Advice from the old lady:
OP, have you ever heard the phrase “There is no ME in TEAM?”
As a woman who has 3 children there are a number of things you need to be aware of, even though you will NOT relate to them because as a man you simply cannot (much like I as a woman cannot understand what having a penis & balls is like, because I don’t have that equipment)…….
1. Pregnancy is physically exhausting. Your blood volume surges, your hormones loosen the soft tissue (tendons & ligaments) in your body to prepare for expansion as the baby grows followed by childbirth, you are often nauseated by otherwise normal smells, you may vomit often (thank GOD I never threw up), you do not sleep well, you are overheated, joints ache, back aches, breasts enlarge and become unduly heavy, etc. Physically it’s no picnic. Add to that she is not already in exceptional shape. I was a fit athlete training 45 miles running a week and lifelong competitive athlete who played in college when I got pregnant. It was physically taxing for me in peak shape, nevermind for your wife who is not a lifelong athlete.
So she’s physically exhausted in ways you cannot relate to.
2. This is her 3rd pregnancy. Here’s what that means. Each pregnancy as a woman you are older, each pregnancy is physically more demanding than the last. I had my first child at age 33, my last at age 39. Older age makes an enormous difference and not in a good way.
3. She has 2 small children already at home. Here is what you cannot understand. Little kids are an enormous amount of work, they don’t give a crap how their mom is feeling (that’s YOUR job) and they are demanding and needy 24/7/365 with ZERO breaks.
YOU get a break from the chaos by going off to work and by going off to the gym, lucky you. She is exhausted from being pregnant and having to feed, change, mind and keep safe your other little heathens, who are exploring everything, putting whatever they come across in their mouths, demanding feeding on demand, pooping, dirtying everything and trying to KILL themselves and sometimes each other with ZERO awareness about mom’s condition. This is what kids do. Rearing young children is awful in many ways, and on top of that it is often thankless.
Congratulations on confirming to your wife that not only are you not understanding of her situation you are a demanding ass hole who doesn’t give a shjt about her and you not only don’t lead, you are disrespectful to boot, so she is disrespectful to you out of her own self respect.
You care more about tidiness than you do about her.
That is the message you are sending loud and clear.
Your message is DEHUMANIZING to your wife.
And much of your behavior previously points to this as well.
THAT is why she is angry. Really angry. Any woman worth her salt would be under such circumstances.
Next post I shall tell you how to deal with it IF you want to have an intact family.
