Imagine a fun-as-hell 11/10 girl who is just your type.... but has borderline personality disorder.
What's the move? No go?
By virtue of being human, ALL women are insane to a degree, and thus WILL exhibit traits of BPD, manic depression, social anxiety, etc etc. All that's really possible is for us to keep the amount of melodrama in our lives at a minimum, by not inviting broads who are clearly off The Richter Scale
https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-shape-of-the-container.282297/#post-3120359 in
It's not necessary, and often f-cking unhelpful, for us to lapse into psychologizing the crap out of everything. Especially when we ourselves aren't shrinks, and we're dealing with a lover, not a client/patient who's come to us for treatment
"Look alive, gents... There are many real-life equivalents to Catherine Trammel, Matty Walker, and Hannah Baker walking the planet. This has been the case since the beginning of our species, and will remain so, for the foreseeable future" is all we need to say