gorgeous woman out there, there's a guy who's tired of banging her"

 

[RickTheToad]

Most guys have boring sex lives and most guys aren't very good in the sack to begin with so the women don't really feel the desire to initiate anything with them after a while...how much boring, lame sex can you have before it becomes better to watch a movie or read a book?

You need to think more positively about yourself dude. Practice will make you better. Don't give up!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You need to think more positively about yourself dude. Practice will make you better. Don't give up!

That definitely doesn't describe me. This beast is more than they can handle

 

[jhonny9546]

Maybe I’m an anomaly. I’m not a pr0n user. Do I once in a blue moon? Sure but not to fap. I will however look at videos of gals I’ve taken while banging them, does that count as pr0n? Still, taking matters into my own hands isn’t a thing. I will look at my folder to remember an encounter.

Maybe it’s because I didn’t grow up with easy access to it? It doesn’t provide me any satisfaction. I’ve only once or twice come across a woman that wants to show me some clip she liked, usually they’re hyper sexual types with issues, as they say.

Why do you record yourself while having sex?

 

[CornbreadFed]

It hasn’t gotten stale for me, but my desire to have sex past 11pm has dramatically decreased.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Why do you record yourself while having sex?

So you masturbate to a lover, albeit vicariously.
Like Pierce, I don't need porn, I have a whole library of videos made by and with lovers.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Why do you record yourself while having sex?

Why do anything? Once you have a woman’s trust she doesn’t mind, in fact it turns them on even if “OMG no one has ever done that before!” (I’d say 50/50 chance someone has but who cares). It’s part of the bad boy schtich. And frankly I’m an inspired cinematographer and no I won’t share. In some cases the girls themselves FAP and like having our recordings to do so. You could also call it receipts or trophies. Because some people would never believe my claims otherwise - bros here for example. Haters gunna hate, and I like making them hate me more.

“He who can, does.”

 

[jhonny9546]

In some cases the girls themselves FAP and like having our recordings to do so.

audio or video registrations?

 

[Juanto]

When my girlfriend stopped taking the pill and started crying if I pulled out… that’s when the idea of sex with her repulsed me. It was a mental block I couldn’t get over. I did enjoy sex with her, but I could never *** or enjoy the moment. I started masturbating and I saw 2 prostitues. She looked down my phone while I was sleeping and found out. I was kind of relieved. I said “look, we’re not having sex, I don’t want a baby, I was horny.”

why didnt you continue to **** her but cumming outside of her, like on top of her or something like that?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

why didnt you continue to **** her but cumming outside of her, like on top of her or something like that?

and started crying if I pulled out

Read better, grasshopper.

He raw-dogged her and she wanted him to ejaculate inside her to make babies, but he felt forced into fatherhood. He did pull out, but she would start crying when he did, so that took the joy out of ejaculating on her face (crying makes some, but not all men hard). So he'd rather mess about with sex workers and masturbate than facing her crying face whenever he just wanted to empty his sack.

 

[Juanto]

Read better, grasshopper.

He raw-dogged her and she wanted him to ejaculate inside her to make babies, but he felt forced into fatherhood. He did pull out, but she would start crying when he did, so that took the joy out of ejaculating on her face (crying makes some, but not all men hard). So he'd rather mess about with sex workers and masturbate than facing her crying face whenever he just wanted to empty his sack.

missed that last part, thank you for correcting me. In that case, not much one can do in that situation, I get it.

 

[Barrister]

Weight gain certainly can play a role. Also the woman losing any desire to get done up if she traditionally did so and suddenly is wearing a sweat outfit around the house with zero makeup. That is along the same vein of her weight as far as just taking care of herself and making herself appear desirable.

A bigger issue is probably her attitude. The more secure a woman feels the more she will challenge the man. The more challenges, especially if it involves coldness/bitchiness, certainly is a major mood killer. You aren't going to feel like banging a woman who constantly talks to you in a disrespectful manner.

 

[Dr_jitsu]

Plenty of men confess me to find themselves in such position, most of them 30+, I checked online and it seems it's a widespread phenomenon.

What do you think about it?

The first reason it came in my mind was that she gained weight or simply no longer produced the "new thing" effect but could it be that after a certain point the nagging and the discomfort kills any libido?

I have a gf that despite she is not the hottest thing in town is reasonably good looking and younger than me however the frequent requests of going out, meet people and attend places I wouldnt even consider kinda put me in a grumpy mood and lead me to become annoyed from her.
Every weekend there is someones birthday which means, no rest, no gym, hours in crowds and stay up till late night...

The fact gets even worse since she doesnt like do sport, hit the gym or physical activity in general which I really like.

Often times I'm doing stuff at the computer or watching tv and she initiates for intimacy and it often feels as a chore.

Some guys I know told me that they would rather bang average random women than their wives and probably they can feel it on their men.

The number 1 cause is weight gain. I am 62, my wife is 47 but looks much younger. We have been very happily married for 18 years. Our schedules are very different, but we still have sex twice a week. That is very good for my age.

However, after she had my son she gained a lot of weight and there was a period where my attraction to her was greatly diminished. Therefore I would say weight gain is the number 1 reason for a loss in intimacy. My wife got back into eating very clean/healthy and she works out consistently. Our son is an elite athlete and I am a competitive body builder (last competed in 2018). So the whole family is into fitness. She is actually considering Ozempic to lose the last 10 lbs.

The second I would say is age, I am not attracted to many 62 year olds. My wife still get carded. Quite frankly I consider myself ugly (turning 60 beat y face with an ugly stick, LOL) but my wife is still quite attractive. photo

So guys, always marry younger and go for a woman that eats right and exercises.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The number 1 cause is weight gain. I am 62, my wife is 47 but looks much younger. We have been very happily married for 18 years. Our schedules are very different, but we still have sex twice a week. That is very good for my age.

However, after she had my son she gained a lot of weight and there was a period where my attraction to her was greatly diminished. Therefore I would say weight gain is the number 1 reason for a loss in intimacy. My wife got back into eating very clean/healthy and she works out consistently. Our son is an elite athlete and I am a competitive body builder (last competed in 2018). So the whole family is into fitness. She is actually considering Ozempic to lose the last 10 lbs.

The second I would say is age, I am not attracted to many 62 year olds. My wife still get carded. Quite frankly I consider myself ugly (turning 60 beat y face with an ugly stick, LOL) but my wife is still quite attractive. photo

So guys, always marry younger and go for a woman that eats right and exercises.

Ozempic to lose 10 pounds? That's asinine.

I think the whole weight loss drug craze is idiotic to begin with even for obese people. Literally stop eating crap and start walking and you'll lose weight 3x faster than you ever will with Ozempic and you won't have to worry aboit most of it being lean muscle...which is why they always look like crap after doing it. Essentially they become skinny fat.

For 10 lbs? C'mon now...that's ridiculous.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Just cut out processed foods (including flavoured pasta sauces and 'freshly packaged') and any type of sugar (like packaged fruit juice, softdrinks and beers) and prepare your food as much as possible from raw / organic / free range ingredients.

And exercise. You don't need to go to the gym. Walk. Take the stairs instead of the elevator/escalator. Go to the public swimming pool and swim some laps. Do 10,000 steps a day. Then 15,000 steps.

And avoid drugs and alcohol. Including legal drugs and stimulants like chocolate. If you can't stop drinking coffee, drink it black.

Stop looking for the dopamine kicks.