She suddenly went cold

[Learning Curve]

bingo, withheld information spotted! She is not your girlfriend, you are her boy tool.

How is so im her boy tool?

Enlight me.

 

[Learning Curve]

He is past the honeymoon phase, so something was guaranteed to happen. The issue is can he resolve this conflict with his GF or is the relationship done lol? His GF could be stressed out or having a bad month lol. But is he really dating her though? There's just not enough context to the story.

Yes i am, week 1 we were probably going out everyday for drinks and sex was atleast twice a day.

Week 2 got busy and a lot of preparations.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes i am, week 1 we were probably going out everyday for drinks and sex was atleast twice a day.

Week 2 got busy and a lot of preparations.

When you live with someone sex twice a day isn't normal, you know that right?

I mean I think you are in fantasy land with your expectations.

 

[soulforge]

No she did not but she did introduced me to all her family and girlfriends and she is talking to everyone about us so count that as her saying indirectly we are exclusive.

She does not need to say it directly.

Most women dont.

This is a problem for me!

I don't treat a chick like a full on girlfriend, up until she brings up the conversation about it.

The what/who are we?

This question gives me the leverage in the relationship, in the sense that it's an opportunity for me to lay down some ground rules, expectations and boundaries.

Sometimes I will promt her to ask this question by making some statements, that force her to raise the question.

For example.. During a conversation, I might just drop the

"Hey I'm enjoying this casual situation we have got going"

"Casual? Erm well I was hoping by now we could be more than just casual?"

Anyway it's not a good idea to fall into relationship mode with a girl, up until you have put yourself into a position of leverage and upper hand in negotiations.

 

[Learning Curve]

Well you ****ed up in here. You cared for her and stop playing the field that was your problem, you needed to start playing the field until the conversation from her started, she knows you're not going out with other women because she didn't try to lock you down with the convo and you're acting like a bf, you're assuming she is your gf cause she introduced you to family, but she can be like "we never had the conversation" you didn't wanna keep dating cause you were kinda scared of losing her, its understable, but women want guys who have options, they wanna feel they lock down a catch.

Well you ****ed up in here. You cared for her and stop playing the field that was your problem, you needed to start playing the field until the conversation from her started, she knows you're not going out with other women because she didn't try to lock you down with the convo and you're acting like a bf, you're assuming she is your gf cause she introduced you to family, but she can be like "we never had the conversation" you didn't wanna keep dating cause you were kinda scared of losing her, its understable, but women want guys who have options, they wanna feel they lock down a catch.

This happened after the fourth month i was spninning plates the first 3 months but then since the range of us meeting together increased i dropped my plates this is what i wanted.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

When's she old, nobody will know that she was a beauty but stone stone cold.

 

[Learning Curve]

When you live with someone sex twice a day isn't normal, you know that right?

I mean I think you are in fantasy land with your expectations.

Well we for the past 2 months there is days i bang her three times a day she is sexually horny all the time.

Before the two weeks together i was seeing her 3-4 times a week and the sex was in the same frequency.

I agree that living with someone changes the frequency. But generally speaking sex is quite active.

 

[soulforge]

Well you ****ed up in here. You cared for her and stop playing the field that was your problem, you needed to start playing the field until the conversation from her started, she knows you're not going out with other women because she didn't try to lock you down with the convo and you're acting like a bf, you're assuming she is your gf cause she introduced you to family, but she can be like "we never had the conversation" you didn't wanna keep dating cause you were kinda scared of losing her, its understable, but women want guys who have options, they wanna feel they lock down a catch.

Definitely. Chicks are clever, they will try to slide into relationship status, without the conversation even taking place.

I will often remind them, via hints while in conversation with them that we are casually seeing eachother lol

 

[CornbreadFed]

How is so im her boy tool?

Enlight me.

Because it either means she is too petty be direct which will result in passive aggressive behavior or she is just using you/settling for you currently

This is a problem for me!

I don't treat a chick like a full on girlfriend, up until she brings up the conversation about it.

This is what you should do lol. If a girl is interested, SHE will bring up the question within 2 months! If it takes longer than 2 months or she doesn't then you weren't her first choice lol.

