Just wanna share a recent confusion of mine, i don't expect solutions (cause diagnosing social situations with text reports is kinda laughable), but am interested to read all ideas
Last 2 months i had new stuff happening for first time in 20 years of dating (me 40 women mostly in 40ies): Girls kissing me on date but then not wanting to hang out anymore
All women were from dating sites where i have pretty clear text that i look for ****buddies:
- one first date coffee, end of date kissing and her grabbing my **** (i encouraged). Not compliant on setting up next meet. Met by accident in public transport, french Kiss goodbye (her initiative). Then she writes 'don't think we fit together'. I think i was too low status behaviour here, i openly showed that i am happy basking in her sexyness.
- Meetup for drink, i encourage her touching my ****, she does, next meet we meet for cuddling but then have sex for a few seconds (kinda her initiative, she says my **** feels great) then her mobile went off and she needed to be somewhere. A week later she blocked me, i think with her it was that i didn't react to her messages enough (she told she is very sensible about this), i was just extremely busy work-wise.
- one i meet at a cuddle event, she first says she doesn't wanna meet nobody she wants alone-time, i write i am only for very open stuff, she says ok, we meet next to river, we sensually touch and kiss, she writes she doesn't want to meet anymore she wants alone time with herself.
- one i meet for a drink, she later in evening tells me she is not attracted, i do some sexual talk, she says ok lets ****, sex was great, she writes she doesn't wanna see me again. I think she was a busy single mother with only one free evening per week, so she already wasted the evening so she at least could get a **** in even tough she doesn't want to see me again
- one first date next to river, i escalate but she kisses first, later she writes she is still not over her ex and doesn't wanna meet again
- in the month before that i had 2 lays where the relationship did not break off and there was repeat-sex. In the decades before whenever i got a kiss, women wanted to see me again and i also got sex later. Perhaps i was just worse at getting a kiss before. I don't have a great way of getting feedback from women.
I don't even think i will solve this puzzle.. guess these are just different situations and it's a coincidence of similarity.
I have a (slight) over-average ****, not enourmous. I am a good kisser, women often tell me this. I am not threatening, no threatening demeanor at all and small man 5'6''. I think i am good at escalating in that she perceives my touches welcome while advancing things, eg 'Can i sit behind you' on the lake and i sit her between my legs and she says that it feels good and nice. I sometimes say eg after some kissing 'ooh, i feel great right now... how are you doing?' and she says she is great.
Last 2 months i had new stuff happening for first time in 20 years of dating (me 40 women mostly in 40ies): Girls kissing me on date but then not wanting to hang out anymore
All women were from dating sites where i have pretty clear text that i look for ****buddies:
- one first date coffee, end of date kissing and her grabbing my **** (i encouraged). Not compliant on setting up next meet. Met by accident in public transport, french Kiss goodbye (her initiative). Then she writes 'don't think we fit together'. I think i was too low status behaviour here, i openly showed that i am happy basking in her sexyness.
- Meetup for drink, i encourage her touching my ****, she does, next meet we meet for cuddling but then have sex for a few seconds (kinda her initiative, she says my **** feels great) then her mobile went off and she needed to be somewhere. A week later she blocked me, i think with her it was that i didn't react to her messages enough (she told she is very sensible about this), i was just extremely busy work-wise.
- one i meet at a cuddle event, she first says she doesn't wanna meet nobody she wants alone-time, i write i am only for very open stuff, she says ok, we meet next to river, we sensually touch and kiss, she writes she doesn't want to meet anymore she wants alone time with herself.
- one i meet for a drink, she later in evening tells me she is not attracted, i do some sexual talk, she says ok lets ****, sex was great, she writes she doesn't wanna see me again. I think she was a busy single mother with only one free evening per week, so she already wasted the evening so she at least could get a **** in even tough she doesn't want to see me again
- one first date next to river, i escalate but she kisses first, later she writes she is still not over her ex and doesn't wanna meet again
- in the month before that i had 2 lays where the relationship did not break off and there was repeat-sex. In the decades before whenever i got a kiss, women wanted to see me again and i also got sex later. Perhaps i was just worse at getting a kiss before. I don't have a great way of getting feedback from women.
I don't even think i will solve this puzzle.. guess these are just different situations and it's a coincidence of similarity.
I have a (slight) over-average ****, not enourmous. I am a good kisser, women often tell me this. I am not threatening, no threatening demeanor at all and small man 5'6''. I think i am good at escalating in that she perceives my touches welcome while advancing things, eg 'Can i sit behind you' on the lake and i sit her between my legs and she says that it feels good and nice. I sometimes say eg after some kissing 'ooh, i feel great right now... how are you doing?' and she says she is great.
