The problem is this happens a lot more nowadays compared to 20 years ago. 20 years ago women knew their SMV and accepted it Nowadays, they go on these swipe apps and feel entitled to a higher tier guy so For example a girl is a 4, but has a bunch of guys that are 6's-8's that matched with her. We know that women conflate sexual market value with relationship market value. We're a guy who is an 8 may bang a 4 but he won't take her seriously. However, to a woman, she thinks because she's banging 8s that's what she deserves.
This reminds me of a 46-year-old woman I know who looks like a toad, She loves men that are buff, 6 foot+ tall, and younger (early to mid 20s) however she knows to keep those guys beyond sex she has to shell out money, pay their bills etc. Eventually, she realized that it wasn't enough cause those guys would always cheat on her with younger and hotter women. She doesn't want men her age because she is not attracted to them.
However, I would also go as far to say that men are to blame for this as well because you have some men who will lower their standards enough to bang a 3 or 4 when they're double those women SMV and therein lies the problem as well. 20 years ago a woman would enjoy the experience(typically a one-off) and marry a guy close to her SMV.
In 2023 this experience now can be a weekly thing for modern women because of swipe apps. Now women have doubled down and are not settling. A woman would rather be with a guy who is a broke bum if his SMV is an 8+ than be with a rich educated guy who is a 4 or 5 on her level. Let that sink in
Another story I know a 34 year blond, EXTREMELY MID white woman, no T&A. subpar face but she is thin. She has dated tons of men above her SMV who take her on dates all the time. I remember her bragging about going on 30 dates in 30 days years ago on snapchat. When asked by a mutual friend regarding why isn't married yet she said
"I'm hot and I want someone on my level"
The delusion is real, the average guy in 2023 can't compete it sucks but this is why you see the "High Value Man" trope become so popular on redpill youtube in the last 3 years because most men can't even get an average woman cause average women are holding out for Chad/Tyrone/Enirque/Bruce Lee only