jamesfromhouston
Senior Don Juan
A girl I slept with messages me out of the blue a few days ago to tell me she was thinking about me. (I see this as high IL from her part).
Saw it as an opportunity to set up a meet with her. I invited her out to dinner this weekend: "Let's stop missing each other & have dinner this Saturday."
She took a long time to reply me. (More than an hour). Replies: "How about next week?"
I don't consider it a flake at this point but it's what happens next, I reply: "Next week will be quite busy for me."
She leaves my message on read for a few days. No response.
At this point, I don't know if I've shot myself in the own foot with my response of being busy or whether she has soft-flaked me.
Did I flake on her or did she flake on me?
A simple explanation would be it seems like I flaked on her since I told her I was busy next week.
But I was expecting her to reply with something else, anything else. Another date window or anything at all. So I feel her counter offer of next week was not legit. She didn't mention a specific date next week either. And she left me on read for a few days.
I am not sure if I messed up here. I am not sure how I should proceed. If I message her again I would be double texting.
Once again I realized how bad I am at text game.
Saw it as an opportunity to set up a meet with her. I invited her out to dinner this weekend: "Let's stop missing each other & have dinner this Saturday."
She took a long time to reply me. (More than an hour). Replies: "How about next week?"
I don't consider it a flake at this point but it's what happens next, I reply: "Next week will be quite busy for me."
She leaves my message on read for a few days. No response.
At this point, I don't know if I've shot myself in the own foot with my response of being busy or whether she has soft-flaked me.
Did I flake on her or did she flake on me?
A simple explanation would be it seems like I flaked on her since I told her I was busy next week.
But I was expecting her to reply with something else, anything else. Another date window or anything at all. So I feel her counter offer of next week was not legit. She didn't mention a specific date next week either. And she left me on read for a few days.
I am not sure if I messed up here. I am not sure how I should proceed. If I message her again I would be double texting.
Once again I realized how bad I am at text game.
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