Everything you need to know about Daddy Issue's!

[Bokanovsky]

Maybe I am.
Won't tell you what you sound like, you wouldn't like it.

That was meant as a compliment.

 

[soulforge]

That makes sense, thanks for clarifying the thought process on why craziness might be tempting (they’re more likely to be promiscuous). but some dudes genuinely like the drama too. If that weren’t the case they’d leave earlier IMHO

I don’t have sympathy for people who claim to hate crazy people but ignore every red flag. I get that starting off dating you can be naive but for the people that have been dating crazies for years… yeah no

I’ve already learned from my first relationship and am dating someone whose much more mentally stable. Infatuation is def a high but you need to learn how to eject and not hope the other person will change. It only takes one failed relationship to realize where you went wrong and your blind spots when it comes to red flags.

Regarding why dudes continue with the girl even with the red flags?

Well look. If the girl tells you that her let's say father passed away and she had no masculine figure in her life growing up, she was raised by a single mom.

With most dudes this doesn't even compute as a red flag.. Most guys mindset is "poor girl, she needs a good strong man in her life, let me be the strong man for her & protect her"

It's in ingrained in most men to try and provide/protect or fix things with women.

They don't understand the implications of dating girls who didn't have a masculine father figure in her life. It's only later down the line that the real big red flags pop up.

When that happens.. Well guys like us who understand a little about mental disorders or what kind of flags to look out for, we will make a quick exit.

Your average dude? Well he will continue on a downwards spiral of trying to fix her & will end up getting burned.

 

[soulforge]

What happens if that girl didn't give any indication of being crazy, of respecting your boundaries, being hot and heavy for you, are you gonna dismiss her because she didn't have a father? Maybe she had an older brother, an uncle, woman emulate behaviours and personalities of the strongest frame.

If she displays no indication of being crazy, respects your boundaries, then everything is good.

Remember, not having a father in her life on it's own is NOT an indication of crazy.

However not having a father and several other red flags, would suggest daddy issues/BPD

 

[Cowboy-Cheems]

What happens if that girl didn't give any indication of being crazy, of respecting your boundaries, being hot and heavy for you, are you gonna dismiss her because she didn't have a father? Maybe she had an older brother, an uncle, woman emulate behaviours and personalities of the strongest frame.

I try to avoid absolutist mentality, and give every woman the benefit of the doubt. Fatherless women do collectively have bad reputations, but that does not mean all of them are irredeemable nut cases. Bad people come from all walks of life. There are girls with good parents that never shut their legs once they enter high school and there are girls with bad or missing parents that sometimes develop healthy lifestyles. Stereotypes often exist for a reason, though they are never absolute. I give any attractive woman a chance to state her case. If I don't like her case, I move on.

 

[soulforge]

I try to avoid absolutist mentality, and give every woman the benefit of the doubt. Fatherless women do collectively have bad reputations, but that does not mean all of them are irredeemable nut cases. Bad people come from all walks of life. There are girls with good parents that never shut their legs once they enter high school and there are girls with bad or missing parents that sometimes develop healthy lifestyles. Stereotypes often exist for a reason, though they are never absolute. I give any attractive woman a chance to state her case. If I don't like her case, I move on.

Wow you guys are beyond help.

You do realise the video I posted does NOT claim, that an absent father on its own, means she is crazy.

The video very clearly clarifies there must be other indications red flags to suggest she has daddy issues.

Also pointing out the exceptions, does not change the rule.

Are there chicks who have a father figure and who are totally nuts? Absolutely yes.

However not having a father figure, being raised in a broken home, without the authority and discipline of a father will massively increase the chances of her having issues and failed relationships.

Did you jokers even watch the damn video lol

 

[Bigpapa]

Wow you guys are beyond help.

You do realise the video I posted does NOT claim, that an absent father on its own, means she is crazy.

The video very clearly clarifies there must be other indications red flags to suggest she has daddy issues.

Also pointing out the exceptions, does not change the rule.

Are there chicks who have a father figure and who are totally nuts? Absolutely yes.

