Girls Kissing on Date but then not wanting to Meet up again

Salvation

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Just wanna share a recent confusion of mine, i don't expect solutions (cause diagnosing social situations with text reports is kinda laughable), but am interested to read all ideas

Last 2 months i had new stuff happening for first time in 20 years of dating (me 40 women mostly in 40ies): Girls kissing me on date but then not wanting to hang out anymore
All women were from dating sites where i have pretty clear text that i look for ****buddies:

- one first date coffee, end of date kissing and her grabbing my **** (i encouraged). Not compliant on setting up next meet. Met by accident in public transport, french Kiss goodbye (her initiative). Then she writes 'don't think we fit together'. I think i was too low status behaviour here, i openly showed that i am happy basking in her sexyness.

- Meetup for drink, i encourage her touching my ****, she does, next meet we meet for cuddling but then have sex for a few seconds (kinda her initiative, she says my **** feels great) then her mobile went off and she needed to be somewhere. A week later she blocked me, i think with her it was that i didn't react to her messages enough (she told she is very sensible about this), i was just extremely busy work-wise.

- one i meet at a cuddle event, she first says she doesn't wanna meet nobody she wants alone-time, i write i am only for very open stuff, she says ok, we meet next to river, we sensually touch and kiss, she writes she doesn't want to meet anymore she wants alone time with herself.

- one i meet for a drink, she later in evening tells me she is not attracted, i do some sexual talk, she says ok lets ****, sex was great, she writes she doesn't wanna see me again. I think she was a busy single mother with only one free evening per week, so she already wasted the evening so she at least could get a **** in even tough she doesn't want to see me again

- one first date next to river, i escalate but she kisses first, later she writes she is still not over her ex and doesn't wanna meet again

- in the month before that i had 2 lays where the relationship did not break off and there was repeat-sex. In the decades before whenever i got a kiss, women wanted to see me again and i also got sex later. Perhaps i was just worse at getting a kiss before. I don't have a great way of getting feedback from women.
I don't even think i will solve this puzzle.. guess these are just different situations and it's a coincidence of similarity.

I have a (slight) over-average ****, not enourmous. I am a good kisser, women often tell me this. I am not threatening, no threatening demeanor at all and small man 5'6''. I think i am good at escalating in that she perceives my touches welcome while advancing things, eg 'Can i sit behind you' on the lake and i sit her between my legs and she says that it feels good and nice. I sometimes say eg after some kissing 'ooh, i feel great right now... how are you doing?' and she says she is great.
 

Chow Mein

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You are 5'6", that likely isn't helping but that isn't the main reason.

Perhaps you come as too desperate/sexual at first?

Try toning it down a little bit and let things happen at their own pace. Sounds like you are trying to force things.
No clue why this member decided to include this specific information after mentioning an above average ‘d!ck’

If it smells like a rat…keep your ratatouille’s Hawk Tuah? Is that how the meme goes?
 

Salvation

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Thanks for the thoughts so far
I have to think about the aggressiveness

Had another weird date that i think is relevant to sexual aggressiveness: Thai woman (very uncommon in my western europe small city, here since 2 months), at first tells me she didn't care how my bumble profile was written, cause for her it's just about going for drinks with people and get to know people, she is not about finding sexual partners this way and sex for her is only for when being in a steady relationship after some months. I regard her as hotty, and i believed her doing bumble drink dates just for her entertainment at this moment (but she was eager to pay her own drink). And she talks how she doesn't like men in my country. Early on there was a moment she was talking to me but not looking in my direction, i found that very weird, took her head and put it towards me, she said sorry. I lost hope of ****ing her and told her 125 when she asked how many women i had sex with (which is true number, minus the women i did in swinger scene and in SEA holiday and some prostitutes), she made sign like she is throwing up (i guess thats a thai thing). After much more talking we came up that she met her last boyfriend on tinder, and that another time she was a ****buddy to one guy. I point that out. It slowly downed on me that there seems to be no resistance at all to my kino touches from the start, not at all any evading micro-movements from her. And i remember she told me telling a guy no when he touched her in a way she didn't like. So when we were walking and she told me i am a bad man i kinda grabbed her in a fake-fight and did that multiple times. And there were like 5 times she was not ready for kiss, and right when her tram came she kissed me.

So i'll have to see how it goes with her to get more sense if this aggressiveness was good or a mistake, right now i think it made the date much more exciting and memorable for her (and me).

Just a reminder of OP’s history here, read between the lines
I would appreciate you reading between the lines and posting that
Regarding the **** size thing, yea, i fantasized what could be the reason and because there was some ****-grabbing i thought 'perhaps a very small or large ****' could deter a woman from meeting up again.
 

ThisIsSparta

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Mind the womens slut defense mode.

If you try to rush them on your dyck, most will bail out because men needy for sex are not what gets them wet.

You try to escalate on first date right? Why not just check them out for an hour over coffee and invite them to your place on second date a couple of days later?
 

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Its interesting that the majority of these girls gave reasons why they didn't want to see OP again. That's typically not how it goes. :rolleyes:
 
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