I'm attracted to younger girls, but are they interested in older men?

[sangheilios]

Some guys at 30 - 40 look completely washed due to years of stress and chronic neglect. Others look like the finished product, the best versions of themselves imaginable after years of self improvement. For context Bradd Pitt was mid 30s during Fight Club and 40s during Troy, which was his physical peak. Of course a guy looking like him during those years with a good career wouldn’t struggle to get laid with a hot college chick; just has to post up at a city bar in some nice clothes. I’m in my 30s and only date girls under 25. So many ways to meet them, more than ever. Adding random girls on Instagram has made it even easier to be accessible to those girls on mass. I can follow 100 girls a day with no effort. I can go to libraries, parks, whatever. Or just go to any holiday resort and bang college girls on holiday if I want.

Yo, are you seriously going to use Brad Pitt as an example of a man in his 40s that could pull a woman that is 18-22?

 

[sangheilios]

You guys on here are absolutely delusional if you think this is even worth considering. If young women are rejecting men that are around their own age what the hell do you think they'd do to guys like you? Your only real answer to this is IF you use money and status as a means to draw them in, that's it. Hell, even when I was 30-32 I was getting rejected for being "too old" from women I matched with on Tinder, which I didn't really care much about it anyway.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Gentlemen, can I ask why we repeatedly beat this horse to death? Over and over? Have those of you on either side of the argument changes EVEN ONE MIND yet?

Nope.

Waste of energy.

 

[pipeman84]

I don't know, I think it is incredibly cringey and bizarre. There's nothing wrong with it, I just don't see how it could possibly work. I'm just imagining some 40+ guy approaching some sorority girl lol or going to a nightclub filled with college aged women and hitting on them.......I can only imagine the look on their faces and how awkward the interactions would be lol.

They could meet directly at the gym, or the 40+guy could become friends with a guy who has a sister/daughter in that age range and thus meet indirectly.
Only your imagination limits the real life scenarios this could happen.

 

[sangheilios]

They could meet directly at the gym, or the 40+guy could become friends with a guy who has a sister/daughter in that age range and thus meet indirectly.
Only your imagination limits the real life scenarios this could happen.

A guy that is 40+ is going to become friends with a guy that has a sister that is 18-22? Most people wouldn't even be comfortable encouraging such an age difference, you are delusional. An age gap of 10+ years is considered a lot and represents a small minority of marriages for instance, how rare do you think 20+ would be?

 

[pipeman84]

A guy that is 40+ is going to become friends with a guy that has a sister that is 18-22? Most people wouldn't even be comfortable encouraging such an age difference, you are delusional. An age gap of 10+ years is considered a lot and represents a small minority of marriages for instance, how rare do you think 20+ would be?

That's one scenario where they met organically, indirectly. He didn't fall in the ''old creepy guy trying to take advantage of the naive young girl'' stereotype. If the 40+ guy has his shyt together and the girl is attracted to him, why would his brother/father be against their love?

 

[Millard Fillmore]

I don't know, I think it is incredibly cringey and bizarre. There's nothing wrong with it, I just don't see how it could possibly work. I'm just imagining some 40+ guy approaching some sorority girl lol or going to a nightclub filled with college aged women and hitting on them.......I can only imagine the look on their faces and how awkward the interactions would be lol.

It's a waste of time imagining scenarios that aren't happening IRL.

I'll give you an example. When I was 43 or so (my age here is wrong), I talked to a girl at a bar who'd been checking me out. Cute Asian girl. We chatted and I got her number. Two days later she came to my neighborhood and messaged me that she was having a drink nearby. We met up, hung out. She came over and we smashed. She was 22.

After that she was simping for me, probably because I wasn't that into her. We hung out a bit more but I made it clear I wasn't interested in anything more than sex.

There was nothing "cringey" about the approach or interaction because I didn't make it so. She was a cool chick. 20 something girls are often as mature as 30 or 40 somethings. Not all but some. Depends on her attitude, disposition, etc. She also has to be open to older guys. Sometimes these things happen on the DL where her friends won't judge her. And yeah if she rejects, so what. Means nothing.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

Bro I’m in my 30s and my last girls were 21, 19 (part time model) and 22. I’m currently talking to a 22 year old college student who also MODELS who messaged me first on instagram (I followed her first but she slide in my dms first after I posted a story) we are going on a date this weekend.

