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Don Juan
I've been hesitant to think this way for a long time, but I have to admit I'm now quite convinced that a major shift has occurred in the past 10 years or so. I could write a lot about this, and in my opinion, the true human nature has been exposed.There is just something in the air. People are not the same. women have changed as well.
I've said this before (and Aaron Clarey has talked about this a lot): women don't like men that much, and they probably never did. The main reason why couples were formed in the old days was transactional: women needed money/assistance from men and they sold sex to them (in the form of marriage).
I look at my social circle, either work-related or close relatives, and the majority of women in their 30s and 40s are now single. Some of them have kids, but no husband. They seem content, they are not searching for anything. They have let themselves go physically, gained weight.
What has happened over the past 10-20 years is that the majority of young professionals in almost every high-paying field is now women (tech is still somewhat of an exception, but even that is changing). Women prioritize education and playing the career game - that's their main focus, not relationships.
Also, most women don't really need sex or companionship of men. Women mostly want attention, which they can get either from swipe apps or having a night out with the girls.
Any man who says they are "hooking up" in 2023, I have to assume are either lying or they are doing it with very unattractive women.
If a man wants high-quality sex and/or companionship, the only way these days is an emotion-based LTR or straight up paying for it. Most women (probably 80-90%) don't want a LTR or generally much anything to do with men, so you have to find the rare 10-20%, or resort to transactional relationships.
Now, if someone thinks that this is a sad reality we are living in....well, it was always this way. The truth was hidden, but now it has been revealed. The eternal confusion of men not understanding women has also been removed: there was never anything to be understood, women just didn't like us guys that much but didn't want to say it straight up because they were financially dependent on men.
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