However not having a father figure, being raised in a broken home, without the authority and discipline of a father will massively increase the chances of her having issues and failed relationships.

Did you jokers even watch the damn video lol

Dunno man, other red flags are more important than the absent father, which kinda leads to not having a father maybe a yellow flag actually

Substance abuse \ mental problems \ partying mode \ low self esteem, each one alone is a serious red flag on its own and it does not matter how many other red flags are out there

It is not a competition of catching as many red flags as possible. We are not sailors

 

[soulforge]

Dunno man, other red flags are more important than the absent father, which kinda leads to not having a father maybe a yellow flag actually

Substance abuse \ mental problems \ partying mode \ low self esteem, each one alone is a serious red flag on its own and it does not matter how many other red flags are out there

It is not a competition of catching as many red flags as possible. We are not sailors

Those other flags you just mentioned, they all usually stem from not having a father figure.

Your literally missing the point again and again.. So let me put the kiddie gloves on.

What is the fathers role more often than not in the family household? His role is to set boundaries, apply discipline and be a positive strong male role model to his daughter & to protect her.

It's the lack of decipline, lack of a strong masculine figure in her life, that eventually leads to all those other red flags you mentioned.

Single moms are terrible at laying down boundaries and applying discipline. They are nurtures by default and not authoritarian like men can be.

Now let's look at some of the red flags you mentioned.

Do you know what a young girl does when she does not have that protective strong father figure in her life? She doesn't feel safe.

She will often start having sex early with older men, just to have a masculine strong male figure in her life.

So she looks for that masculine energy/protectiveness from the streets. This is why young girls with daddy issues tend to date men, often MUCH older than them.

Those older Alpha type men, usually dump them when they get tired of her BS, because these girls often come with alot of BS.

Therefore these girls are left alpha widowed, further contributing to her mental illness.

 

[elitewarrior]

Thanks for posting this video very informative but I think half the guys on this site already know what you're trying to convey. I said this a bunch of time before I i'm glad I found this site in the late '90s. There were very few books on the whole red pill blue pill philosophy and their were definitely no YouTube if you're between the ages of 18 and 25 and feel you need to fix a girl with BPD or daddy issues you're really reaching these girls could be replaced very easy with what you learned on here.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Thank god I'm a Sigma and these broken women don't harbour the delusion of monogamous commitment.

Sigmas don't usually need to have the last word.

 

[soulforge]

Sigmas don't usually need to have the last word.

Facts

 

[Millard Fillmore]

the craziest women I mated with all had fathers who were sadly not absent

Yeah too many factors at play. I've dated a few that I can remember who grew up without dads.

One was well adjusted. Not 100% my type personality wise (too American feminist-ish) but overall grounded and had a real sense of purpose.

Another was textbook daddy issues. Almost 20 years younger, lots of attachment issues, lots of drama and b.s.

Yet another was kind of a mix. First in her class in high school and college, STEM studies, super nice and polite. She had some attachment issues too but that had more to do with her cultural upbringing.

Meanwhile plenty of cuckoos who had dads. Though I guess you can still have issues with a dad who's there, lol.

 

[Bigpapa]

What is the fathers role more often than not in the family household? His role is to set boundaries, apply discipline and be a positive strong male role model to his daughter & to protect her.

I understand your point of view and I agree with it till a certain point

My only comment was from the get go was around why do you think the father role is stronger than the society role in the development of children?

And more importantly why do you think that father figures are not already “touched” by society, and thus are just a washed self of what they could have been?

Healthy parents from my experience so far in the world are very rare. Most of them are quite f8cked up and have little to no clue on how to raise their children

It is that saying, “ children redo the same mistakes of their parents or go to the other extreme ( which again is not the healthiest way of doing things)”

 

[savi0r]

https://archive.ph/xoIL4

This is an old thread , but with great insight. Those of us who had dealings or relationships with these girls can confirm that ,in most of the cases, the end result is soul crushing for the man. After my experience ,I prioritize now the importance of good upbringing and good traditional family ,where the man and the woman know and play their God given roles.