Is there a recourse for men who want to get married and start a family? Got any tips?
A couple of social revisions that would make life a bit saner, albeit not perfect
-More of us getting serious about agitating for shared parenting legislation to be made the law of the land. As the terrific Ned Holstein has pointed out
https://soundcloud.com/bax-obrien%2Fned-holstein-founder-and-chair-of-the-national-parents-organizaion
this would drastically diminish the incentives many women currently have to broadside their unsuspecting husband's with a divorce. By agitating, I mean knocking on doors out in reality, and drumming up public support for the cause, rather than persisting with the moronic and gainless approach we've been employing for the past decade... Wailing "B-tches won't quit being crazy!!!" on Youtube, and pretending that sort of junior high-level performance art brings us any closer to enjoying freer, more vibrant lives than the ones we enjoy now
-Getting honest with ourselves and each other, about what marriage REALLY is, in Post-Industrial nations such as ours... A status signifier for both men and women alike(It demonstrates that you've attained The Good Life)and a deterrent to the entire nation degenerating into a clone of Sub-Saharan Africa
https://www.sos-usa.org/about-us/where-we-work/africa/aids-in-africa#:~:text=Sexual Behavior: The polygamy and,often have changing sexual partners.
Wide-spread public recognition that "bougey" mores(Upward mobility, marriage, and monagamish* living included)exist for the express purpose of reducing chaos in our day to day lives, and not to fulfill the fantasies Disney has contaminated our minds with, just might encourage folks to start treating marriage like the serious business that it is, rather than entertainment
All of which ties into a chat we were having earlier in this thread
https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...thing-better-comes-along.282363/#post-3121867 We've all become way too juvenile and informal these days. A social atmosphere where a large percentage of the male population now thinks it's cool to look and act like either characters out of a Judd Apatow flick or extras on a Young Thug video, and a substantial number of women now believe it's acceptable to look and act like the neighborhood skank or Chanty Binx = An atmosphere where marriages frequently happen off the cuff, then conclude diasterously a relatively short time later
*Yeah, human beings have never been perfect on this front, and we'll never be. Our current zeitgeist is one in which acting on whatever whim we're experiencing is now venerated as some form of higher wisdom though. Again, that makes for a society where folks rush into marriage, star popping out babies, then end up in the midst of an acrimonious divorce a few years later an all-too-frequent occurrence