She suddenly went cold

[Learning Curve]

Things are better in person, not via text, but yeah game is on. She might got used to see you, give some space, see her 1 per week, and tell her you're very busy with work, that usually sparks dread and her hamster will think you'll seeing somebody else.

That was done in person.

 

[Learning Curve]

You are lying to yourself and to this forum. If your game was tight then you wouldn't have needed to make this topic.



You are crying about three days of decreased sex? She could be stressed out from the war across the pond from you, work, or something. Either way, I feel like you are either freaking out or withholding some key information from us.

first of all im not crying im sharing my view of the story.

secondly this forum exists to share and post threads to improve.

thirdly i shared pretty much all the info.

 

[Ricky]

Things are better in person, not via text, but yeah game is on. She might got used to see you, give some space, see her 1 per week, and tell her you're very busy with work, that usually sparks dread and her hamster will think you'll seeing somebody else.

years ago before i met my wife i dated a woman for 3 years where i saw her once or twice a week tops. I was busy with grad school and work. It was before text. Id go to her place friday night or maybe to the restaurant where she worked have a few drinks f$k her maybe spend the night and get brunch then i went home and studied etc. it was great

 

[Dr.Suave]

Silence and distance. Spin more plates.

 

[Blacksheep]

She is probably hiding something. But its hard to tell what could it be.

You can give some time to see if she is going to talk with you about what is happening. If not, ask again and tell you are feeling she is distant and weird.

Be aware that it also can be a behavior of someone after cheating. They become cold, silent and distant. Maybe because of feeling guilty, maybe because she might be interest in someone else. But its only an assumption.

There is a lot of other reasons why she might be acting like that as well.

Try to observe and focus on details if she is keeping it secret. And if that situation continue, might be a good idea evaluate if its worth keeping it.

 

[CornbreadFed]

first of all im not crying im sharing my view of the story.

secondly this forum exists to share and post threads to improve.

thirdly i shared pretty much all the info.

I just find your post hard to grasp. Three days of no sex and you are freaking out?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Two weeks is absolutely bananas

What caught my attention is the whole ‘let her come to me’ thing five months in. That’s a starter approach but that is going to hurt you over time if it’s all you’re doing. It always works periodically but you can’t make it your base approach. That’s not how people operate. Do you have trouble expressing emotions by any chance? When you guys are together are you so focused on holding a certain type of personality that you’re missing the social cues? Expand that over two straight weeks?

If she’s not talking to you and totally out of character, it’s okay to ask her how she is doing. She’s five months into this thing with you also, she likes you, give her some attention. Then see how it goes.

You’re treating her like she’s a hookup, if that’s your plan keep doing what you’re doing.

 

[Learning Curve]

I just find your post hard to grasp. Three days of no sex and you are freaking out?

the sex has nothing to do with it. Its the whole pattern that is included in this post.

 

[Divorced w 3]

You also don’t know her well enough to be using her for rides for two weeks straight. Dude, that is probably what caught her attention whether she can express it or not. I mean break that whole concept apart, as far as I see it the obvious qualities that you just displayed that you lack are the following:
Close family to help
Close friends to help
Lack of financial resources to handle it yourself
Lack of confidence in yourself
lack of anything else going on in your life

I’m sure this is just the surface

 

[CornbreadFed]

the sex has nothing to do with it. Its the whole pattern that is included in this post.

There really isn't a pattern, your frame is softer than USC's defense right now. Your frame faces its first minor snowstorm and it collapses faster than the Texas Power Grid in 2021. Clear your mind, focus on your upcoming business trip, and try to be yourself because your weak frame is probably spilling over to her, and she is getting irritated by it. If your girl seriously leaves you because you had to borrow her car for 2 weeks, then she was never your girl in the first place!

 

[soulforge]

I just find your post hard to grasp. Three days of no sex and you are freaking out?

I don't think it just that.

Remember we are only reading a few sentences about OPs situation based on minimal details provided by him.

It's very difficult to jump to a conclusion, without knowing or understanding the full context of what might be going on.

I doubt OP is concerned about her behaviour, purely based on they haven't had sex for 3 days. There is such a thing as gut instinct

You know when something isn't quite right with the chick you are dealing with, op senses something is off, and more than likely he is right.. Something is off

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Two weeks is absolutely bananas

What caught my attention is the whole ‘let her come to me’ thing five months in. That’s a starter approach but that is going to hurt you over time if it’s all you’re doing. It always works periodically but you can’t make it your base approach. That’s not how people operate. Do you have trouble expressing emotions by any chance? When you guys are together are you so focused on holding a certain type of personality that you’re missing the social cues? Expand that over two straight weeks?

If she’s not talking to you and totally out of character, it’s okay to ask her how she is doing. She’s five months into this thing with you also, she likes you, give her some attention. Then see how it goes.

