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Don Juan
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Hey guys. I recently had my first success from cold approach. Now, it seems that we are in a relationship. I kind of chose it also, and enjoyed the intimacy and everything about it too.
However, almost 2 weeks in now, there is a slight problem. My sex drive is higher than hers. She is not living the most healthy lifestyle currently, lacks sleep, and therefore has some stress and physical/mental exhaustion. Works 13 hours a day, barely sleeps 5. Didn't have a day off for more than 2 weeks.
So as a result, we hadn't have sex in 3 or 4 days. I tried initiating it maybe twice, but she is not really participating, and is obviously tired. The last time was yesterday morning. I got silently but visibly mad about it and she noticed my behavior. We talked about this, and she explained that even if she wants, she doesn't have the energy for it. I told her that this is my nature, she is tempting me, and it's normal that I have a desire.
In the earlier days, when we had sex, it was great for both sides. She says she came 2-3 times each time. She seems to like me physically and at all other levels. And this is mutual. But one thing I don't understand - how she had the energy to whine and complain, but not to have sex? The first night this happened I straight up told her at one point "you were sleepy, right?". Then she shut up and felt asleep.
I think about looking for sex elsewhere, but I am not sure if this would be a stupid decision because other than that, I really like this woman, she is rare, and we have a lot in common.
What do you think? Should I give this some more time? Is it normal not to have sex under these circumstances, even if it's early in the relationship, we are young, and it is expected to want to do it everyday? Or maybe I am wrong for wanting it that much?
~
Update: I wrote this maybe yesterday, around 2 pm. Then scheduled a meet up with her later the night because I felt a negative tension between us and wanted to talk it out. So we did. I told her that sexual intimacy is important for me, as much as emotional intimacy is important to her. And that being "rejected" twice felt awful. I tried to find the real issue but it seems that she is just in a rough period of her life, and she is basically a mess with low emotional intelligence. And I don't mean to paint her badly, in fact I would like things to work out, but this is just f9ckd up.
So at the end we parted ways, I missed my transport, and then called her. On the phone she told me that she can't fulfill my needs, and confirmed that probably it's best not to see each other again. I feel quite disappointed because for the first 10 days this was the best experience with a woman I've ever had. It was pure, and it had everything. But now If it's true that this was all a play, and there were no real love involved, that would be so stupid.
Anyway, I am in the mood for some cold approach again. But I would be happy to hear some side view thoughts on this situation.
However, almost 2 weeks in now, there is a slight problem. My sex drive is higher than hers. She is not living the most healthy lifestyle currently, lacks sleep, and therefore has some stress and physical/mental exhaustion. Works 13 hours a day, barely sleeps 5. Didn't have a day off for more than 2 weeks.
So as a result, we hadn't have sex in 3 or 4 days. I tried initiating it maybe twice, but she is not really participating, and is obviously tired. The last time was yesterday morning. I got silently but visibly mad about it and she noticed my behavior. We talked about this, and she explained that even if she wants, she doesn't have the energy for it. I told her that this is my nature, she is tempting me, and it's normal that I have a desire.
In the earlier days, when we had sex, it was great for both sides. She says she came 2-3 times each time. She seems to like me physically and at all other levels. And this is mutual. But one thing I don't understand - how she had the energy to whine and complain, but not to have sex? The first night this happened I straight up told her at one point "you were sleepy, right?". Then she shut up and felt asleep.
I think about looking for sex elsewhere, but I am not sure if this would be a stupid decision because other than that, I really like this woman, she is rare, and we have a lot in common.
What do you think? Should I give this some more time? Is it normal not to have sex under these circumstances, even if it's early in the relationship, we are young, and it is expected to want to do it everyday? Or maybe I am wrong for wanting it that much?
~
Update: I wrote this maybe yesterday, around 2 pm. Then scheduled a meet up with her later the night because I felt a negative tension between us and wanted to talk it out. So we did. I told her that sexual intimacy is important for me, as much as emotional intimacy is important to her. And that being "rejected" twice felt awful. I tried to find the real issue but it seems that she is just in a rough period of her life, and she is basically a mess with low emotional intelligence. And I don't mean to paint her badly, in fact I would like things to work out, but this is just f9ckd up.
So at the end we parted ways, I missed my transport, and then called her. On the phone she told me that she can't fulfill my needs, and confirmed that probably it's best not to see each other again. I feel quite disappointed because for the first 10 days this was the best experience with a woman I've ever had. It was pure, and it had everything. But now If it's true that this was all a play, and there were no real love involved, that would be so stupid.
Anyway, I am in the mood for some cold approach again. But I would be happy to hear some side view thoughts on this situation.