I’m using an example of bradd pitt for his LOOKS, as an example of a guy who looked great enough in his 40s to pull any girl. I can’t post a picture of myself, but I look better now than I ever have. And girls respond to looks, money and status, which I have more of than most men. the fact I look so good at an older age is a TURN ON for women because it implies I have rarely good genetics and more experience than the guys she usually talks to. Women dont date guys their own age because they want guys that are OLDER. If being in your 20s was such a good thing then why do most guys in their 20s barely get attention from chicks except for maybe 1% of guys. Heck my early 20s I was barely learning how to act on a date. Btw even if a girl has an idea of what she wants age wise; that can easily to be changed, like most things. It’s not a DEAL BREAKER like height or financial status for women. Women are more interested in all the cool sh1t I do and the amazing skills I have in bed

 

[sangheilios]

It's a waste of time imagining scenarios that aren't happening IRL.

I'll give you an example. When I was 43 or so (my age here is wrong), I talked to a girl at a bar who'd been checking me out. Cute Asian girl. We chatted and I got her number. Two days later she came to my neighborhood and messaged me that she was having a drink nearby. We met up, hung out. She came over and we smashed. She was 22.

After that she was simping for me, probably because I wasn't that into her. We hung out a bit more but I made it clear I wasn't interested in anything more than sex.

There was nothing "cringey" about the approach or interaction because I didn't make it so. She was a cool chick. 20 something girls are often as mature as 30 or 40 somethings. Not all but some. Depends on her attitude, disposition, etc. She also has to be open to older guys. Sometimes these things happen on the DL where her friends won't judge her. And yeah if she rejects, so what. Means nothing.

Ok, and how many times has something like this actually happened to you and how often do you think this occurs amongst the general population of men around your age? Have you ever considered that maybe this was just an unusual event where things lined up for you, aka you were incredibly lucky, or do you think this is something you could regularly repeat? You were by chance at a bar where there was a much younger woman that by chance found you attractive and you had an opportunity to meet. Most women in this age range are NOT attracted to much older men. I don't mean this as an insult, but I also highly doubt you are some "Chad" type that is attractive, well over 6' tall, fit/muscular, etc.

It's great that you had an experience like this but it's not a good idea to encourage other men to think that this is something that is possible when it reality it's an incredibly unlikely thing to happen to them. I'm 33 and taller and in better shape than the vast majority of men and I had issues approaching women when I was younger, I can't imagine what the experience would be like for a much older guy lol. Vast majority of men approaching 40 or over it are NOT getting success with women if they are single, this is the reality that we need to accept.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Can we just conclude that just being older doesn't attract young women?

If a young woman is attracted to an older man, most of the attraction is either in the older man's (perceived) maturity/status (Daddy) or money (Sugar Daddy).

 

[sangheilios]

Bro I’m in my 30s and my last girls were 21, 19 (part time model) and 22. I’m currently talking to a 22 year old college student who also MODELS who messaged me first on instagram (I followed her first but she slide in my dms first after I posted a story) we are going on a date this weekend.

I’m using an example of bradd pitt for his LOOKS, as an example of a guy who looked great enough in his 40s to pull any girl. I can’t post a picture of myself, but I look better now than I ever have. And girls respond to looks, money and status, which I have more of than most men. the fact I look so good at an older age is a TURN ON for women because it implies I have rarely good genetics and more experience than the guys she usually talks to. Women dont date guys their own age because they want guys that are OLDER. And even if a girl has an idea of what she wants; that can easily to be changed. It’s not a deal breaker like height or financial status for women. Women are more interested in all the cool sh1t I do and the amazing skills I have in bed

There's a huge difference between 30s and 40+, seriously? Right, and yet we have another poster who claims to be dating some 22 year old that is a model lol. You also have more looks, money and status than most men as well......seriously? This entire post is a clear sign you are a troll lol.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

Can we just conclude that just being older doesn't attract young women?

If a young woman is attracted to an older man, most of the attraction is either in the older man's (perceived) maturity/status (Daddy) or money (Sugar Daddy).

this is incorrect, as per my life - see my last post. WOMEN arent attracted to YOU, and probably weren’t into you much in your 20s either. age isnt the limiting factor. If you were taller, better looking; with better money, you wouldn’t be saying what you’re saying

 

[SmoothSmooth]

There's a huge difference between 30s and 40+, seriously? Right, and yet we have another poster who claims to be dating some 22 year old that is a model lol. You also have more looks, money and status than most men as well......seriously? This entire post is a clear sign you are a troll lol.

im not a troll bro. This is all fact, sorry to hurt your pride

 

[SmoothSmooth]

