how to deal w less intelligent woman

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someone I am acquaintances w checks a lot of the boxes I like in someone.. EXCEPT she is not the brighest

a lot of jokes I say fly over her head, and she definitely has a more ditzy quality to her

from your experience, how do you adjust your game when you're seeing someone like this on a. weekly basis?
 

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You might need to elaborate more in order to get better feedback here.

From what the looks of it she sounds like she probably doesn’t get your sense of humour. Her scatterbrain personality might be that she focuses on things that are less important to you and you guys are maybe not compatible.

Am I reading this right?
 

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You might need to elaborate more in order to get better feedback here.

From what the looks of it she sounds like she probably doesn’t get your sense of humour. Her scatterbrain personality might be that she focuses on things that are less important to you and you guys are maybe not compatible.

Am I reading this right?
she's just DITZY and I come across a lot more heady and sarcastic (which has not been helpful w woman tbh in general)

we're compatible in terms of past interests and hobbies etc
 

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I have a gal I see that is top 2, very physically attractive to me and she’s a great lay, she, however is very much a Dunning-Krueger case. She thinks she’s smart, she simply isn’t.

Like you’ve described my humor is lost on her 75% of the time, I end up having to ‘splain jokes to her sometimes. I would not use the word vapid to describe her, she just has those doe, dumb eyes about her, it’s almost cute if frustrating.

Often, when I try to have a philosophical discussion or one that requires complex thought I can tell I lose her after the first few sentences - I can see her eyes trailing off into the distance. She will often, as I’ve discovered miss a very important and blatantly obvious statement in a discussion and I’ve noticed her looking up words I use sometimes.

We often have arguments over her inability to critically think about things. In the past I’d get myself upset about things with her sometimes especially when it’s obvious she’s trying to maneuver in a discussion. I’ve learned to accept this is her way of coping, especially knowing that I’m of superior intellect. Now I just smile and let things flow. Amused Mastery is a term that isn’t used much anymore in the manosphere, but it fits this situation perfectly.

In short she’s highly attractive to me, submissive, a great lay if not particularly inspired. Where I am a woman with her looks is a standout, like unicorn level, so I just adjust because I want to continue to spend time with her naked.
 

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My life improved greatly once I stopped valuing women for their intelligence.

God did not create Woman for stimulating intellectual discourse. Once I accepted this truth, I was able to accept women for other things and search for intellectual stimulation in other avenues, rather than continuing to try to wring water out of a rock.

Intelligence in a woman is incidental, not fundamental.
 

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Cannot say I agree, the “sit there and look pretty thing” does not work for me for a long term partner. Last thing I want is to always be bailing her out of dumb things.
 

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In retrospect, all the girls I have ever been in relationships with were higher than average intelligence because my game would never work on an average or dumb chick outside of maybe a quick weekend romp.

On social dynamics and minute observations. Then they thrive.

I once fvcked around with a chick who worked at an Amazon warehouse facility in a top brass position. She wasn't my intellectual superior, but she was better than me in computer/web logistics (I could tell by her articulating her job to me)
 
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My life improved greatly once I stopped valuing women for their intelligence.

God did not create Woman for stimulating intellectual discourse. Once I accepted this truth, I was able to accept women for other things and search for intellectual stimulation in other avenues, rather than continuing to try to wring water out of a rock.

Intelligence in a woman is incidental, not fundamental.
Book smart or not, women are still women...

They will all still be oblivious to things that you find to be common knowledge

They will all still act like children at times

There is no unicorn.

Like you said, intelligence is incidental. All that matters is if smart women annoy you
 
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Book smart or not, women are still women...

They will all still be oblivious to things that you find to be common knowledge

They will all still act like children at times

There is no unicorn.

Like you said, intelligence is incidental. All that matters is if smart women annoy you
Smart women do annoy me, but so do dumb women. They all annoy me

A dumb woman is going to constantly be coming to you for answers; a smart woman is going to challenge you on everything

You have to determine which you prefer...

But they're all going to be annoying
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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I have to admit my highly intelligent ex was more engaging with me, we had more fun and adventure, we could discuss religion and broader socio-economical concepts and ideas outside of the usual chat. Maybe the smartest girlfriend I've had.

However she would challenge me, and was hard-headed, I think she thought she was smarter than me, not the case, especially with language. When she started beating me at chess regularly I thought fvck this lol. She was too smart for her own good, saw through my lies, my cheating (although she purposely ignored it to begin with and forgave me like most of them do). She dumped and blocked me and hasn't looked back (she's seems single still 6 years later).

My most recent ex was not as smart, more of a push over, especially when we first me and would argue with me too but from a place of such ignorance it annoyed me. However, over the years I realised how intelligent she was, just in different ways (maybe I was seeing the best in her). She forgave my cheating, and didn't ask questions, she just wanted a baby and marriage so let lots of things slide.

Ultimately, it doesn't matter to me as long as they are not completely stupid. Although I do enjoy smarter women, who can get my jokes, make me laugh, keep up with the quick wit, think on their feet, offer sound advice. I agree with @Giovanni SouthSide being smarter than women is a feature, not a bug. Average intelligence should be enough.
 

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I can't...I am extremely bright and I can't relate to people who have issues with basic logic and reasoning.

I'd maybe try to bang her once or twice and then it would get to the point where I would despise being around her.
 

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Women are not for intellect. I cringe whenever I hear a guy says that he likes having a woman who:
  • Is his friend
  • Is as smart as him
  • A woman he can talk on an equal level with
We gotta destroy this societal standard where these men are trying to make their gfs/ wives/ female acquaintances into their friends. It's rather sad to see.
 

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Women are not for intellect. I cringe whenever I hear a guy says that he likes having a woman who:
  • Is his friend
  • Is as smart as him
  • A woman he can talk on an equal level with
We gotta destroy this societal standard where these men are trying to make their gfs/ wives/ female acquaintances into their friends. It's rather sad to see.
and the feminist empowered dreaded “partner” term. Weak men who refer to their chick as their “partner” and vice versa.
“If you break up the traditional roles of man and woman, you end up as "partners".

Never be "partners" with your girl.

To me partner and "partnership" are strictly business concepts.”
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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she's just DITZY and I come across a lot more heady and sarcastic (which has not been helpful w woman tbh in general)

we're compatible in terms of past interests and hobbies etc
I don’t think the game changes despite the girl’s intelligence level; you still have to initiate, arrange fun activities, and create an environment where she can open up to you and learn to trust you. Obviously things are easier if she likes you or has a moderate interest level for you since at least she would accept the dates, reciprocate your feelings and you can create these opportunities of interactions.

As per how to communicate with her, maybe dial down on the sarcasm and the high energy levels. Maybe try to lead the interaction while mirroring her moods and I think it would be easier to connect with her on a romantic level.

I know you barely got any help here but I hope this is what you were asking.
 

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someone I am acquaintances w checks a lot of the boxes I like in someone.. EXCEPT she is not the brighest

a lot of jokes I say fly over her head, and she definitely has a more ditzy quality to her

from your experience, how do you adjust your game when you're seeing someone like this on a. weekly basis?
I confine myself to boffing real life equivalents to Annie Fannie such as this, and don't let them anywhere near the stove... Thus far, we've all had s-itloads of fun, and I've yet to have a home burn down
 

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Like you’ve described my humor is lost on her 75% of the time, I end up having to ‘splain jokes to her sometimes. I would not use the word vapid to describe her, she just has those doe, dumb eyes about her, it’s almost cute if frustrating.
You're periodically bedding Anne Hathaway?! Cool ;)
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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