Toxic EX and I don't why she is telling me this?

[Zontyy]

So my EX and I have been broken up for close to 2 months now. We have been going back and forth in court for a variety of things. She currently has defiant trespassing charges and disorderly conduct for trying to break into my parents home while I was staying there during the beginning of the breakup. We have a custody case as well but that been pushed back because first she must have her CPS trial for neglect and abuse of my son. She still has temp custody and was demanding $2000 dollars in child support and the judge only ordered $850. The judge is holding off me paying any back child support until the custody case is settled there is a strong chance of me getting Full or Primary custody of my son.

I'm pretty much done with her ass in any relationship capacity. What I don't understand is what she is texting me that she is sleeping with other men. She has gone so far as to send me photos of herself with other men. I realize I am living inside her head rent free but it doesn't make any sense to me. Doesn't she realize if she sleeping with other men that her value in my eyes becomes even less. Can anyone explain why she is doing what she is doing?

I don't plan on engaging in this conversation with her. I try to keep my texts with her only about my son and pick up and drop of custody.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Zonty,
Yeah,been there....She is just trying to hurt you....Just bide your time!

 

[soulforge]

Clearly your dealing with a crazy chick.

And if she has banged 5 dudes in close proximity, this tells me she is, what we call in the UK.. a dirty Slag

 

[Millard Fillmore]

If you want it to make sense, here's an explanation: She thinks bragging will cause you pain. Joke's on her though because she also knows she's risking looking like a slvt. Best way to validate that is silence of course. She's either lying and alone or telling the truth, used up and alone.

 

[Serenity]

She's probably trying to just hurt your feelings. Bragging about sleeping with 5 guys is just funny to me, that's not something to brag about

 

[Vantagepoint34]

So my EX and I have been broken up for close to 2 months now. We have been going back and forth in court for a variety of things. She currently has defiant trespassing charges and disorderly conduct for trying to break into my parents home while I was staying there during the beginning of the breakup. We have a custody case as well but that been pushed back because first she must have her CPS trial for neglect and abuse of my son. She still has temp custody and was demanding $2000 dollars in child support and the judge only ordered $850. The judge is holding off me paying any back child support until the custody case is settled there is a strong chance of me getting Full or Primary custody of my son.

I'm pretty much done with her ass in any relationship capacity. What I don't understand is what she is texting me that she is sleeping with other men. She has gone so far as to send me photos of herself with other men. I realize I am living inside her head rent free but it doesn't make any sense to me. Doesn't she realize if she sleeping with other men that her value in my eyes becomes even less. Can anyone explain why she is doing what she is doing?

I don't plan on engaging in this conversation with her. I try to keep my texts with her only about my son and pick up and drop of custody.

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Keep wasting your time with red/ blue pill. Hello 2022 Not a case. Cheap answer is small claims court. Get an online degree? Could be a trapp

 

[BackInTheGame78]

When a woman is in this state after a breakup and things went badly, her main goal is revenge and to hurt you the way you hurt her, so she is trying to do anything she can to make sure that happens.

It honestly can become almost like an obsession to "get back at you for what you did to her and how you made her feel".

Just be happy that things are almost done with her and that she is no longer in your life anymore.

Then work on figuring out why you got into and stayed in a toxic relationship so you don't make the mistake of simply going from one toxic relationship to another.

 

[soulforge]

When a woman is in this state after a breakup and things went badly, her main goal is revenge and to hurt you the way you hurt her, so she is trying to do anything she can to make sure that happens.

It honestly can become almost like an obsession to "get back at you for what you did to her and how you made her feel".

Just be happy that things are almost done with her and that she is no longer in your life anymore.

Then work on figuring out why you got into and stayed in a toxic relationship so you don't make the mistake of simply going from one toxic relationship to another.

Yeh they revenge fvk for real.

Some girls might go as far as to bang your friend as pay back.

 

[Westminster]

I have to agree with the other posters - she is trying to hurt you.

But really the answer is contained in the title of the thread, which is about your toxic ex. In other words, your toxic ex is behaving like this because she is toxic.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Can anyone explain why she is doing what she is doing?

No. Does her motive matter?

Why not ask her? Ask, “why are you informing me of this?”

 

[Westminster]

No. Does her motive matter?

Why not ask her? Ask, “why are you informing me of this?”

I wouldn't do that, it's inviting hostility.

My advice would be: do not engage with a toxic woman - no good will ensue.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeh they revenge fvk for real.

Some girls might go as far as to bang your friend as pay back.

Yeah and do it when they have a absolutely no interest in the guy otherwise.

