Is Waitress/Bar Work A Red Flag?

[Hamurabimbi]

It’s fine. Judge in a case by case basis.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Soulforge,
Though I have zero first hand experience,I do remember a very popular
yarn back in the Day...Coffee,Tea or Me?...About the antics of Air Line Hosties...There was a good line in it,"So this stewardess enters the cvockpit and asks the captain, 'Coffee, tea, or me?'He answers, 'Whichever is easier to make.'"

 

[soulforge]

I thinks it's always on a case by case basis, but the truth is more women who are the types you wouldn't want to be in an LTR with work in these industries.

There are some good ones to be fair, but it's dominated by women who are plate material at best or FWBs.

So I guess there are is an element of risk, considering most are plate/fwb material.

 

[soulforge]

By the way, In the UK we have something called Cross Country.. It is essentially a first class train service, that runs up and down the country.

Girls often work as service girls on these trains, very much alike a flight attendant would, but confined within in the UK.

This job also requires lots of travel, serving Chad's, pretty wealthy dudes, staying away from home, sleeping in different hotels, working unsociable hours.

Again I don't see how this type of job could alllign with a 9-5 person & again these girls are more likely to put themselves in positions where cheating can happen.

 

[Macadellic]

These girls are f/cking coworkers.

 

[soulforge]

These girls are f/cking coworkers.

You know I really believe this.

Two girls I recently have encountered, both did bar/work or waitress Work in the past, before meeting me.

Both chicks confirmed, that after closing time, everyone, the staff and friends would get behind the bar and they would party and get drunk.

You don't think a bunch of fvking was going on? Hell yeah!!

 

[SW15]

These girls are f/cking coworkers.

That's common in the waitstaff/bartending/air travel occupations. Gym and retail store workers also commonly do this.

 

[mikedee]

What I'm saying is that if your the type of guy that needs to know where his girl is at all times. Needs his girl to respond promptly/loses his mind if she goes 7+ hours without responding and then starts thinking she's out doing hoe sh1t then they are not the type of girl for you. She won't cheat unless u give her a reason to cheat. Insecure type behavior is one of the leading causes of them actually going behind your back and doing red flag sh1t

Exactly I've been with waitresses, models, etc. I've never been insecure about it or about myself, I've never had any problems with these types of girls.
I'm not the jealous type of guy, I'm quite detached with girls/girlfriends, they go crazy and work harder to "possess" me instead of cheating.

 

[soulforge]

Exactly I've been with waitresses, models, etc. I've never been insecure about it or about myself, I've never had any problems with these types of girls.
I'm not the jealous type of guy, I'm quite detached with girls/girlfriends, they go crazy and work harder to "possess" me instead of cheating.

Would you wife one up though? Tie your finances with her.. Put a baby inside her eventually, if her career is working as a bar girl or a waitress?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Would you wife one up though? Tie your finances with her.. Put a baby inside her eventually, if her career is working as a bar girl or a waitress?

Depends. Most likely no. Especially since she has a career that is a dead end with no prospects for advancement.

 

[SW15]

Would you wife one up though? Tie your finances with her.. Put a baby inside her eventually, if her career is working as a bar girl or a waitress?

Depends. Most likely no. Especially since she has a career that is a dead end with no prospects for advancement.

Is it even a good idea to wife up a woman with a bachelor's degree and some white collar office career?

Some waitresses might be willing to turn into a stay-at-home mom, which could be beneficial under the right circumstances. Her no prospects for advancement career could be an asset in child rearing. The woman with the bachelor's degree or higher and the office job isn't going to be a stay-at-home mom because she doesn't want to miss the career prospects.

I think that situation I described above would be somewhat difficult to find in reality.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Is it even a good idea to wife up a woman with a bachelor's degree and some white collar office career?

Some waitresses might be willing to turn into a stay-at-home mom, which could be beneficial under the right circumstances. Her no prospects for advancement career could be an asset in child rearing. The woman with the bachelor's degree or higher and the office job isn't going to be a stay-at-home mom because she doesn't want to miss the career prospects.

I think that situation I described above would be somewhat difficult to find in reality.

Again it depends. What is a stay at home Mom doing when the kids are all in school starting at age 5?

 

[SW15]

What is a stay at home Mom doing when the kids are all in school starting at age 5?

It's possible to do stay-at-home mom stuff after the kids start school at age 5. There's still arranging stuff related to after school sports practices, cleaning, cooking, other household tasks. The stay-at-home mom would also have more time to work on her physical fitness. Also, there are the summer months when the kids are not in school.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's possible to do stay-at-home mom stuff after the kids start school at age 5. There's still arranging stuff related to after school sports practices, cleaning, cooking, other household tasks. The stay-at-home mom would also have more time to work on her physical fitness. Also, there are the summer months when the kids are not in school.

The problem is far too often they use that time to do none of that.

 

[SW15]

The problem is far too often they use that time to do none of that.

That is a real problem if they aren't using the time productively. There probably needs to be a longer term plan for her to return to the workforce in some capacity around the time the youngest child gets to high school. This could even be part time.

Stay-at-home moms also have time for volunteer and community service activities. Based on your last comment, you'd likely also say that they often fail to do that.

 

[mikedee]

Would you wife one up though? Tie your finances with her.. Put a baby inside her eventually, if her career is working as a bar girl or a waitress?

I dont want to get married, I dont want children.
So waitresses or office workers, same thing.

 

[pipeman84]

That is not true. The biggest driver of cheating is situations, opportunities, environment and the influences around your woman.

I think the only driver of cheating is lack of integrity. Doc Love named Integrity as the top trait to look for in a female. From the 3 occupations listed, I think flight attendant is incompatible with LTR, not only due to time away/logistics but the mindset of a woman who chooses that occupation is most probably not family oriented. As most women get into it when young, it's basically a self selection process, so I see it as a red flag even if you meet her at 28yrs old and she says she worked as an air hostess from 20yrs old to 23. Well, well...nothing worse than reformed hoes or party girls that see the wall and try to settle down with a chump. Don't be that chump.

 

[Glassguy]

What's your opinion on the following professions?

Would you consider this type of profession compatible for a long term relationship with a girl, or is it too risky?

01. Waitress Work
02. Bar Work
03. Travel/Air Hostess

Looking wayyy to much into this IMO. There are many more professions that scream red flags than these. Nurses and paramedics/EMTs in my experience are way bigger sloots than just about any other profession.

It's all about the person's character. I can see a bartender getting hit on all the time, but there are many that look at it solely as a job and they learn how to positively respond to being hit on all the time without their panties falling off.

 

[ManFromTartarus]

Depends how long they've been in the service industry and dealing with the general public every day. A lot of women (and men) have phases in their life when they have to take a job like that as a temporary stage in life/career.

On the other hand, being a longtime server of any type (especially bar/restaurant) takes a certain personality that comes with a lot of baggage, not to mention male coworkers they're around a lot that have similar traits and sometimes party/socialize with after work.

Another small tidbit I picked up on from working at a strip club and living in an area with a lot of those and bars is that a good amount of good looking mature waitresses were former dancers.
..... and that's one you want to avoid at all costs.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

What's your opinion on the following professions?

Would you consider this type of profession compatible for a long term relationship with a girl, or is it too risky?

01. Waitress Work
02. Bar Work
03. Travel/Air Hostess

01. No, most waitresses are not psychologically compatible with me.
02. Sure, I've tended bar and most bartenders have to have above average social/people skills.
03. Wouldn't work, my libido is too high to not have sex every day. Unless she's into polyamory.