You’re treating her like she’s a hookup, if that’s your plan keep doing what you’re doing.

You also don’t know her well enough to be using her for rides for two weeks straight. Dude, that is probably what caught her attention whether she can express it or not. I mean break that whole concept apart, as far as I see it the obvious qualities that you just displayed that you lack are the following:
Close family to help
Close friends to help
Lack of financial resources to handle it yourself
Lack of confidence in yourself
lack of anything else going on in your life

I’m sure this is just the surface

Pretty much what I was gonna say, availability is one thing that can be the symptom of a scarcity mindset but when your seeking her outright provisions on a consistent basis, your leaving the door wide open for Boyfriend Destroyer lines, possibly even from her friends... If the Ex is smart, he'll get into her friends ears and have them Boyfriend Destroy as well and they'll do it without pause or remorse and you can't exactly confront them like you can a dude.

Im not gonna sit here and arm chair your life but wtf r u going to Dubai for if you don't even have a vehicle at home or anything, I'd assume business but if for pleasure should reconsider your priorities, just leaning on her while you go travel, anyone would be pissed to hold up that weight.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I smell a rat. This whole OP sounds like cap.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You know when something isn't quite right with the chick you are dealing with, op senses something is off, and more than likely he is right.. Something is off

He is past the honeymoon phase, so something was guaranteed to happen. The issue is can he resolve this conflict with his GF or is the relationship done lol? His GF could be stressed out or having a bad month lol. But is he really dating her though? There's just not enough context to the story.

 

[soulforge]

Also, did she ever asked you about being exclusive? or "where do you see us" or something along those lines? If that didn't happen you're just another plate, and she is hooking up with another guy.

Some chicks are clever enough to bypass that conversation. They will begin ACTING like your girlfriend.

Hey babe
I miss you
I love you

Without even having that what are we conversation?

 

[Learning Curve]

Pretty much what I was gonna say, availability is one thing that can be the symptom of a scarcity mindset but when your seeking her outright provisions on a consistent basis, your leaving the door wide open for Boyfriend Destroyer lines, possibly even from her friends... If the Ex is smart, he'll get into her friends ears and have them Boyfriend Destroy as well and they'll do it without pause or remorse and you can't exactly confront them like you can a dude.

Im not gonna sit here and arm chair your life but wtf r u going to Dubai for if you don't even have a vehicle at home or anything, I'd assume business but if for pleasure should reconsider your priorities, just leaning on her while you go travel, anyone would be pissed to hold up that weight.

Dude.

first of all im not leaning on anyone.

my new car will be delivered on Monday.

secondly it was her idea to help me out while my car was coming in i have my own sh1t together both in business, finance, and health.

Most sh1t is paid for her not all of it and is not like im without a vechile is just a week. About what weight are you talking about?

Her sleeping at my place most of the time when everyhing is taking care of but again not all of it.

Please dont create conclusions without knowing anything.

 

[Learning Curve]

Also, did she ever asked you about being exclusive? or "where do you see us" or something along those lines? If that didn't happen you're just another plate, and she is hooking up with another guy.

No she did not but she did introduced me to all her family and girlfriends and she is talking to everyone about us so count that as her saying indirectly we are exclusive.

She does not need to say it directly.

Most women dont.

 

[Learning Curve]

There really isn't a pattern, your frame is softer than USC's defense right now. Your frame faces its first minor snowstorm and it collapses faster than the Texas Power Grid in 2021. Clear your mind, focus on your upcoming business trip, and try to be yourself because your weak frame is probably spilling over to her, and she is getting irritated by it. If your girl seriously leaves you because you had to borrow her car for 2 weeks, then she was never your girl in the first place!

Makes sense.

i dont believe she will leave me for this but for sure my gut tells me there is something up.

I agree that i may have lost my frame but not to the extend you are referring to.

 

[CornbreadFed]

No she did not but she did introduced me to all her family and girlfriends and she is talking to everyone about us so count that as her saying indirectly we are exclusive.

She does not need to say it directly.

Most women dont.

bingo, withheld information spotted! She is not your girlfriend, you are her boy tool.

 

[Learning Curve]

You also don’t know her well enough to be using her for rides for two weeks straight. Dude, that is probably what caught her attention whether she can express it or not. I mean break that whole concept apart, as far as I see it the obvious qualities that you just displayed that you lack are the following:
Close family to help
Close friends to help
Lack of financial resources to handle it yourself
Lack of confidence in yourself
lack of anything else going on in your life

I’m sure this is just the surface

I was going to rent a car she told me not to and insisted.

i can rent a car for two weeks i also had other options but since we work at the same company and our work is 10 minutes from my house and she is staying with me it makes no sense what so ever to rent a car.