But if you ever want to really fvck with a chick, bang her best friend after your breakup and it will effect her 50x worse.

 

[soulforge]

I wouldn't do that, it's inviting hostility.

My advice would be: do not engage with a toxic woman - no good will ensue.

Tangling with a toxic woman is never worth it.. They are master manipulators.

It's always best to walk away.

 

[Zontyy]

Yeah and do it when they have a absolutely no interest in the guy otherwise.

But if you ever want to really fvck with a chick, bang her best friend after your breakup and it will effect her 50x worse.

She doesn't have any best friends left. The last one was a giant ***** that hit on me because my EX shared a photo of my penis to her and she thought I was well endowed and since then she been flirty. Next thing I know my EX's best friend was reporting her to CPS which got her a confirmed Neglect since then she burned out all friendships. I never hit it because I found out her friend had HERPES and I respected my relationship at the time.

Then work on figuring out why you got into and stayed in a toxic relationship so you don't make the mistake of simply going from one toxic relationship to another.

I think it was the court system when after my EX got her first neglect charge the judge still thought it was fine to keep my son with her. So I hung on another year until she got in trouble again and now she spiraling. I just want my kid.

Now I get random texts about wanting to know a secret and her asking me to come over in the middle of the night. I'm sure she is drunk texting and just wants some good sex but I need to remove myself from the toxic relationship and court wise now I have a really good chance of getting custody of my son so I can never go back.

 

[Black Widow Void]

I can't believe that no one has brought up the obvious.

It sounds like you don't care about the ex, but you do care about your son's well being.
Guess what?
If she had custody of your child while she's also admitting to having revolving-door men spending the night, then she's basically giving you all the evidence you need to receive 100% custody.
Wishing you the best on this one

 

[Westminster]

I can't believe that no one has brought up the obvious.

It sounds like you don't care about the ex, but you do care about your son's well being.
Guess what?
If she had custody of your child while she's also admitting to having revolving-door men spending the night, then she's basically giving you all the evidence you need to receive 100% custody.
Wishing you the best on this one

I'd think twice before going down that road and even then you'd need to be 100% squeeky clean yourself. Because you could find yourself fighting a very messy battle should your ex start throwing accusations back at you, even if they are totally false.

Always, always remember that the family courts' starting point is that the woman is innocent and the man is guilty - and you have to prove otherwise. And even then the court may decide against you, just because it can. So, be careful out there brothers. Very careful.

 

[Westminster]

"Your Honour, I love and care for my son but I now have post-traumatic stress syndrome due to the abuse I suffered at the hands of my husband. I have now reported him to the police for rape and I am receiving counselling for the trauma he has caused. My sister and workmates are prepared to make statements to the court about my husband's controlling and coercive behaviour. My son is freightened of my husband and should be prevented from seeing him"

 

[Westminster]

"And because of my PTSD, I sent him many texts about all the men I've been boinking since the divorce, because that is what traumatised people do."

" My client's judgment has clouded by her husband's abuse over many years. Her counsellor suggests that she is now seeking love and approval due to the serial hurt her husband inflicted on her. My client's husband is an abuser and a rapist and the court will need to conduct a finding of fact hearing before deciding if he is fit to have access to her son"

* In other words, the husband now needs to effectively put himself on trial for rape in order to see his son*

 

[RangerMIke]

She is trying to illicit an emotional response from you. Why? Because if this disagreement turns into an emotional sh1t show, you are playing on her home field. It's like a catcher talking sh1t to a batter... all the catcher has to do is catch the freaking ball thrown right at him... knowing the pitch type and exactly where it is expected. The batter... well he has to accurately time contact between two round surfaces, with no real idea of what he is about to see coming across the plate. If the batter loses focus, he is at a serious disadvantage with absence of emotional self-control.

I'm watching a news story right now with Jonathan Major's recent conviction of 3rd degree assault against his ex-gf. That woman is a mess, and Major's lost emotional self-control... handing her all the ammunition she needed to take him down.... and now she is a MeToo heroine, and can look forward to a nice career in Hollywood.

You can make all this stop by just giving her everything she wants.... do that and you will not hear from her again. I'm NOT saying do this, just illustrating a point. Now here is the bad news... if you fight her and win... this sh1t isn't over... you two have a kid together she will keep doing these little emotional mind games until she latches on to some other sucker... but even then you can expect minor emotional food fights until your kid reaches adulthood... and even then... it only gets a little better, then there is grandchildren... and that sh1t starts all over again.

All though this you cannot lose emotional self-control, because as soon as you do, she has you.

 

[Vantagepoint34]

Bumd this thread I mean.. NY eve Haha.