 

[Dash Riprock]

This past two weeks we have been together non-stop

This is all I needed to see. It's the main reason she pulled back. You've made yourself way too accessible, like you don't have anything else going on in your life. If your game is as tight as you claimed, then you would know you need to make yourself somewhat scarce in the early going, which 5 months is, and have a life outside the relationship. Being together non-stop as you wrote is the dead opposite.

You've created too much certainty which is a killer in new relationships. Women do need some level of certainty to know you’re interested, but also a level of uncertainty (you have a life outside the relationship) to keep their interest piqued.

My best advice is to pump the brakes on this asap. You may end up losing her but you'll lose her for sure being in her face all the time.

You over-did it.

Learn and move on. Be smarter next time.

Good luck.

~Dash

 

[Gamisch]

There's a lotta bs going on here..but it's the weekend and I wanna join this party!! Yes yes probably another poster willlit me on ignore...

Legggo

You are lying to yourself and to this forum. If your game was tight then you wouldn't have needed to make this topic.



You are crying about three days of decreased sex? She could be stressed out from the war across the pond from you, work, or something. Either way, I feel like you are either freaking out or withholding some key information from us.

Yup.

I was reading the thread about sleeping with women at work and this post REALLY caught my eye. I felt like.."hmmmm ..dude seems quite comfortable with a situation I personally wouldn't wanna be in"

..and tadaa!!! LITERALLY 24 not even 24 hours later this thread pops up.


Wednesday it was a 3 months relationship, 2 days later its a 5 month relationship. OP time traveled 2 months in 2 days!!!


This is the post from Wednesday;

I met my current GF at work.

We have been dating for 3 months now.

Since day one, i never showed any weakness at work or signs of us being together. I even ignore her sometimes at work.

Now currently we have switched buildings but we work at the same company so everything is really convenient in a way.

But when i first met her, we had strong eye contact and we both played the game very well of not being identified.

It's about having a strong frame also and not showing emotions at work, controlling your urge to look at her all the time, and understanding when to remove your self from situations that can expose you.

Work is risky, but in my case, i knew how to play the game.

This thread by the way :https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/fvcking-women-from-work.279645/#post-3067239

Fvcking women from work

I've seen several threads about it, and although I haven't done and won't do it because women will get jealous if you're bantering with other women, they can go to HR, report you and boom there goes your career. However, if somebody will do it, these tricks may work to minimize issues. 1. Get...

www.sosuave.net

 

[BackInTheGame78]

There's a lotta bs going on here..but it's the weekend and I wanna join this party!! Yes yes probably another poster willlit me on ignore...

Legggo



Yup.

I was reading the thread about sleeping with women at work and this post REALLY caught my eye. I felt like.."hmmmm ..dude seems quite comfortable with a situation I personally wouldn't wanna be in"

..and tadaa!!! LITERALLY 24 not even 24 hours later this thread pops up.


Wednesday it was a 3 months relationship, 2 days later its a 5 month relationship. OP time traveled 2 months in 2 days!!!
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This is the post from Wednesday;


This thread by the way :https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/fvcking-women-from-work.279645/#post-3067239

Fvcking women from work

I've seen several threads about it, and although I haven't done and won't do it because women will get jealous if you're bantering with other women, they can go to HR, report you and boom there goes your career. However, if somebody will do it, these tricks may work to minimize issues. 1. Get...

www.sosuave.net

One of these things is not like the others...

Oh damn! I forgot...I should have logged in as one of my other users Detective CapsLock has found to post this...my bad. Let me go try and figure out their password...

 

[Gamisch]

On some real shyte; why would you even wanna be around a woman who you dont even know that good tor TWO WEEKS??

And then also borrowing shyte from her...here's the kicker: we can provide TO them but they can NEVER provide to us..ever! If she wants to you MUST decline amd see it as a shyte test type of thing. This way you'll establish a solid frame ,and by the time she DOES do shyte for you she KNOWS you do HER a favor by ALLOWING her to provide whatever it is..(yes ,if you want to be the ultimate dude even her p00sy, but lets start with materialism).

Take the L and move on.

This is a problem for me!

I don't treat a chick like a full on girlfriend, up until she brings up the conversation about it.

The what/who are we?

