Background: There is a bar/restaurant I frequent, and most of the waiting staff know by heart what I want when I go there.
I went to the bar today with a woman (relatively decent looking in her mid 30s) whom I did not know besides being "friends" on Facebook. It was not a date, but rather an attempt by her to introduce me to a multi level marketing thing. I guessed as much before I agreed to the meeting, but agreed to met her anyway, just to get some social practice, if nothing else. Indeed, she admitted she had a scheme to sell me, but politely abandoned the idea when I told her I would not be interested in any schemes, honest or otherwise. After that we both had a fun time talking over a cup of coffee.
The waitress who attended to our table was very flirty - I had seen her a few times before, and the previous time a few days ago, she was again open and friendly, with a borderline flirty smile and eye contact, and reminded me that she had seen me before.
As we were talking and drinking our coffees, the waitress again showed up and asked for my name (and hers), and I got hers as well (matched with the name on the receipt)
. She then asked if she should call me formally or informally (the word "you" in some languages can distinguish between being adressed in a formal or informal way). She then asked if we are locals or foreigners (which was a strange question to ask, as we all spoke in our native languages), but the woman I was with reacted that she had been also living in Italy for a while, so I followed suit and told her that I had been living in Sweden for a few years. The girl then told us that she herself is 17 years old, that it is her first job and she is studying in Spain and is working as a waitress only until her school starts again. The woman then started behaving as a wingman of sorts, increasing my social proof. The girl then also asked for what we are doing (for work/living), implying that she was impressed the way I am always dressed, and with my ability (free time and resources) that I can frequent the bar almost every day, and that she had talked about me with her colleagues. Then some customers showed up at her counter and she told us that she should go and attend them, but it seemed as if she preferred to stay talking with us instead, and she said she will be back.
I also asked the waitress if she had taken a instruction on how to make the coffee herself (I had teased her on that the previous time), and she told me that she is about to receive the instruction/course right after she finishes serving us. She also told me when she will be working the next time, and when she gave us our receipts, she had written "until the next time, (and my name) ".
This all seems like an open invitation to ask her on a date, etc. But, I am 39 myself (albeit some people say I look 5-10 years younger), and she is just 17. What would you do in this situation? I obviously like the girl, and she has shown more grown up behavior than I have seen i some girls in their mid 20s and 30s. But the age difference, and especially that she is still 17, is a bit worrying... though I am pretty sure she will turn 18 soon.
Or is she just friendly? Because I tend to tip on the higher side.
I went to the bar today with a woman (relatively decent looking in her mid 30s) whom I did not know besides being "friends" on Facebook. It was not a date, but rather an attempt by her to introduce me to a multi level marketing thing. I guessed as much before I agreed to the meeting, but agreed to met her anyway, just to get some social practice, if nothing else. Indeed, she admitted she had a scheme to sell me, but politely abandoned the idea when I told her I would not be interested in any schemes, honest or otherwise. After that we both had a fun time talking over a cup of coffee.
The waitress who attended to our table was very flirty - I had seen her a few times before, and the previous time a few days ago, she was again open and friendly, with a borderline flirty smile and eye contact, and reminded me that she had seen me before.
As we were talking and drinking our coffees, the waitress again showed up and asked for my name (and hers), and I got hers as well (matched with the name on the receipt)
. She then asked if she should call me formally or informally (the word "you" in some languages can distinguish between being adressed in a formal or informal way). She then asked if we are locals or foreigners (which was a strange question to ask, as we all spoke in our native languages), but the woman I was with reacted that she had been also living in Italy for a while, so I followed suit and told her that I had been living in Sweden for a few years. The girl then told us that she herself is 17 years old, that it is her first job and she is studying in Spain and is working as a waitress only until her school starts again. The woman then started behaving as a wingman of sorts, increasing my social proof. The girl then also asked for what we are doing (for work/living), implying that she was impressed the way I am always dressed, and with my ability (free time and resources) that I can frequent the bar almost every day, and that she had talked about me with her colleagues. Then some customers showed up at her counter and she told us that she should go and attend them, but it seemed as if she preferred to stay talking with us instead, and she said she will be back.I also asked the waitress if she had taken a instruction on how to make the coffee herself (I had teased her on that the previous time), and she told me that she is about to receive the instruction/course right after she finishes serving us. She also told me when she will be working the next time, and when she gave us our receipts, she had written "until the next time, (and my name)
".This all seems like an open invitation to ask her on a date, etc. But, I am 39 myself (albeit some people say I look 5-10 years younger), and she is just 17. What would you do in this situation? I obviously like the girl, and she has shown more grown up behavior than I have seen i some girls in their mid 20s and 30s. But the age difference, and especially that she is still 17, is a bit worrying... though I am pretty sure she will turn 18 soon.
Or is she just friendly? Because I tend to tip on the higher side.
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