AmsterdamAssassin
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Again it's not the feelings that are the issue...it's the way you are expressing them.What's my fault if I have feelings for girls who don't reciprocate? I don't blame anyone, I say it would be better not to feel anything
Yes I think you got the point, my problem is this. It's how I react to emotionsAgain it's not the feelings that are the issue...it's the way you are expressing them.
Then you need to view this as an opportunity area that you can improve on and actively start working to do just that.Yes I think you got the point, my problem is this. It's how I react to emotions
I use to be the guy in my 20s who wanted to be the perfect guy, you know take a girl on a nice date, be a gentleman blah blah blah. One of the biggest misconceptions on this site is that, if a girl flakes on you, ghosts you, doesn't sleep with you etc. That it's always your fault and you need to run perfect game. I learned in my 30s not long ago that it's not always your fault if a woman is a shytty person. There is no etiquette when it comes to dating, and a lot of women will treat you like a disposable commodity (especially on dating apps)the reason why you see some women with losers is cause they are losers themselves and water seeks it's own level.Exactly, this crap is the reason why you see so many losers with women but yet there are many otherwise solid men that struggle in the dating market.
@Solomon and @SW15 may also find this interesting.
There was a guy I knew of around my age from a couple years back, so around 30 or so, that had multiple DUIs and a criminal record, it was to the point where he literally was not allowed to drive/have a license. This guy was a smoker, incredibly skinny and also wore dentures. Anyway, at the time I knew him he was dating a woman that would literally drive him everywhere. She even ended up getting pregnant with this loser lol. The best part was he had at least one other child with another woman. Granted, these aren't the highest quality women he was landing but it completely goes against these ideas you see floating around on here.
This was something I used to have a difficult time understanding and accepting, but the reality is being a solid and great guy just does not excite these women. I believe we are going to start seeing some really bad trends in the dating/mating market in the coming years, where some decent men feel no incentive to "behave" themselves and start emulating this behavior, as they see that's what works to get women. This is very concerning but there isn't much any of us can do about it. The scary part is these losers are the only ones reproducing it seems like, outside of very conservative parts of the country you can notice this trend across many different demographics.
Excellent post!You seem to not understand your role in a relationship as a man.
A woman has emotions that go all over the place from day to day and sometimes hour to hour. She needs a man who is like a North Star where she can look to them and grab onto to them when things are going crazy in her mind to help her thru it.
If you are running all over the same way she is emotionally, you can't be that stabilizing force she needs, you actually become a destabilizing force for her, which is not what she needs.
It's basic human interactions, it really isn't that hard. It's not about not having feelings or emotions, it's about properly channeling them effectively.
Basically you shouldn't allow your emotions to control you like a female, you should control your emotions like a man.
This is exactly what @Bokanovsky and myself were getting at that @BackInTheGame78 did not seem to understand. @SW15 may gain something from this as well.I use to be the guy in my 20s who wanted to be the perfect guy, you know take a girl on a nice date, be a gentleman blah blah blah. One of the biggest misconceptions on this site is that, if a girl flakes on you, ghosts you, doesn't sleep with you etc. That it's always your fault and you need to run perfect game. I learned in my 30s not long ago that it's not always your fault if a woman is a shytty person. There is no etiquette when it comes to dating, and a lot of women will treat you like a disposable commodity (especially on dating apps)the reason why you see some women with losers is cause they are losers themselves and water seeks it's own level.
It's a tough pill to swallow when you see a beautiful girl who seems to have her shyt together but she ends up with thugs, bad boys, losers etc. I know a girl like this she is 31 now, long blond hair, nice body, very smart. However she likes the bad boys/drug dealers, smokes weed every day, and is the biggest thot. She knows better but hey she likes what she likes. A lot of times these women are insecure themselves or they are losers too. The truth is sometimes on this site we give women too much credit. Heck Pook broke it down in 2005 that "Perfect is Boring" however trying to be a thug never resonated with me. Why do I have to act like a thug or pretend to be something I'm not?
I rather be alone than be something I'm not. It's not something I'm mad or even bitter about anymore it is what it is. A lot of women in America have truly lost their feminity to the point that I don't blame men for traveling overseas
You are definitely correct, but you miss the point of what @Bokanovsky is getting at.If you want to attract a BPD Psycho then sure...keep acting like that.
If you want to find a healthy relationship then you likely won't.
Water always finds its level.
