Some months ago, I told a hot bartender girl "I hope you have a good weekend." I said it as she handed my bill and as she began walking away.
I wasn't trying to pick her up, before I said it, I just thought it would be a good thing to say. I didn't stutter and said it like normal.
But it was significant enough to stop her in her tracks and pause for a moment to process what I said.
Why did she pause?
I don't think it was the delivery of the line which caused the pause. I think she paused because she noticed a sign of attraction from a man of interest on her radar. You pause when you hear something potentially life changing. You do not pause when you hear "I hope you have a good weekend" and you don't think anything special about the person saying it. "I hope you have a good weekend" is so ordinary that it should pass without any thought, unless said by a guy on her radar. The radio telescope in her brain detected a signal because her telescope was pointed in my direction.
I then spent a number of months away from the restaurant because I wasn't trying to pick her up, and was just living my life.
Then, about a month ago, I went back into the restaurant, wearing a suit with a black shirt and red tie, and was the best dressed person in the room. I got her as a bartender. When I fumbled around with something, it made her giggle. Two weeks later, which was a few weeks ago, I went back again with a cleanly shaved head and face. This time she was not my bartender but she ran my food. We made eye contact across the room a few minutes before she ran my food. When I looked up as she was delivering my food, I saw a flash of a micro-expression of a twinkle in her eyes.
Whatever she was thinking when she paused, I think she came to a good conclusion.
I wasn't trying to pick her up, before I said it, I just thought it would be a good thing to say. I didn't stutter and said it like normal.
But it was significant enough to stop her in her tracks and pause for a moment to process what I said.
Why did she pause?
I don't think it was the delivery of the line which caused the pause. I think she paused because she noticed a sign of attraction from a man of interest on her radar. You pause when you hear something potentially life changing. You do not pause when you hear "I hope you have a good weekend" and you don't think anything special about the person saying it. "I hope you have a good weekend" is so ordinary that it should pass without any thought, unless said by a guy on her radar. The radio telescope in her brain detected a signal because her telescope was pointed in my direction.
I then spent a number of months away from the restaurant because I wasn't trying to pick her up, and was just living my life.
Then, about a month ago, I went back into the restaurant, wearing a suit with a black shirt and red tie, and was the best dressed person in the room. I got her as a bartender. When I fumbled around with something, it made her giggle. Two weeks later, which was a few weeks ago, I went back again with a cleanly shaved head and face. This time she was not my bartender but she ran my food. We made eye contact across the room a few minutes before she ran my food. When I looked up as she was delivering my food, I saw a flash of a micro-expression of a twinkle in her eyes.
Whatever she was thinking when she paused, I think she came to a good conclusion.
