should I tell her im inexperienced?

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so seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date) and when we left and I walked her to her car we made out for a bit and was like "that's 50% better" after I tried to give a quick kiss and she went in for make out. someone I want to be in a long term relationship with too...

we also spent a lot of time on the date going deep into both our lives so she's someone who likes to be vulnerable and honest

it's clear to me she has more experience, and I am very inexperienced sexually. im not a virgin necessarily but I am definitely super inexperienced and am unsure how to approach it moving forward with her.. I've read a bunch of sites like 90% that you should just tell her ahead of time bc she'll realize it anyway PLUS it's worse if she doesn't know how inexperienced you are and it's bad.

but I've also read just to not tell her because it's a turn off. what would people recommend?
 
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Dude, don't be so insecure about your experience. You've decided you want to fvck a slut, so here's your opportunity. You're about to get your knob wet. Don't tell her shvt or you run the risk of shooting yourself in the foot. Sit back and enjoy the ride.
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If she's into honesty, I would reveal to her that
im not a virgin necessarily but I am definitely super inexperienced
A low lay count could indicate inexperience, but also that you are particular about who you're intimate with.

Another way of approaching the sex:
Every woman is different. Even if the genitals are more or less similar, women are extremely different in how they enjoy being touched, from feathery caresses to (extremely) rough manhandling. Since you haven't been intimate with her, ask her about her preferences: does she like soft and gentle or rough and primal?
And if you're looking for a non-verbal way, try out different ways of touching her and not her body language. Is she arching towards you, does her breath quicken or catch in her throat, does she moan, does she pull away, et cetera.
 

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so seeing this chick who is super into me and a lot more sexual/sensual than I imagined (using a LOT of tongue on first date)
someone I want to be in a long term relationship with too...
Sounds like she's a hoe, why would you want to enter a relationship with her? :rolleyes:
what would people recommend?
No need to get into any details about your life and that includes your sexual experiences ... she's not your therapist. Don't forget to use a condom.
 

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Hi Plato,
No,say nothing,you will soon get the hang of it,as Amsterdam says"....every Woman is different...."If she says something(which she wont)just tell her that...To be disengenous is not being dishonest...Watch a few Video clips on the topic,and be slow and gentle,you will be fine!
 

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She will know if you are inexperienced based on your attitude and presentation, not sexual performance. Sexual performance does not improve by a high count of One-night stands, more so sensory, perceptual skills, preferences of the girl, and size combability. You could have sex with her right now and possibly be better than the player Chad she screwed from Bumble last week.
 

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What are you comparing it too, just have fun man and explore her... if youre comparing it to a porno that is unrealistic.
 

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Pour honey on her nipples and suck them until she wants to fvck, then lead her to the bathroom and wash her. If you do that, you won't have to look for her poussy, she'll probably ride you in the shower.

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Why would you do that? Just proceed to bang her when you get the chance.

Also a woman who is that sexually experienced is not a woman you want to be in a long term relationship...she should qualify as a plate at best.

Gotta up your standards. A woman doesn't qualify for an LTR just cause she is into you and you think she is hot.
 

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A woman doesn't qualify for an LTR just cause she is into you and you think she is hot.
Well, not marriage or monogamy, but I'd certainly enjoy a long term relationship with a hot woman who's into me.
 

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If she is a ho?
Wait a minute. Are you calling a hot woman being into me a sex worker? Or do you mean just slut? Because sluts I can work with, I'm quite the slut myself...

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You can tell me, you just want me to send my sluts over, don't you? :cool:
 

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Wait a minute. Are you calling a hot woman being into me a sex worker? Or do you mean just slut? Because sluts I can work with, I'm quite the slut myself...

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You can tell me, you just want me to send my sluts over, don't you? :cool:
There is a big difference between the standard you should have for a FWB or plate versus a long term GF/fiance/wife.

If more men understood this, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
 

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OP,
You want to get experience
Every girl you date you learn from and it will set you up to be better for the next one.

Do you remember your first sports game?
Your first fist fight?
your first friendship with the boys?

Did you tell the other team you are inexperienced
Tell the kid in elementary school it’s your first fist fight?
tell the boys it’s your first friendship?

Dafuk?
 

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Kind of depends. If you're 21 and not that experienced she may find it endearing and view it as a positive, or at worst neutral, thing. If you're 45 then she's gonna assume there's some reason and she's missing something that everyone else has noticed about you. Those are the extremes but context is important for these sort of things.
 
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