I understand the spirit behind it - don't play house with plates.
I don't get the strict adherence to marriage though, it smacks of Disney romance and it's always puzzled me how some Sosuavers are so attached to the idea. I'm not badmouthing marriage per se, just that it has to happen to cohabitate. Not to mention Rollo was locked into marriage when he wrote it.
I think the general idea is that it is better to go fully into marriage instead of some half azzed marriage light type thing in cohabitation.
Don't play house with plates is a good idea.
This is why romantic relationships often last 10+ years when they were really only good for the first 3-5 years or so. Both men and women stay in relationships too long. The men who stay in relationships too long tend to be beta males.
I agree w/this in theory. I do question the sustainability over time. At some point it doesn't seem to be sustainable to keep cycling through chicks - like once a guy is 50+ will he consistently pull hot young things? Cuz let's face it, that's what we all like. Will he even have the energy?
Men 50+ won't be consistently pulling hot, young things.
Men 30+ who find themselves single will typically be dating mediocre to subpar women close to their own ages. Guys in their 30s/40s/50s cycling through women every few years are cycling through women in their 30s/40s/50s. This is a smaller subset of men in their 30s/40s/50s.
The typical pattern is something more like this....
Guy gets married somewhere between ages 26-32. That marriage fails within 5-12 years. If it doesn't fail, it's a reduced sex, often passionless marriage and that's not a good outcome either. If divorce happens, So you have a guy who is 35-44 getting back in dating, often as a single dad. He'll typically re-marry within 5 years of his divorce. His second marriage might also fail in about 5-10 years too or it's another crappy passionless marriage. The cycle goes on.
The guys don't follow this typical model fall into a few different categories.
There are guys that are long term serial monogamists but never marry. They tend to cycle through women every 1-5 years into middle to old age, often times not having children. There are way fewer of these men that the men who get married. I'm closer to this type of man as I've gotten to 40 living some combination of a player and serial monogamist type lifestyle over the past 20-25 years. The typical serial monogamist guy is dating a woman close to his own age. Few men are able to pull women 10+ years younger when they are 35+.
The player types somewhat resemble the serial monogamist types. Some of the player types can rely on money to carry them at 35+ when money/status have a more influential role in SMV than looks alone. Even some players can't get women 10+ years younger when they are 35+.
Then, there are the non-monogamous guys. Non-monogamy guys can resemble players. Non-monogamous guys have non-monogamous women. Often, the non-monogamous women are having more sex. This is the realm of swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and so on. This is a more complicated world.
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