30s are your best poon slaying years. 20s are when you are awkward, busy with college, unsure of what women want, you have lower standards and girls are at the height of their value looking towards men with money and status (ie 30 year old guys or 1% of 20 year olds).

if you struggled with women in your 20s, you will probably struggle even more in your 30s. But if were decent in your 20s, you will do even better in your 30s

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

this is incorrect, as per my life - see my last post. WOMEN arent attracted to YOU, and probably weren’t into you much in your 20s either. age isnt the limiting factor. If you were taller, better looking; with better money, you wouldn’t be saying what you’re saying

The only time I struggled with getting women was between 13-16 years old, so I have no idea what you're talking about, except that I became more attractive with age. There are more men in their 50s who became more attractive to women after what you call 'their prime'.

But you are thirty and unable to step out of your own myopic perspective to see that the world is a bit bigger than your sandbox.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

The only time I struggled with getting women was between 13-16 years old, so I have no idea what you're talking about, except that I became more attractive with age. There are more men in their 50s who became more attractive to women after what you call 'their prime'.

But you are thirty and unable to step out of your own myopic perspective to see that the world is a bit bigger than your sandbox.

Bro you say women aren’t attracted more to guys in their 30s shows me you are just talking out your ass. Also saying you only struggled at 13-16 tells me you’re talking out your ass or dealing with low quality women. Nobody dealing with top tier women is gonna be fully ready at 24. You’re gonna make mistakes, slip up, break frame etc etc all things which are natural with younger age. A hot woman who is 24 will have had experience with older guys as a fact and as a 24 year old male it’s very hard to compete with that.

ALL THINGS BEING EQUAL, if a guy is Just as good looking at 24 and 34, he will get more girls at 34 than 24, by a considerable amount.

For a 23 year old girl looking for a hookup, a guy in his 30s is a safer bet - more experienced, has a better apartment, less likely to get attached/do something stupid etc
For a 23 year old girl looking for a serious relationship, a guy in his 30s is also a safer bet - more likely to also be ready to settle down, more money, more job security, more wisdom/relationship experience/leadership skills - have you seen most 24 year guys???

30s are win-win for men whether looking for casual sex or relationship.
40s are generally a more quiet period but age isn’tsole reason - it’s also due to changing motivation, less motivation to go out, party, date new people, low sex drive etc. However it can still be better than 20s if you really still care about dating new girls at that age. I’ve seen guys in early 40s that date bombshell 20s.

There is a huge various in men which is a reflection of many years of bad habits vs good habits. A metropolitan type guy in his 40s who is fit, runs daily, looks good, extroverted and charismatic, lives in an apartment in Manhattan is going to have a 10000000x different reality than an out of shape, divorced truck driver in tenesse who is 40 and introverted.
Now let’s say the first guy works in fashion or is a part time club DJ, or photographer…and had tons of sexual experiences in his 30s that made him confident…do you not think he’s gonna slay more 20 year olds than his 25 year old self

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Bro you say women aren’t attracted more to guys in their 30s shows me you are just talking out your ass. Also saying you only struggled at 13-16 tells me you’re talking out your ass or dealing with low quality women.

Sorry, I'm not going to join you in your echo chamber. You're too fond of your own thoughts to step out of them. Enjoy the sound of your own voice.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

If you have to ask. Then the answer is ‘no’.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Ok, and how many times has something like this actually happened to you and how often do you think this occurs amongst the general population of men around your age? Have you ever considered that maybe this was just an unusual event where things lined up for you, aka you were incredibly lucky, or do you think this is something you could regularly repeat? You were by chance at a bar where there was a much younger woman that by chance found you attractive and you had an opportunity to meet. Most women in this age range are NOT attracted to much older men. I don't mean this as an insult, but I also highly doubt you are some "Chad" type that is attractive, well over 6' tall, fit/muscular, etc.

It's great that you had an experience like this but it's not a good idea to encourage other men to think that this is something that is possible when it reality it's an incredibly unlikely thing to happen to them. I'm 33 and taller and in better shape than the vast majority of men and I had issues approaching women when I was younger, I can't imagine what the experience would be like for a much older guy lol. Vast majority of men approaching 40 or over it are NOT getting success with women if they are single, this is the reality that we need to accept.

I attract them consistently, that was an example. You're right, I'm not a Chad type as you describe. I just have great game and I look fit and healthy.

You're jumping to a lot of conclusions which I won't argue. Up to you how you want to think of yourself. I'm having fun, you can too.

 

[MatureDJ]

Sure, look at this old coot: