Girl said we’re not compatible in bed after 1st date

[Baibars]

Matched with this 35 yo single mother on a dating app.
Met her last Friday and we had sex 3 times.
she slept at my place.
She's a very promiscuous woman, she doesn’t hide this and talks a lot of bs.
she cheated on her husband and obviously meets a lot of men.
However I texted her today and she said we’re not compatible in bed but otherwise I’m a good person.
I asked her why but she just said we’re not compatible.
I mean she’s not a long term candidate anyways but it would be nice keeping her as a plate. Had no other choice than wishing her good luck.
It hurt my ego tbh.
Did something like this happen to you before?

 

[sosuave213]

Asking her why you're not compatible is approval-seeking behavior.

Probably didn't make her come brah. Or you just lasted way too short, or the post-sex wasn't good. Remember women come first always.

Anyways LOL at caring about the opinion of a single mom. If you can't handle the heat, stay the hell away from the kitchen. And hopefully you wore a rubber.

 

[Baibars]

Asking her why you're not compatible is approval-seeking behavior.

Probably didn't make her come brah. Or you just lasted way too short, or the post-sex wasn't good. Remember women come first always.

Anyways LOL at caring about the opinion of a single mom. If you can't handle the heat, stay the hell away from the kitchen. And hopefully you wore a rubber.

I have to admit I’m not super good in bed and I think I probably can’t handle women like her that have such a high body count.

 

[pipeman84]

Asking her why you're not compatible is approval-seeking behavior.

It could be seen as approval seeking behavior if he had asked her first ... in this case, she made a statement, and he asked for clarification ... nothing wrong with that, except that he did it over text as opposed to face to face.
In any case, with the type of woman in OP you can't rely on anything she says, even if it's as simple as what time it is.

It hurt my ego tbh.

That's where you have work to do, OP.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Matched with this 35 yo single mother on a dating app.
Met her last Friday and we had sex 3 times.
she slept at my place.
She's a very promiscuous woman, she doesn’t hide this and talks a lot of bs.
she cheated on her husband and obviously meets a lot of men.

Doesn't sound like a woman I would want anywhere near my life

If she has been on the carousel for that long she's going to be very very damaged goods and you can see this in her behaviour

Most women want to be degraded in bed with a man ,this one sounds like she wanted a full blown porn show

 

[Rainman4707]

Matched with this 35 yo single mother on a dating app.
Met her last Friday and we had sex 3 times.
she slept at my place.
She's a very promiscuous woman, she doesn’t hide this and talks a lot of bs.
she cheated on her husband and obviously meets a lot of men.
However I texted her today and she said we’re not compatible in bed but otherwise I’m a good person.
I asked her why but she just said we’re not compatible.
I mean she’s not a long term candidate anyways but it would be nice keeping her as a plate. Had no other choice than wishing her good luck.
It hurt my ego tbh.
Did something like this happen to you before?

Yeah, happened to me before, it does happen. Had sex with a a HB9 a couple times and performed very bad. Don't know why i performed so bad.

I moved on.

Sometimes it is just a compatability issue, it's a well know fact..that the best sex is had are in relationships. Wonder why that is? Well the couple will be compatible and they grow close together, sex becomes more INTENSE.

 

[Rainman4707]

Asking her why you're not compatible is approval-seeking behavior.

Probably didn't make her come brah. Or you just lasted way too short, or the post-sex wasn't good. Remember women come first always.

Anyways LOL at caring about the opinion of a single mom. If you can't handle the heat, stay the hell away from the kitchen. And hopefully you wore a rubber.

He said he is'nt that bothered, he's just sharing!!

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I have to admit I’m not super good in bed and I think I probably can’t handle women like her that have such a high body count.

Were you gentle with her?

 

[Baibars]

Were you gentle with her?

It was just normal sex. We made out, she got wet and I banged her for 5-10 minutes. It seemed like she enjoyed it.

 

[SW15]

I have to admit I’m not super good in bed and I think I probably can’t handle women like her that have such a high body count.

You need to enhance your sexual skills. Read some books/articles about it or watch educational internet content about it.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It was just normal sex. We made out, she got wet and I banged her for 5-10 minutes. It seemed like she enjoyed it.

And did she have an orgasm? How long and how did you make out?

 

[Baibars]

And did she have an orgasm? How long and how did you make out?

she did not. She also said she can’t *** from normal sex and I should finger her. I did for a while but seems like it wasn’t enough. But honestly I don’t have the nerves to please a woman for hours

 

[Divorced w 3]

OP-

I have had a lot of positive feedback in this department and as such am going to offer some ideas for your situation.

nothing wrong with asking what the particular lack of compatibility was. We learn by asking. There’s nothing subservient about it, labeling it as approval seeking is head trash. This ship is likely sailed, get the feedback. I agree about asking on phone. A quick text as to hey no harm totally get it. Had a great time with you. Do you have like five quick minutes just for my own edification, won’t be long just interested for your perspective. A decent person will probably offer you a few minutes. If she doesn’t, so be it.

secondly, sex happens in her mind prior to getting in bed and the act is where you follow through on it. Foreplay- **** **** ****. You need to bang her like a thoroughbred. If that means taking a Cialis so be it. Make sure your physical game is on point, hips legs and be fit. Sex happens in the hips and trunk. Do squats, deadlifts and ideally sprints. The endurance mixed with raw strength like you’re trying to split her like an oak tree is what will make you the best.

concur on being gentle. After you break her in half you need to pull back and give her a little tlc. Then go back to being rough. Sex is the ultimate interpersonal act. She may want straight physical pleasure but I have a feeling like most women she wants some sort of emotional physical connection so work on that.

my ultimate benchmark on how it’s going is if I am really into it. If I’m really into it she’s going to be really into it.

also if she can’t orgasm that’s a her problem. My girlfriend in college had that problem. I have to be honest it never bothered me. I have a lot of insecurities this is not one of them. I took it as a challenge. I think we screwed for like 2.5 hours once in freshman year.

Watch 50 shades of grey also

 

[ManFromTartarus]

It was just normal sex. ................ I banged her for 5-10 minutes.

If a 5-10 min quickie is normal sex to you, I understand her point.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

she did not. She also said she can’t *** from normal sex and I should finger her. I did for a while but seems like it wasn’t enough. But honestly I don’t have the nerves to please a woman for hours

You probably should've 'manhandled' her more. And learn how to finger a woman and read her body feedback to improve.

 

[Dr.Suave]

You are looking at this wrong op. You got laid and she saved you the trouble of ghosting her. Win-win

 

[The Duke]

It was just normal sex. We made out, she got wet and I banged her for 5-10 minutes. It seemed like she enjoyed it.

So you busted a nut in 5-10minutes? lol. That might have something to do with it. You probably don't make her come. Sounds like she isn't impressed with your sexual capabilities.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It means she didn't think your skills were up to par. Not much to take away other than that.

It's a blow to your ego but at least you know what you need to work on.

Coming from a woman who has had lots of sex with lots of men I'd probably take her at face value, she would know.

 

[Glassguy]

You are looking at this wrong op. You got laid and she saved you the trouble of ghosting her. Win-win

Totally agree and my first thought when I read the initial post.

OP- most of these women with high body counts are traumatized, damaged, train wrecks. Most, not all.

They are fun for a short period of time but not someone you want hanging around for LTRs. You had your fun, now focus your attention to other women who can check more of your boxes.

Win/win. Go celebrate. You got all the perks without any investment.

 

[MatureDJ]

You just don't pack the necessary gear, private.

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