This question gives me the leverage in the relationship, in the sense that it's an opportunity for me to lay down some ground rules, expectations and boundaries.

Sometimes I will promt her to ask this question by making some statements, that force her to raise the question.

For example.. During a conversation, I might just drop the

"Hey I'm enjoying this casual situation we have got going"

"Casual? Erm well I was hoping by now we could be more than just casual?"

Anyway it's not a good idea to fall into relationship mode with a girl, up until you have put yourself into a position of leverage and upper hand in negotiations.

This.

Dont ever fool yourself by thinking a woman won't try to lock you down IF she feels like you are her absolute best option/opportunity.

Many men get butthurt when they find out she "just " wanted to have sex with them..yeah, it's kinda degrading to learn you are just a human dildo and she doesn't want to know you on a deeper level..sounds great on paper ,but not every man is built like that.

She needs to EXPLICITLY and ANXIOUSLY BEG for a relationship. If she doesn't you can keep it moving.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I was going to rent a car she told me not to and insisted.

i can rent a car for two weeks i also had other options but since we work at the same company and our work is 10 minutes from my house and she is staying with me it makes no sense what so ever to rent a car.

You look bad here. She’s your girl for five months. You cannot be leaning on her like that. Every time your life gets difficult is this your strategy, not family or friends you lean on your women? What next asking her for money?

 

[member162951]

Now on Sunday I'm flying to Dubai for a week on a business trip.

Suddenly yesterday she went cold.

^Quite a coincidence. Do you travel to Dubai often on business? Or pleasure?

 

[member162951]

I received a "Heart" emoji a few minutes ago from her, so I supposed the game is on again but I know she is still cold.

Stop catastrophizing is my advice. It could be anything including that you're going to Dubai for a week and she's feeling a bit insecure about it.

Im guessing, it could be anything

The heart emoji was a thoughtful gesture.

 

[BeExcellent]

Cause, the schedules of our work got in the way pretty aligned and i needed a car to pass until mine arrives.

It was two weeks but i was also going to the office with her car, so is not like we were every minute together.

Also keep in mind this is 5 months, no need to have a wife to spend time with a chick you date 5 months. Is not one week I know her.

So what about your car. Why didn’t you rent one? Can you not afford 2 weeks of car rental? She’s not your wife. She’s not even your gf.

You just became a mooch. Few things turn a chick off like dependency. Rent yourself a dam car until your new one shows up. She’s not your mommy and she doesn’t like being put into that role.

This is not how grown ass men act. So you open yourself to competition who doesn’t expect her to be mommy.

 

[member162951]

She told me in the morning "Why did you not wake me up? i can take you with my car" i told her "it's fine, i will go with a cab".

Now she texted me this morning to tell me "I will pick you up from work this afternoon" i told her "sure" and i left it there.

Reading these quotes, it would appear she kinda liked having you depend on her, leaning on her. Even encouraging you to lean on her by offering to drive you, pick you up, etc.

She may have viewed it as a move toward commitment.

Just my take from reading her responses but all this speculation about the car, it doesn't sound like it to me.

Just ask her, it will show you care; however with her sending the heart emoji, it may not even be necessary at this point.

Whatever it was, she worked through it on her own. It was only a couple of days, geez, maybe she was on her period, lol.

Let it go...

 

[Learning Curve]

So what about your car. Why didn’t you rent one? Can you not afford 2 weeks of car rental? She’s not your wife. She’s not even your gf.

You just became a mooch. Few things turn a chick off like dependency. Rent yourself a dam car until your new one shows up. She’s not your mommy and she doesn’t like being put into that role.

This is not how grown ass men act. So you open yourself to competition who doesn’t expect her to be mommy.

Dude again.

i can rent my own car but i do not have too. I can drive her car and she works from my place.

you are focusing too much on the car as its the tool that keeps me independent.

i have my own business, house, i dont need a chick with a car to keep me independent.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Dude again.

i can rent my own car but i do not have too. I can drive her car and she works from my place.

you are focusing too much on the car as its the tool that keeps me independent.

i have my own business, house, i dont need a chick with a car to keep me independent.

If a girl is literally losing interest in you over a car then imagine what she is going to do with any other pitfalls in your life. Drop her!