jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hi guys!
This is something very easy yet difficult to observe, and this appear again and again, also here in the forum.
I want to explain this in more detail.
I would start from:
The perspective of women in their 30s and 40s
What is the perspective of women in their 30s and 40s? Many women in this age group are married, have children, or are engaged to their college sweethearts. They often find themselves navigating a "family vision" shaped by social pressures to present a certain image on social media, influenced by their friends, and aligned with societal expectations. They want to show they're up to date with current "fashion".
However, it is clear that many of these women struggle. This struggle arises from their natural desires and temptations. Some may engage in behaviors such as leaving their partners, cheating, seeking divorce, or wanting open relationships. We recognize this phenomenon, which is often rooted in the concept known as hypergamy.
How Can be Hypergamy "Tamed"?
The environment in which women live plays a crucial role. Women are generally more emotional than rational, and their surroundings—society, family, friends, social circles, hobbies, jobs, etc.—serve as the true framework for their lives.
While a man can influence this dynamic by maintaining his personal frame and authority, the "invisible" framework created by these elements is what truly matters. This framework acts as a master container that guides a woman’s daily life and relationships. It explains why relationships tend to last longer in rural contexts and why there were fewer divorces in the past when there were fewer choices available. (for women)
It also explains why women living in urban areas, who work in family businesses context, may be more loyal than career-oriented women who change jobs and cities every three years.
Today, thanks to the "backup" options provided by the impact of social media, many women approach relationships with a consumer mindset, akin to how customers view return policies on purchases. It is practically easy for a man, even one who is not a "DJ" , to recognize when a woman is struggling. These signs indicate that such women may not be suited for a healthy relationship, even in the right context.
However, other women, who may also show signs of struggle but in a more nuanced way, are those who can become the mothers of our families, shaping and nurturing a healthier environment. It is difficult to find a woman without these "drives," as they are inherent to her nature.
Then, What Brings Happiness and Well-Being to a Man?
What brings happiness and well-being to a man may vary from individual to individual.
This is a very hard question to reply, since a man, must build his personal interest, have his own **** togheter, and then, when he have that feeling of "procreation", to seek to build a family and create lasting memories with loved ones.
It may seem that a man must exert control over a woman for a relationship to succeed, but this is not entirely true. While a man can and should influence a woman, the quality of the surrounding environment and the context in which they live is what truly matters.
This is what is the "invisible container."
Women who thrive in relationships often come from supportive families—grandparents, parents, uncles, and friends who are family-oriented. They engage in community activities, volunteer work, and have hobbies that foster connections, or any "healthy" activity you can imagine. Any "healthy" woman possesses the qualities needed to build, maintain, and nurture a family, but there must be elements (containers) in her life that draw out those qualities in her daily life.
A mature man understands that a woman can be influenced to take on various roles—whether as a devoted mother or a more liberated individual. However, the underlying framework—the "container"—ultimately determines the success of a relationship.
This is why many high-profile relationships fail, such as those of famous actors. They often exist in environments that cater to hypergamous tendencies. Conversely, your 50-year-old uncle may still be happily married because he lives in a rural area with a strong family-oriented community.
This is why, if you have a "healthy" woman in front of you, you may want to forgive her if she loses control; it is not entirely her fault, but rather her inherent drives. Therefore, a man should consider the context in which he lives. If he desires a "family" life, there must be silent elements that will keep the relationship alive.
This is something very easy yet difficult to observe, and this appear again and again, also here in the forum.
I want to explain this in more detail.
I would start from:
The perspective of women in their 30s and 40s
What is the perspective of women in their 30s and 40s? Many women in this age group are married, have children, or are engaged to their college sweethearts. They often find themselves navigating a "family vision" shaped by social pressures to present a certain image on social media, influenced by their friends, and aligned with societal expectations. They want to show they're up to date with current "fashion".
However, it is clear that many of these women struggle. This struggle arises from their natural desires and temptations. Some may engage in behaviors such as leaving their partners, cheating, seeking divorce, or wanting open relationships. We recognize this phenomenon, which is often rooted in the concept known as hypergamy.
How Can be Hypergamy "Tamed"?
The environment in which women live plays a crucial role. Women are generally more emotional than rational, and their surroundings—society, family, friends, social circles, hobbies, jobs, etc.—serve as the true framework for their lives.
While a man can influence this dynamic by maintaining his personal frame and authority, the "invisible" framework created by these elements is what truly matters. This framework acts as a master container that guides a woman’s daily life and relationships. It explains why relationships tend to last longer in rural contexts and why there were fewer divorces in the past when there were fewer choices available. (for women)
It also explains why women living in urban areas, who work in family businesses context, may be more loyal than career-oriented women who change jobs and cities every three years.
Today, thanks to the "backup" options provided by the impact of social media, many women approach relationships with a consumer mindset, akin to how customers view return policies on purchases. It is practically easy for a man, even one who is not a "DJ" , to recognize when a woman is struggling. These signs indicate that such women may not be suited for a healthy relationship, even in the right context.
However, other women, who may also show signs of struggle but in a more nuanced way, are those who can become the mothers of our families, shaping and nurturing a healthier environment. It is difficult to find a woman without these "drives," as they are inherent to her nature.
Then, What Brings Happiness and Well-Being to a Man?
What brings happiness and well-being to a man may vary from individual to individual.
This is a very hard question to reply, since a man, must build his personal interest, have his own **** togheter, and then, when he have that feeling of "procreation", to seek to build a family and create lasting memories with loved ones.
It may seem that a man must exert control over a woman for a relationship to succeed, but this is not entirely true. While a man can and should influence a woman, the quality of the surrounding environment and the context in which they live is what truly matters.
This is what is the "invisible container."
Women who thrive in relationships often come from supportive families—grandparents, parents, uncles, and friends who are family-oriented. They engage in community activities, volunteer work, and have hobbies that foster connections, or any "healthy" activity you can imagine. Any "healthy" woman possesses the qualities needed to build, maintain, and nurture a family, but there must be elements (containers) in her life that draw out those qualities in her daily life.
A mature man understands that a woman can be influenced to take on various roles—whether as a devoted mother or a more liberated individual. However, the underlying framework—the "container"—ultimately determines the success of a relationship.
This is why many high-profile relationships fail, such as those of famous actors. They often exist in environments that cater to hypergamous tendencies. Conversely, your 50-year-old uncle may still be happily married because he lives in a rural area with a strong family-oriented community.
This is why, if you have a "healthy" woman in front of you, you may want to forgive her if she loses control; it is not entirely her fault, but rather her inherent drives. Therefore, a man should consider the context in which he lives. If he desires a "family" life, there must be silent elements that will keep the relationship alive.
