Best response to "You never text me first". We are not dating yet.

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I met this girl online and she texts me first daily. Today she sends me a message "You never text me first". I ignored the message and she pinned it to our chat.

Real reason I dont text her first is because I asked her to visit me at home and she told me she wants to hang out first. And didnt make any concrete plans to hang out. Plus she told me she is talking to other men too. This is the reason I only respond to her texts.

Whats a good response when someone says this?
 

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Whats a good response when someone says this?
"I'm not living up to your ideal statistics. Maybe we should break up."

Either she'll understand that you're too busy to comply with her texting desires, or she'll stop texting.
 

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dude, you met a girl online and expect her to just come over to your house without meeting her in person.

Ignore the "you never text me first" and just ask her out for coffee. She wants to know you're not a serial killer before walking into your house.
I have had women come directly to my house.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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If you don't think she's worth meeting up with somewhere first and you aren't willing to spend the minimal amount of investment (when she's made it clear she'd be down to see you?) then don't respond at all.

There are girls off of apps that will come straight to your place, but I don't want them. I need to meet them first, make sure they look like they present themselves, vet them a bit and be certain they aren't going to steal my kidney. I'd say try and setup a meetup if you are still interested otherwise move on.

To answer your question with "You never text me first", being c'ocky and funny is good.
 

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Coffee dates are a no go, basically anywhere there are gonna be other people around to hear your conversation, you are almost automatically going to be in her frame for the meeting.

Not to say, don't entertain the notion of it, but just go for the power move: You pick her up, drive through for the coffee, then do the date in the car, do not go inside. Put her right into her place from the get go, which is inside your frame, she's not playing ball, you drop her off and hard next, forget about it, maybe she'll reach back out, maybe not, but the coffee date going beyond 15 min is a sure sign of low interest, your already far too available at that point, if you can't close by 15 min it's next.

I have had plenty of women reach back out to me after I've nexted them doing this, it's not the end but if it is you gotta be ok with that. Flowers after sex, not before, otherwise your on that chump time.

15+ min coffee date is low AF interest, you could have a coffee date an hour long with any woman at any time, don't think because it happens your special or there is a spark, you are only kidding yourself. Foot in door first, then have the long coffee date if you want after.
 

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“You always beat me to it babe. You free this week? Let’s grab a drink on ___”
 

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"because you can never wait your turn"

^^^^^

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There are girls off of apps that will come straight to your place, but I don't want them. I need to meet them first,
I live about 10-20 minutes walking from the main railway station. Even if a woman trusts me enough to come straight to my house, I always meet them at the station to walk them to my home. Gives me plenty of time to see if I want to show her where I live.
 

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but the coffee date going beyond 15 min is a sure sign of low interest, your already far too available at that point, if you can't close by 15 min it's next.
What do you mean close In 15 min?

Meet at 2:00 pm, have sex with at 2:15 pm?

Flowers after sex, not before, otherwise your on that chump time.
Why would you give her flowers after sex?

You already got you wanted, why waste your money.
 

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What do you mean close In 15 min?

Meet at 2:00 pm, have sex with at 2:15 pm?



Why would you give her flowers after sex?

You already got you wanted, why waste your money.
Oh I forgot, you have to be at least 6 foot tall to have coffee with her as well.
 

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Oh I forgot, you have to be at least 6 foot tall to have coffee with her as well.
Ignore the argument and attack the poster.

I can see why ladies love you.
 

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This isn’t that complicated. Like some posters have said, you have to put in a little effort.

Make a ****y funny comment about texting first. Make a date. Be normal and cool. Bang her. But DON’T start texting her first just cuz she said so. Maybe every once in awhile at an unexpected time just to spike her heart rate. Then when she texts you, make another date, bang her, rinse and repeat.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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right, and this one doesn't want to. So go buy the girl a cup of coffee, jeez.
Exactly...it's amazing dudes on one hand cry there are no quality women then in the next breath are unwilling even leave the house to meet up for the first "date".

Is this real life?

OP, this women seems to have respect for herself. Clearly this has you shook since you don't deal with any that do apparently.

Just a little piece of advice. If you want something better than trash, you won't find it with your current methodology.
 

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dude, you met a girl online and expect her to just come over to your house without meeting her in person.

Ignore the "you never text me first" and just ask her out for coffee. She wants to know you're not a serial killer before walking into your house.
****, why would you ever invite a woman over to your house that you've never even met in real life before lol. I mean, it's easy to filter out if you are being catfished or you are talking to some trannie lol, though I could see some desperate simp falling for something like that. I'd be concerned about her trying to rob me or something along those lines. She could be bat**** crazy and you end up unable to be rid of her.
 

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Hahaha, call an escort service then
Honestly, even with something like this you shouldn't have them come to your house and you should instead get a hotel room. Think about it this way, would you want an escort to actually know where you live? Escorts are at the end of the day individuals from the underworld that are associated with a lot of sketchy people and other crazy stuff behind the scenes, I sure as hell wouldn't want people like this to know where I live. Sounds like a great way to get blackmailed, robbed or many other terrible things.
 

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Honestly, even with something like this you shouldn't have them come to your house and you should instead get a hotel room. Think about it this way, would you want an escort to actually know where you live? Escorts are at the end of the day individuals from the underworld that are associated with a lot of sketchy people and other crazy stuff behind the scenes, I sure as hell wouldn't want people like this to know where I live. Sounds like a great way to get blackmailed, robbed or many other terrible things.
Yeah you are right about that. I think a lot of them won't even come to your house and will instead insist on a hotel room for safety reasons, especially their own.

At least for the first few times...if you become a regular then maybe they will bend the rules a little.

I remember reading some anonymous article written by an escort about her "work" and how things worked and if I remember correctly she rented out a hotel room for the day and people came to her.
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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