I’m 47 and I end all my relationships because I get tired/bored of having sex with the same woman. All of the women I’ve been in relationships with, were great. I need new vagina after the honeymoon phase is over every single-time. When will this wear off Lol. Anyone experiencing this at my age?
I am 41 and am the same. Only doing non-monogamy was my answer.
Started as social phobic in youth, nervous to talk to classmates and aunts, getting into pua-material at 15 seeing my female classmates as unreachable supersexy goddesses while i am ugly duckling, first success=gf still only 8 years later at 23, basically my whole life trying to get better socially - to get my pp into more pussies. Laycount around 180.
I am highly functioning, it's not like my work suffers because of sex addiction, i don't watch much porn, i don't do anything that i am ashamed off, perhaps once every 4 months i spend 60eur on a prostitute - it's just that i make ****ing girls a high priority in life.
Whenever i asked myself 'What do i really want in life, what does excite me?' - it always came as clear number one. And other 'goals' were basically just means to that end.
Nothing in the ****ing world feels as exciting to me as being on a Date and have this situation of connection and physicality with this hot woman i am attracted to, and then kissing and sex. By far. Nothing comes close.
I am always newly excited again when i meet some woman and want into her pants, it doesn't get old.
So a date where she is hot and is turned on by me is great, first sex is great, sex where i already know her and we have great sex is great (but new women are more 'exciting', if i wait one or more weeks known girls become more exciting again)
I obviously have rejection trauma, avoidant-anxious attachment style, i get triggered when i get rejected, i built a 'safety net' of ****buddies and 'feel trapped' in monogamy, surely mommy issues and daddy issues, getting high on sexual approval.
I went to 6 psychotherapists in my life, rogers talk therapy, cbt, gestalt therapy, viktor frankl. Did some big programs to feel old emotions, like nervous guy, byron katie, hypnosis. Did a week long seminar 'childhood deconditioning' looking at mum and dad stuff. Did whole sedona method course, emdr, eft, mc2, 'nervous guy' program eliminating beliefs, Julian transformation mastery program going through the past. Also Ajahuasca and low dose mdma.
At this point i think i'll just die with this.
Hm. Bilzerian says that money and ***** are a black hole.. can't never really get enough of it..