DarwinTaurus
Senior Don Juan
Hi everyone,
I posted a few weeks ago that I had a coffee date with a woman who is originally from Columbia. She warned me beforehand that her English wasn't the best, and after meeting her, I decided not to pursue anything further, because she was right... and I saw no-point escalating if basic communication was a problem.
A week later, I had another match with OLD, she was a local in my city, which is a bonus, because it can be so transient, and similar age to me. We meet for lunch a week ago, and it seemed to go well. We talked for 2.5 hours before calling it a day, although probably my fault, I didn't escalate anything.
We met again last night, she was having drinks with friends, as it was one of their birthdays. She met me later around 8pm, at one of the bars I frequent, as one of my mates was paying a solo gig / live-music. We talked for around an hour, she decided to go home, and I was going to stay to watch my friend. I walked her towards the exit of the bar, and she gave me a hug, and I kissed her on the cheek. I thought later, that I made a mistake, and I should've walked her to her car, which was only a block or two away.
Anyway, she texted me this morning, and said the usual "It was great to meet me, but she didn't feel a romantic connection".
I think my problem is, I recently quit alcohol. Today, I'm 40 days sober. It is a weird experience for me being stone cold sober on a date or meet-up. I think I lack the courage for kino or to attempt a kiss in this situation (plus doing so in a bar where I know many people). I wonder if I acted differently, if results would've been better?
My last on-and-off relationship which lasted a year, when I met her, I had a few drinks prior and during the date (wasn't drunk, just feeling good), and I had the dutch courage to make a move, and kiss. Totally different sober. Has anyone here been in a similar situation? I'm feeling a little down, and am about to give up, however, I know I shouldn't.
I posted a few weeks ago that I had a coffee date with a woman who is originally from Columbia. She warned me beforehand that her English wasn't the best, and after meeting her, I decided not to pursue anything further, because she was right... and I saw no-point escalating if basic communication was a problem.
A week later, I had another match with OLD, she was a local in my city, which is a bonus, because it can be so transient, and similar age to me. We meet for lunch a week ago, and it seemed to go well. We talked for 2.5 hours before calling it a day, although probably my fault, I didn't escalate anything.
We met again last night, she was having drinks with friends, as it was one of their birthdays. She met me later around 8pm, at one of the bars I frequent, as one of my mates was paying a solo gig / live-music. We talked for around an hour, she decided to go home, and I was going to stay to watch my friend. I walked her towards the exit of the bar, and she gave me a hug, and I kissed her on the cheek. I thought later, that I made a mistake, and I should've walked her to her car, which was only a block or two away.
Anyway, she texted me this morning, and said the usual "It was great to meet me, but she didn't feel a romantic connection".
I think my problem is, I recently quit alcohol. Today, I'm 40 days sober. It is a weird experience for me being stone cold sober on a date or meet-up. I think I lack the courage for kino or to attempt a kiss in this situation (plus doing so in a bar where I know many people). I wonder if I acted differently, if results would've been better?
My last on-and-off relationship which lasted a year, when I met her, I had a few drinks prior and during the date (wasn't drunk, just feeling good), and I had the dutch courage to make a move, and kiss. Totally different sober. Has anyone here been in a similar situation? I'm feeling a little down, and am about to give up, however, I know I shouldn't.