I've noticed the rise of women smoking weed has gone up a lot in the last 15 years. Back in the day 1 out of 10 smoked weed now it's 1 out of 4 that do it regularly (it's higher if it's casual). I'm in a state where smoking weed is legal(although right now you can only buy edibles and they will have discrepancies sometime next year). Also, The rise of women doing coke has gone up, however, I have never dated a girl that has done coke (to my knowledge) but you would be shocked how many girls do it, you know the type love to club and they look like the Koko B chick (not all but some) and tend to be party thots or party in rich areas etc.Something else I've seen a lot is many women who regularly use marijuana because they have "anxiety problems". I started noticing this crap when many states fairly recently started legalizing medical marijuana. I personally believe this is mostly an excuse this people to justify enjoying getting high. I'm sure they may have some emotional/psychological things going on, but how the hell is smoking weed going to actually do much. We currently have a culture with young adults that shows there are tons of emotional issues going on, poor coping skills, etc.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
I'm not even old, 34, and I remember when I was in my late teens and early 20s it was considered trashy or unusual for a girl to be a regular pot user. I think a huge part of this is cultural related, there's far less or even no stigma placed upon smoking weed today, which was not the case not that long ago.I've noticed the rise of women smoking weed has gone up a lot in the last 15 years. Back in the day 1 out of 10 smoked weed now it's 1 out of 4 that do it regularly (it's higher if it's casual). I'm in a state where smoking weed is legal(although right now you can only buy edibles and they will have discrepancies sometime next year). Also, The rise of women doing coke has gone up, however, I have never dated a girl that has done coke (to my knowledge) but you would be shocked how many girls do it, you know the type love to club and they look like the Koko B chick (not all but some) and tend to be party thots or party in rich areas etc.
I think one of the reasons of the increase obviously is because now it's legal but I also think they are making it legal to keep the population sedated and dumb. The last 15 years the IQ of the average American has dropped, Lotta stupid people around and this election has shown how slow some people are
I remember back in the '80s, it was a thing for the local Italian men to pinch any unaccompanied, non-obese blonde that they would walk past on the street.I make this reflection, to keep as a personal reminder.
Feelings make you lose, acting emotionally with a girl takes you out of the game, nowadays in the majority of cases it is not worth investing in just one girl, they have always had an advantage.
They are always looking for the best option and if you start acting emotionally, they will start to lose respect towards you.
They will always have the choice of which guys to date regardless of their good looks. In my opinion this makes them colder, less involved, in the world of dating the least involved always wins.
Unfortunately, girls shouldn't be taken seriously, most are like that. Sometimes I'm surprised by how easy it is to get them into bed and even more so by how they have no problem dumping you if they lose interest.
If you want to continue to be successful with women, you have to play, live it lightly and not get involved romantically because you risk feeling bad and it's not worth it.
Fortunately, not all are like this.
But there are fewer and fewer girls with whom it's worth trying to create something serious, it's clear for everyone to see how long relationships last nowadays.
What I said is nothing new.
But even today, despite having some experience and success, sometimes I lose, I can't do anything about it, sometimes emotions take over.
And when it happens I already know I lost.
It's OVER for NaturalTeethCels.Exactly, this crap is the reason why you see so many losers with women but yet there are many otherwise solid men that struggle in the dating market.
@Solomon and @SW15 may also find this interesting.
There was a guy I knew of around my age from a couple years back, so around 30 or so, that had multiple DUIs and a criminal record, it was to the point where he literally was not allowed to drive/have a license. This guy was a smoker, incredibly skinny and also wore dentures. Anyway, at the time I knew him he was dating a woman that would literally drive him everywhere. She even ended up getting pregnant with this loser lol. The best part was he had at least one other child with another woman. Granted, these aren't the highest quality women he was landing but it completely goes against these ideas you see floating around on here.
This was something I used to have a difficult time understanding and accepting, but the reality is being a solid and great guy just does not excite these women. I believe we are going to start seeing some really bad trends in the dating/mating market in the coming years, where some decent men feel no incentive to "behave" themselves and start emulating this behavior, as they see that's what works to get women. This is very concerning but there isn't much any of us can do about it. The scary part is these losers are the only ones reproducing it seems like, outside of very conservative parts of the country you can notice this trend across many different demographics.
And I'm still really grateful for my lovers loving me differently from my abusive mother.here’s some news:
no girl will ever love you like your mom did.
Some men just get it all!And I'm still really grateful for my lovers loving me differently from my abusive mother.
No artist without tortured childhood?Some men just get it all!