New Scenario With Difficult Coworker

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
14,664
Reaction score
15,823
Okay yes that I did miss. My methodology stands because it’s the simplest way but if OP can get some of that down that he was a victim he should pursue it if there is not relief.
He doesn't need to be a victim. The fact that it happens at all makes it a hostile work environment. He does not have to be the target of them. That bears no relevancy under the law.

How do I know this? Because I have taken online training classes every year for the last decade or more at every job I have ever worked at regarding this stuff as part of mandatory training.
 

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
2,634
Reaction score
1,488
Location
Laying in the cut
He doesn't need to be a victim. The fact that it happens at all makes it a hostile work environment. He does not have to be the target of them. That bears no relevancy under the law.

How do I know this? Because I have taken this online training class every year for the last decade or more at every job I have ever worked at.
Yeah you’re probably right. I click straight through that ****. I don’t have much of a concern if it doesn’t affect me directly. Call me shallow. I mean if it’s like blatant abuse okay but if it’s office culture and everyone’s kind of vibing on it whatever. Call me lucky.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
14,664
Reaction score
15,823
Yeah you’re probably right. I click straight through that ****. I don’t have much of a concern if it doesn’t affect me directly. Call me shallow. I mean if it’s like blatant abuse okay but if it’s office culture and everyone’s kind of vibing on it whatever. Call me lucky.
That's all well and good...until one person calls a 1-800 number and costs the company millions of dollars in fines and penalties and a huge lawsuit because they don't have a leg to stand on in that type of situation.

Then it all stops, mandatory training happens that you have to sign off that you got and then people start getting fired for the most minor violations because the company is not going to tolerate employees making them pay double(or more) fines every time it happens again.

There is one organization as an employer you don't want to run afoul of and it is the Federal Labor Board. They can make their life a living hell and their bank accounts much lower.
 

AAAgent

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 10, 2008
Messages
2,649
Reaction score
319
He doesn't need to be a victim. The fact that it happens at all makes it a hostile work environment. He does not have to be the target of them. That bears no relevancy under the law.

How do I know this? Because I have taken online training classes every year for the last decade or more at every job I have ever worked at regarding this stuff as part of mandatory training.
Everyone's taken these courses that works corporate. It's almost common sense.

Managers also are trained very well on these and aren't idiots. We know how to CYA. Majority of people responding to OP in this thread are giving him unrealistic advice recommending legal/HR correspondence this early, which I highly doubt will yield results. The % of those who are actually able to prove negligence and hostile work environment conditions is extremely low compared to the amount of reports. OP is also very new to the job. The manager, HR, and company will be doing what's best for the company and not the OP. OP also never mentioned anything about those racial comments being in writing, which i highly doubt would have happened (you'd need to be a whole other level of idiot to send racial comments in email) which will further complicate things for the OP if there isn't written proof.

If you're going to go to bat for these things, go to bat to hit a home run, and not a foul ball or strike out. Full documentation of multiple issues of harassment, racial remarks, e-mails to manager making them aware of the issue, no typo's or reasons to justify complaints from other co-workers regarding work quality, and then, only then, bring it to HR. This is how to pidgeon hole HR, management, and company into resolving this issue. Doing this however just puts a target on your back for causing problems and making people tiptoe around you if they know you are the one who purposely got someone removed who's been there for a while that people got along with (assuming other's liked co-worker). I would only recommend this if OP can't resolve things personally between the co-worker.

I had a underperforming direct report who reported me 11 times after their first 6 months on the job. I faced all reports with HR and they deemed all of them pretty much non actionable or irrelevant reports. The direct report even complained to my boss, who knew how much of a problem this person was to me and decided to shift their work to basically nothing. That person was laid off about 8 months later because they were doing work that really wasn't necessary anymore (she wasn't doing it anyway) and we didn't have budget allocated to that position anymore.

Again, my advice for OP from someone who has dealt with these issues as a manager and individual is earn your stripes and or resolve this directly with your co-worker. Hear his point of view if he has one for being an *******, address those issues and move on. If he's just an *******, stand up to them and see if they back down. Then finally, if all options are exhausted, continue to compile evidence (should compile this entire time as back-up) and once enough is gathered, bring it to HR.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
14,664
Reaction score
15,823
Everyone's taken these courses that works corporate. It's almost common sense.

Managers also are trained very well on these and aren't idiots. We know how to CYA. Majority of people responding to OP in this thread are giving him unrealistic advice recommending legal/HR correspondence this early, which I highly doubt will yield results. The % of those who are actually able to prove negligence and hostile work environment conditions is extremely low compared to the amount of reports. OP is also very new to the job. The manager, HR, and company will be doing what's best for the company and not the OP. OP also never mentioned anything about those racial comments being in writing, which i highly doubt would have happened (you'd need to be a whole other level of idiot to send racial comments in email) which will further complicate things for the OP if there isn't written proof.

If you're going to go to bat for these things, go to bat to hit a home run, and not a foul ball or strike out. Full documentation of multiple issues of harassment, racial remarks, e-mails to manager making them aware of the issue, no typo's or reasons to justify complaints from other co-workers regarding work quality, and then, only then, bring it to HR. This is how to pidgeon hole HR, management, and company into resolving this issue. Doing this however just puts a target on your back for causing problems and making people tiptoe around you if they know you are the one who purposely got someone removed who's been there for a while that people got along with (assuming other's liked co-worker). I would only recommend this if OP can't resolve things personally between the co-worker.

I had a underperforming direct report who reported me 11 times after their first 6 months on the job. I faced all reports with HR and they deemed all of them pretty much non actionable or irrelevant reports. The direct report even complained to my boss, who knew how much of a problem this person was to me and decided to shift their work to basically nothing. That person was laid off about 8 months later because they were doing work that really wasn't necessary anymore (she wasn't doing it anyway) and we didn't have budget allocated to that position anymore.

Again, my advice for OP from someone who has dealt with these issues as a manager and individual is earn your stripes and or resolve this directly with your co-worker. Hear his point of view if he has one for being an *******, address those issues and move on. If he's just an *******, stand up to them and see if they back down. Then finally, if all options are exhausted, continue to compile evidence (should compile this entire time as back-up) and once enough is gathered, bring it to HR.
HR might find these "non-actionable" but I would bet a large sum of money the US Department of Labor wouldn't.

Which would make it even worse because they would want to know why HR ignored obvious illegal activity and once they started interviewing coworkers would find that it had been going on for years and years and years.

If you are going to play the game, don't play tiddlywinks with HR, play chess with the Department of Labor.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

Top